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Kristen Bell on Dax Shepard, Pandemic Depression and Raising Anti-racist Children




  • She is the breadwinner in her marriage to Dax Shepard, and has no desire to coddle him about it. They also schedule sex and don't have a prenup.

  • She encouraged her kids to share their feelings but would remind them, "we have the luckiest life you have ever heard of. You have a swimming pool in your backyard."

  • Her mental health spiraled during the pandemic (she has experienced anxiety and depression since eighteen), resulting in her sobbing in bed until her husband confronted her. "Hey, real quick, are you helping anyone right now by sitting and crying in your bed, or are you just being self-indulgent? Either get up and donate money or donate your time or do something to help, or take that story in, give it some love, and come out here and be a good mom and a good wife and a good friend and live your life in honor of the suffering that happens in the world.’” Bell had an understandable response: “‘How dare you?’ But also, ‘You’re right.’”

  • She relied on pilates and CBD for coping, as well as knitting and puzzling. She also took a break from her "pod," which includes her Veronica Mars costar Ryan Hansen.

  • Speaking of Veronica Mars, she stands by the controversial reboot ending of killing off Veronica's longtime love Logan.
    "There’s only so long you can play out a love affair…and let me tell you, people were angry that we killed Logan. I’m still proud of the way that we did it. I thought we matured it. Same thing with Frozen II." Veronica Mars was not renewed for a season five.

  • After Dax's relapse on painkillers, he bought some drug tests and gives Kristen permission to test him whenever she wanted. When asked about smoking weed around Dax, she praises Shepard: “He’s just good at trying, and that’s all you can ask of anyone."

  • Bell and Shepard are united in a mission to raise socially conscious, antiracist kids in the privileged bubble of Hollywood. They've renamed hangman as fullman in their house to avoid lynching comparisons.

  • She feels lucky about not experiencing negativity in Hollywood and is happy people have found joy in her products during the pandemic.





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Being "proud" of blowing Logan up is an interesting take, but idk why I would expect anything logical to come out of her mouth at this point.
Like...the ending was so lazy and hated that your show, which survived fifteen years through the fans, was promptly canceled and you lost your loyal fandom. There is nothing to be proud of.
really appreciated how they took literally millions of dollars from their fanbase only to say "fuck you"
she always had weird dislike for the Veronica/Logan relationship

hamnoo

1 day ago

shangri__la

1 day ago

mooshki

1 day ago

I got spoiled about the ending and I'm glad tbh. I never even bothered finishing the season. I was already super annoyed how suddenly Veronica didn't want Logan to be happy and healthy and instead wanted him to be borderline abusive because it turned her on. I was like "Wtf is this?? This is not Veronica."

couldvelovedyou

1 day ago

she never liked Logan so yeah, she’d be proud of that lol
she is truly the worst. i lost so much respect for her pulling that bullshit. and standing by it? well FUCK you and your show.

did they also blow up a beloved character in frozen 2?
It was so lazy. I think their thinking was just having them broken up and grown apart the fandom would still be begging to have them together and prevent them from developing other stories for V... but come up with something more creative and interesting? And now you can't tell anymore V stories lol. Idk I really liked Logan as a character tbh and it was wasteful to just dispose of him.

It was truly a bite the hand that feeds you moment.
I'm so glad I spoiled it for myself, so I didn't have to bother with that last season. What a way to thank the fans for keeping the show alive for as long as they did. There's nothing mature about it, otc it's childish af.
That was such a shitty thing! And it made absolutely no sense the way they did. After just getting married?? And he was so in love with her and and had obviously grown up so much into someone different, more mature. Better,basically. And Jason himself obviously wasn't pleased with their decision. I loved Logan. He deserved way better
god they always sound so miserable
Relationships shouldn't be that hard
Didn't they have this gentrification scandal?

Good luck raising those anti-racist children you speak of.
Dax doesn't even understand the meaning of intersectionality and doesn't want to learn:

Jay Smooth ❤️
misunderstands something then goes on to call it dangerous. the fucking nerve.
lol dax has me blocked on twitter after he said cultural appropiation wasn't a thing and i was like????

then he went on about anti-irish racism


good luck with that anti-racist parenting u speak of

celja

2 days ago

pi_lady

1 day ago

And she fetishizes south asian men while being married to a white man.

