Actress Lili Taylor, 40, recently sat down with h monthly to discuss her latest projects and upcoming motherhood -- she and longtime boyfriend, author Nick Flynn, 47, expect their daughter this month. In her 8th month of pregnancy at the time of the interview, Lili discusses her biological clock and lack of baby preparation
On her biological clock:
There is that. That is a factor, and I guess I didn’t realize how much of a factor that is. [laughs] I don’t know, it’s funny, I think women are in a new territory. I felt that the biological clock was some myth to keep me from doing what I wanted to do. And so I rebelled against it in the 90’s, I thought it was a backlash or some sort of faulty data. But it’s real. I’m glad I woke up before my body was just like 'uh-uh.'
When we were filming I wasn’t trying [to get pregnant], but I was dancing around it. Evolutionary-wise, we’re supposed to have them earlier, but I just don’t know if that’s still the same, I don’t know if our bodies have caught up to the new kind of deal. Women are working longer and wanting to have kids later. Maybe in 1,000 years our bodies will catch up.
On names for their daughter:
We’ve got a couple of names, but we probably need to amp that up this month, probably need to get moving on that one.
On if she and Nick are prepared:
Not really, no. I’m just trying to take it easy. We’re both just takin’ it easy, not getting too crazy, ‘cause it’s crazy enough, you don’t need to make it anymore crazy than it already is. People have been doing this for awhile, so there’s a little bit of something behind me and I can kinda just rest on that. I’d rather not prepare too much because I just feel like any plans I’m going to make will be foiled.
Man, right now I’m using her room to sand wood in. I’m just trying to get that room swept up!
On the first public place she hopes to take her daughter:
I love Central Park, I spend a lot of time in there, I try and get in there whenever I can.
On balancing family life with acting work:
I probably was a little worried about it. It’s very unknown. I don’t have any idea how it’s going to evolve. But I know I see other women do it and I know that they seem to become much fuller people as well as wonderful mothers, and it only seems to deepen their relationship to their work, so I’m hoping that happens.
I don’t think I’ll take a year off...I’m preparing to go back to work in May.
On her parenting ideals:
I could pontificate about all the things I think are important, things I would like to do but they would just be cold theories. I have a feeling I’ll only figure it out through experience. Two things I’m trying to work on are openness and flexibility.