Cara & Mady On Growing Up Gosselin

Kate and Jon's kids – twins Mady and Cara, and sextuplets Aaden, Alexis, Collin, Hannah, Joel and Leah – were featured prominently on the now defunct Jon & Kate Plus 8, very little had been heard from the children who lived through the collapse of their parents' marriage and the ensuing media maelstrom.

Until now.

Twins Mady and Cara are speaking out for the first time about their family and what they've been through. Those who think the girls have been harmed in some way by fame – a group which recently seemed to include their own father – are likely to be disappointed.

“People expect us to be damaged,” said Cara, who with her twin sister Mady, turned 13 Oct. 8. “People think we’re supposed to be messed up, like, ‘Oooooh, the poor Gosselin kids, they’re going to be scarred for life, waaaaah’ … here’s the big news: we’re not messed up,” she said.

Kate said during the family’s roughest time, her martial split with their father Jon, her oldest daughters “felt it” and would “react to it.”

“Cara listening, Mady and I talking – it helped the three of us get through the ugliness. Things that happened with my divorce were hurtful, and there were many tears, but we got through it. They really are trying to work with me even now, when they have emotional moments.”

Regarding Jon’s serial dating during that frame, Mady said “the stuff I remember now is stuff that I didn’t really see anything wrong with that the time … but now that I look back, I can see all without really wasn’t a good thing.

“Like girlfriends, lots of girlfriends. Like, maybe it wasn’t so normal to have someone new, like, every week.”

Cara joked, “Every day, every minute, every second!”

Asked about their mom Kate, Cara said the 38-year-old mother-of-eight is sometimes “annoying on purpose … just to bother us.”

Mady said Kate is prone to mangle names and words to her liking, such as the phrase, “expensive.”

“Like, she says ‘spensive. I’m like, ‘Mom, it’s expensive. ‘Spensive isn’t a word! Stop it!’” Mady said, to which Cara joked, “She totally does that just to annoy us.”

Annoying or not, we can definitely say the 38-year-old reality star is a very proud mom of the girls, who tower over their six 9-year-old siblings.

I wish they were a little more innocent in some ways [but] they’re savvy, and they’ve learned things about the world and people’s intentions that took me decades to learn,” she told the magazine. “They’re more aware of their surroundings and can size you up with a glance. They’re nobody’s fools.”