Sorry... what? https://t.co/nXxlvDggLl— Padma Lakshmi (@PadmaLakshmi) August 11, 2020
I feel bad for Chris because his dad is an asshole. In middle school Chris will make fun of Neil for his jacket smelling like curry and Neil will resent it until he is 45 and won’t let his mother cook in their house because of the trauma. Fine Neil is Riz...😢 pic.twitter.com/beLMsTYRqP— Rizwan Manji (@Riz_Manji) August 11, 2020
My sense of “normal” white food was TV frozen dinners: meatloaf, mashed potatoes, steamed green beans, apple pie. I thought this was all very exotic and interesting. A cousin making me pancakes from a box was so exciting.— viet thanh nguyen (@viet_t_nguyen) August 11, 2020
I...what? Just...what?https://t.co/HrCEVmRvN8— ❄Mikki Kendall❄ (@Karnythia) August 11, 2020
"How dare you feed our delicate white child SPICES" is a new one for me, I must admit.— Soraya Nadia McDonald (@SorayaMcDonald) August 11, 2020
Unsurprising: Danny's advice is perfect. https://t.co/JfKKPM4KfG
Hey white parents: Please note that I’ve dropped kids off at your homes and heard later that you served them bologna sandwiches and Cool Ranch Doritos. I did not freak out to an advice columnist about how to deal with your culinary assault on my progenyhttps://t.co/bNThURI7VI— Jeff Yang (@originalspin) August 11, 2020
People are roasting a concerned Dear Prudence writer for being upset at an Indian couple feeding his son Indian food when he was at their house to hang out with their son.
Q. Inappropriate food: My son, “Chris,” is 9. A few weeks ago, we decided to open our bubble to include the family of “Neil,” Chris’s best friend. Both of Neil’s parents are doctors, so this seemed like a safe decision. Both parents were born and raised in India. We let Chris have dinner at their place the other night since both boys were having a great time together. When we came to pick up Chris, Neil’s mom recounted to me how much chicken curry and lentils and vegetables Chris ate. I couldn’t believe that they served my son spicy curries without even calling to ask us if that would be OK! I was taken aback and gently mentioned that spicy foods can be hard on small tummies, but it didn’t seem to register. Thankfully Chris didn’t get sick. My wife says to drop it because any conversation will look racial in nature and to only let the boys play at our place. Please help.
A: At the risk of taking the bait, you must realize that millions of people (presumably both of Neil’s parents, not to mention Neil himself) regularly eat lentils and vegetables as children in perfect safety. There’s something so grotesque about the infantilizing language of “gently informing someone”—especially when that someone is “two doctors”—about “small tummies,” coupled with the racist horror that your 9-year-old ate and enjoyed a few servings of chicken curry, one of the world’s most popular and adaptable dishes. Not all curries are spicy, and not all spices pack heat; your son ate a meal he enjoyed (one you didn’t have to prepare or clean up after ) and continued to enjoy good health for the rest of the evening. Neil’s parents didn’t take him to a ghost pepper festival and turn him loose. Your kid was not endangered by chicken curry, and your problem is not one that Neil’s parents can fix for you. Take your wife’s advice and let this go.
Do you flavor your food?