They’re your average white liberal jerking off to how progressive they think they are. They probably watched get out without realizing that the villains are meant to represent them. They probably use woke unironically.

shangri__la

2 days ago

+ that time they talked about kristen having a thing for indian men and lusting after riz ahmed even tho he's not indian but pakistani

somebellend

2 days ago

arellaj

2 days ago

theactualworst

2 days ago

teacupkittens

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barbarbarian

2 days ago

snortingcoke

2 days ago

pi_lady

1 day ago

didn't she write a whole childrens book about "not seeing race"?

celja

2 days ago

Those face fillers tho...
Yeah, it will never not bother me how so many actresses act like it is some sort of crime to show any signs of aging.
Yeah her eyes were already small on her face but the fillers are making them disappear into nowhere
I don't know a ton about fillers but isn't there a risk that they'll actually make your skin look worse long term? Assuming they're the type that dissolve over time, I feel like I read that those fillers stretch your skin and actually cause damage that you can only "fix" by continuously getting them redone. And it's just a vicious cycle.
Depends on where you get them. Like your lips will never go back to their original shape once you get fillers. They essentially deflate so you have to keep getting fillers and also fill a little more every time you get them which is why everyone always ends up looking ridiculous.

I have genetically hollow tear troughs and I get them filled because otherwise my eyes look sunken. When they dissolve it just goes back to looking how it always looked. I don't stretch the skin beyond what it is though I'm just like adding a pillow under the skin if that makes sense. If you overfill you can run into trouble.

paceyringwald

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theactualworst

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paceyringwald

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theactualworst

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paceyringwald

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theactualworst

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paceyringwald

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theactualworst

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paceyringwald

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theactualworst

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paceyringwald

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abcdlovelife

1 day ago

theactualworst

1 day ago

rihaty

1 day ago

theactualworst

1 day ago

Exhibit A, Caitlyn Jenner:

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"Hey, real quick, are you helping anyone right now by sitting and crying in your bed, or are you just being self-indulgent? Either get up and donate money or donate your time or do something to help, or take that story in, give it some love, and come out here and be a good mom and a good wife and a good friend and live your life in honor of the suffering that happens in the world.’”

omgggg the AUDACITY. i would murder my spouse if he said that to me.
Seriously, it's such condescending 'tough love' bullshit. You can comfort and encourage someone and not be an asshole about it.
lol Ah yes, the old, pick-yourself-up-by-your-own-bootstraps approach to treating anxiety/depression. 0% of the time, it works all the time!
I would have been drawing up divorce papers the second his mouth stopped moving.
Right?! As someone who also deals with depression and anxiety I understand that after a while it makes it even worse for me to wallow in it but damn there is zero compassion in his response.
I mean, ok was she crying for the whole day and he said this after not participating in parenting for like 24 hours? then I might expect a little tough love, but this? holy hell.
their relationship sounds fucking exhausting every single day. but they've branded their whole image on how 'relatable' they are, so they will stick it out until it kills them I guess.
I mean, if his partner is having a breakdown he can parent for 48 hours. Along with his nanny.

sarahbear1

1 day ago

I've been where she is, and it's scarily easy to manipulate me when I'm like that. I'll take any crumb of advice if I think it will get me out of the dark place. I would've probably agreed with him too :(

I know she's also done some shitty things but this interview just made me pity her so much.
100% I can't believe that anyone's spouse would say that. I just couldn't be with someone who said that to me.
Bullshit, especially the “good mom and good wife” parts.

lyra_loo

2 days ago

I was listening to Dax's podcast and he made this comment about 'for the first time I realised my wife wasn't just this person who raised our children and that she was her own person and has her own needs' and I was like what do you mean for the first time you realised??

shangri__la

2 days ago

lyra_loo

2 days ago

Especially because she's talked about inheriting depression from her family, so it's not even situational like he's suggesting.
Wow. I read the full paragraph hoping the context wouldn't be as awful, but it is. It's because she was consuming too much negative news during covid and started spiraling. He's basically like hey either do something and help these people you're crying over or STFU. She says she realized he was right so she donated blood and money. It makes me sad that she thinks that's the answer when it doesn't actually help her deal with her depression at all.
He is such a fucking asshole to say that.
From 0 to GO FUCK YOURSELF in 10 seconds flat. How is it so hard to understand that when we're like this most of us have the tools to get out of it but we need time, comfort, and a fucking hug is all we'll ever need of you?! Jesus. I didn't ask for advice, you aren't a psychiatrist nor are you in my malfunctioning brain fuck off.

