-Gabrielle Union speaks on mental health, infertility, and more in "Self" magazine. The photos were taken by 12 year old daughter Zaya.
-Union says her parents believed assimilation was the key to safety and happiness,but Union learned over time that the safety of assimilation was an illusion. Union:You cannot price your way out of, educate your way out of, move yourself away from racism,discrimination. All of those things exist no matter how successful you are. No matter how you speak. This idea of teaching our children to constantly be shape-shifting to make themselves more palatable or less scary for people who are committed to oppressing you anyway, no matter what you do. I rejected that.All I can ask my kids is to be good people, but not shape-shifting constantly , out of fear of scaring someone that's committed to being afraid.And also to be really clear about the fact that real friends don't need you to prove your goodness by sameness."
-Union says her husband realized he was using only early childhood footage of daughter Zaya for his documentary and they as a family United in supporting Zaya's social transition.Union;"You can lead with humility. It's ok not to have all the answers. You can legit say I don't have all the answers,but what I do know is that I love you, and I'm going to be on this journey with you, and we are going to learn together."
-In isolation Union has learned her husband solves puzzles from the inside out.
-Union says friends Kerry Washington and Eva Longoria have reached out to here recently to express support.
-Union on her infertility struggle and the 8 or 9 miscarriages she had. Union:"THe first miscarriage was fxxxing devastating and brutal.After the first one, I just...numb. Which is why I can't tell you how many I've had, because it's just one long loss.The first one is vivid;everything else after that, numbing,just long numbing pain. Just loss and heartbreak.And these feelings of failure, and feeling defective and less than, and rejection. It's like motherhood and babies were rejecting me."
-Union on self care.Union:I think I'm still trying to learn the difference between resilience and neglecting my emotional reality.Because they can feel the same,right?And one sounds empowering and one is the opposite.It's not helpful. And I haven't really been able to figure that out consistently.There's only so much your brain and heart and soul can take.And we need help. And I'm a firm believer in getting it. No shame. Union says she has a few tells when she needs a mental health break,like turning the pages of a script, but not being able to remember what she just read,"It's beyond spacing out" and to Skype her therapist.
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Introducing @selfmagazine’s June cover star, @itsgabrielleu! In this candid interview with SELF’s editor-in-chief @carolynkylstra, Gabrielle opens up about parenting Black children in America and how she's using her platform to effect change. https://t.co/eKdICMrz2C— SELF (@SELFmagazine) June 18, 2020