I just got home after a long day. Thirty minutes ago, I stopped in a gas station for some Tylenol and gum. As soon as I walked in, the clerk said, "Hey sweetheart." When I went to the counter to pay, he said, "You gotta give me a smile if you want this," and hid my gum away in his hand. "No thanks," I told him. "I'll just have the gum." He didn't ring up my gum and instead grumbled under his breath and lectured me about having a bad attitude. Interactions like this are beyond frustrating and belittling. I was not rude to this man, and I do not owe him a smile or outward display of happiness — I was exhausted and had a headache, but that doesn't even matter because I do not need to justify not smiling on demand for a stranger. Would he have held a male customer's items hostage until he smiled for him? I'm willing to bet everything I own that the answer is no. #stoptellingwomentosmile
The post I wrote about not smiling on command for a man who refused to sell me gum until I did has more likes (over 60k as of now) than any status I've ever posted on the Internet. It also has gotten more backlash from my own fans, followers, acquaintances, and even a family member than I have ever experienced. There are people who have accused me of being a shallow, vapid reality tv star, a diva, a liar, not a role model (anymore), and worse. The verdict? How women feel about being commanded to smile is somehow controversial and definitely important.
Okay ONTD I know you a lot of you have personal stories about crap like this lets talk about it