(this incenses me)
uhhh yeah lmao I was just going to comment on this specifically. as someone who's also dealt with depression/anxiety since I was a teen and the attendant guilt when trying to be functional in low phases, it's safe to say I would not have responded well to this at all. And I'm very pro-proactive coping mechanisms etc but this ain't it.
My moms fiancé is like this and that's why we don't get along. Both her and I suffer from chronic depression. We are both on antidepressants and probably will be for the rest of our lives. Well, at least I have come to terms with that reality.

He was depressed and suicidal ONCE, 2 decades ago and got past it, so he thinks that is how it is for everyone. It's infuriating.

I also suffer from addiction issues, and he is even worse at understanding that.

I relapsed HARD(alcohol; it had been 2.5 years) last summer after I found out my nana was going to die. We fought and he hasn't spoken to me since. He didn't even acknowledge me at my nanas funeral.

Fuck him and people like Dax.

whiterabit

1 day ago

gimmemoarjosh

today

chapter013

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gimmemoarjosh

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chll51

May 4 2021, 17:10:07 UTC 2 days ago Edited:  May 4 2021, 17:10:26 UTC

This part stuck put to me because like wtf... why would you say that to someome who's spiraling... like wtf...
i am fucking fuming about this tbh
yeah honestly what the fuck. when my anxiety got really bad over the pandemic my SO was super supportive and gave me a push to go to therapy like i've been meaning to for years and even offered to help pay for it -- he didn't basically tell me to suck it up. their relationship is....MESS
the fact that dax said that to his wife makes me soooo mad, and i am not even sure what to think about her sharing his lack of support.

my little sister is currently trying as best as she can to deal with her addictions and re-started psych meds this week and has not gotten out of bed in two days, and it just breaks my heart. i want to help her so much and i wish i could. if anyone has gone through anything similar, is there anything i can do to truly support her? I called her pyschiatrist just to check dosages (i'm authorized to talk to her), but she never calls me back.
This made me rage. Would divorce him on the spot.
RIGHT?! I read that paragraph waiting for the bit where he would offer support...but it never happened.
Depress and anxiety are not self-indulgent. That's like telling someone with mobility issues that they're just being lazy.
Yeah, that's right up there with "But you don't have anything to be depressed about" when it comes to shitty responses. All it's ever done to me personally was make me feel even worse for daring to feel unhappy when other people have it so much worse, which in turn just made the hate spiral worse, and I don't think there's ever any need to kick someone who's already down.
"Hey, real quick, are you helping anyone right now by sitting and crying in your bed, or are you just being self-indulgent?"

I hate him.
"Hey, real quick, are you helping anyone right now by sitting and crying in your bed, or are you just being self-indulgent?"

oh fuck all the way offfffff @ you piece of shit Dax

Honestly really like Kristen and enjoy her work, but god only knows she has dodgy taste in who she marries.

another wank.

I'm-

let us be united in our hatred for them
I'm always happy when ontd puts aside their differences to fight the common enemies that are Kristen and Dax or Justin Mayonnaise of the Woods.

gimmemoarjosh

2 days ago

That is not any decent response to someone crying in bed. Go and do something productive? How is that helpful to someone's depression??? Also she has to baby him and drug test him? That's not a spouse's job. These people need therapy and a divorce
These people need therapy and a divorce

They don’t have a prenup though.
i think they've said they go to couple's therapy but like...clearly not a good one...
They definitely do but in a way I feel like they're also meant for each other seeing as they're both massive assholes.
Their lives just seem like a performance to me.
a global pandamic is a pretty legit reason to sob in your bed
They've renamed hangman as fullman in their house to avoid lynching comparisons.

Omg I'm crying lmaaoo.
also. her eye makeup on the cover is how i look having an allergic reaction to the insane amount of pollen that is ruining my life rn. didn't realize that was an enviable look. she also looks like she can't keep her eyes open — is that the filler?
I appreciate that she is open about her struggles with her mental health and tries to be an advocate for getting help, but there is just *so much* openness from her that I feel like she must be very exhausting to be around. I used to love her because of Veronica Mars but the last few years have not endeared me to her (and the VMars love ended very abruptly because of that season 4 ending, jfc).
No prenup

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Well now we know why they’re so insistent on staying together
Or she, as she apparently the bread winner :(
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