John Mayer Cosmo Interview



Cosmo: Has anything changed about the way you interact with women?

John Mayer: I can get more out of relationships with less fireworks. A lot of people like to start a fire to feel heat. They're like "Oh, makeup sex is the best sex!" Fuck you, no it's not. The best sex is the decision by two people to just blow each other's minds...safely.
It's about learning about someone enough to want to blow their mind without blowing up their heart. When you're young, you love misery. But when you get older, you learn how just to have passion.

Sex on the first date: A bad idea John says.

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source: Cosmo (tryjm) and E!online

Cosmo: How do you know you are into a girl?

John Mayer: If I wake up in the morning and I don't get you a coffee or if I don't see you for a week and I don't want to figure out something to FedEx you, then we've got a problem. You can fake the words I miss you, but you can't fake getting someone a book.
Cosmo: What's the secret to having a good relationship?

John Mayer: I don't mess around or play games. I don't believe in them. I just want honesty. I'd rather wake up one morningand say "You know what? I had a really terrible dream that you were fucking somebody else. Can you just give me extra love today?" instead of getting in a fight about some stupid shit and then at the end of the day being like "Okay, can I tell you why I've been like this?" I'd rather say "Heads up" than "I'm sorry" later.
Your relationship is supposed to be a safe place.

Cosmo: Have you ever tried to make a girl break up with you?

John Mayer: No.I've thought about it, but I won't do it. You never know who's going to become a friend. As soon as I know I want to break up with someone, I break up with her. You'll always get the truth from me.

Cosmo: In all seriousness, how hard is it to date when your famous?

John Mayer: I just feel like if something doesn't work out with a girl, she has such ammunition against me-even if it was the most respectful, on-the-level coming together and then I realize that it doesn't have what it takes to run the distance. The woman has all the power to say "I knew I was getting played. My friends told me I couldn't trust you." It's such a scenario of me as a villian that I'm going to feel trapped with you because I don't want you to think that I'm a bad guy. I hate hurting people. If they could buy chemistry on the street in a bottle, I'd do it.

Cosmo: Have you ever done anything really embarrassing for love?

John Mayer: One time, I dated this girl, and we both expressed a mutual love of office supplies. I went to an arts-and-crafts store and bought a basket and some fake hay that you put in gift baskets. Then went to Staples, and I made a cellophane wrapped office-supply bouquet.

Cosmo: Do you have any innocent celebrity crushes?

John Mayer: None of them are innocent. They're all very sordid and nothing that I couldn't describe to you without a 3-D model.

Cosmo: How do you handle the scrutiny you're under as a celeb?

John Mayer: When someone writes "He's so fugly," I just laugh. It's funny! And then another person will say "He's so hot." I like when people don't disagree on you. When everybody agrees on you, that's when you disappear.

Cosmo: Do you have any other hidden talents?

John Mayer: I can get into anything, like training a hawk or learning how to fly a helicopter. I collect watches. I went through a blackjack phase. I'd like to learn locksmithing. Being more mulifaceted makes you a better companion, and would make you a better husband.

Asked who he would love to do a duet with, Cosmo gave him a list of women and John wrote in Alicia Keys. Furthermore he writes I never leave home without my American Express Card. Then proceeds to give the numbers on his card (Which cosmo blurs out).