I’ve been silent. Not anymore! I’m used to being so transparent on this platform. I think it’s the main reason why most of you follow me. Today, I’m opening up about something that has been haunting me for the last week. I have felt like a complete fraud fighting for racial equality and using my voice openly here, while letting a white woman silence mine behind closed doors. In sharing this very personal story, I know that I am risking a lot. Opening myself up to criticism, bullying and potential ramifications with my job in this space. However, I must speak my truth. Enough is enough. Hopefully my voice will be heard by many and help change things for the next generation and for my daughter Maxwell... because I will be dammed if my child ever has to deal with this level of ignorance.
- Jessica Mulroney is Meghan Markle's best friend, stylist/TV host, and the millionaire heiress of a Canadian shoe empire. She and her husband Ben Mulroney (son of former Canadian Prime Minister, Brian Mulroney) are considered the gatekeepers of elite Toronto society. She has 404k instagram followers.
- Sasha Exeter is a black Canadian influencer with 58k instagram followers.
- On Wednesday, Sasha posted an instagram video titled "MY AMY COOPER EXPERIENCE". Sasha describes an experience last week where she despaired at influential people being silent about the Black Lives Matter movement, and made a general call to action on her instagram, urging influencers to use their platform to speak up. She did not call out Jessica by name, or mention her in any way.
- Jessica was offended anyway, and proceeded to block Sasha on instagram. She then sent Sasha a legal letter as well as several messages saying that she had a TV show to promote and "their lives matter too".
- Jessica then went a step further and threatened Sasha's livelihood and career, sending her a message that said: "I have also spoken to companies and people about the way you have treated me unfairly. You think your voice matters - well, it only matters if you express it with kindness and without shaming people who are simply trying to learn. Good luck."
- Again, Sasha did not mention Jessica by name in any way.
- After the backlash when Sasha posted her video, Jessica unblocked Sasha and commented with an apology: "@sashaexeter, you are right when you say "this shit needs to stop". As leaders, we need to join hands and call out wrongs. I know we have different experiences. And that is something, even in the course of a heated argument, I need to acknowledge and understand. I am unequivocally sorry for not doing that with you and for any hurt I've caused. As I told you privately, I have lived a very public and personal experience with my closest friend where race was front and centre. It was deeply educational. I learned a lot from that. I promise to continue to learn and listen on how I can use my privilege to elevate and support black voices."
- Jessica's "closest friend" whose experience with race was "front and centre" is presumably Meghan Markle.