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A Serial Homewrecker Will Allegedly be Exposed in Real Time on TV Next Week



Many ONTDers do not watch "The Bachelor," on ABC. But you might want to, at least next week. Why? Because a woman who has allegedly cheated with three or four married men will allegedly be exposed on tv next week.

Victoria Fuller was announced as a contestant last fall. Immediately afterward, numerous stories emerged about her wrecking the marriages of at least three or four of her close friends.

https://instagram.com/p/B7UcKVNhCnc


(this post contains spoilers for the show up to last week's episode)

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Ever had an affair, ONTD?

Yes
26(11.1%)
No
181(77.4%)
I plead the fifth
27(11.5%)


Any melodramatic drama queen cheaters in ur life, ONTD?

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I'm afraid the show isn't really gonna reveal the extent of what she's allegedly done.
peter will probably fall even more in love with her because he has a hard on for crying women and drama
Never had an affair but I was once the side piece for a dude in a long distance open relationship and I started having real feelings for him and I secretly wanted him to dump his bf but I knew it would never happen and then one time I hung out with him and his bf and it was so awkward and painful to see them together irl that I never spoke to him ever again bloop
I don’t watch this show but meh. Gimme something entertaining a la Flavor Of Love or give me nothing at all. 😂
i feel ya.
Indeed! Everyone should just tune into Brunch With Tiffany tbh. 😂🤷🏾‍♂️
I can't even hate cause these trash men cheated soooo
one of my best friends husbands asked me to have an affair with him. I was heartbroken to be put in that position, and heartbroken for her. she was actively trying to get pregnant at the time.

I never told her (I felt it wasn't my business or place, and I ran all the possible outcomes through in my head and NO outcome with me telling her ended well for anyone). it's not my marriage, it's not my husband. I stopped hanging out with her little by little and then completely. we talk every now and then, and blame the drift on the fact she did end up having kids (im single) and it's just what happens. but im painfully uncomfortable around her husband. I just can't fathom someone doing this to people over and over, I wanted to vomit even being asked.
i genuinely do not understand why you did not tell her/why you feel it wouldn't be "your business or place" given that (1) he made it your business when he propositioned you and (2) she was supposedly one of your best friends. if it's not your place to look out for her best interests (aka tell her that her husband is a scumbag before she is permanently tethered to him via co-parenting) then why would you even consider her one of your best friends.

i get that it's not easy to tell people shit like this but honestly if someone i considered one of my best friends kept that from me i'd torpedo them to mars. (i'd torpedo my partner to pluto, but still.)
Not the OP but I can say with some level of certainty that if she’d gone to her friend with this info, their friendship would have ended. The friend would most likely not have believed her and would have stuck by her husband. When push comes to shove this is almost always what happens, people double down in denial and prioritize their partner over even their closest friends because it’s easier to believe that your friend is trying to sabotage your relationship than that your partner could possibly betray you. Especially since you know the partner would also double down and deny everything, paint the accuser as crazy etc. I’ve seen it happen a million times. It’s not hard to see why, at the end of the day it’s a lot easier to sever a friendship - given that you probably have more than one friend - than it is to end a relationship. Especially a marriage, or a family.

damaliaraya

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sowhat_whocares

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damaliaraya

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sowhat_whocares

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milfordacademy

1 month ago

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felixdemarco

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metropolitician

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thelxienoe

1 month ago

sowhat_whocares

1 month ago

you dont have to agree, it wasn't a situation you were in and it didn't happen to you, so.

1. telling her would have completely destroyed her. she was going through a hard time not finding a job after graduating, not being able to get pregnant, and her self esteem was in shambles. I wasn't going to be the nail in her coffin.
2. he consistently made uncomfortable comments about me in front of her. sometimes she laughed it off, other times she got in a full on fight with him while I was there about him hitting on me. so he didn't entirely hide his intentions or attitude and she was aware of it. and thats what I mean when I said "it's her marriage, her husband, etc". it's not as if parts of his character weren't always there for her to examine.
3. telling her would have ruined our friendship entirely. she's a nice girl, and is very understanding and she would never blame me for something her husband did. but there's no way she would ever be able to look at me again knowing her husband was ready to throw it all away to have an affair with me, and I wouldn't blame her.
4. it's not ALL about her - I was staying with them at the time and he had me in an extremely vulnerable position to be propositioned, because I had nowhere else to go. I left anyway, but I had to go back to therapy because of the situation because ive been sexually confronted by a male figure who posed as my "friend/brother-type" before. and I didn't want the fact my best friends husband tried to fuck me as a narrative that would follow ME around. I didn't ask for this shit, either.

and telling her would...what? broken up her marriage? ruined our friendship? unfairly put a narrative on me forever in our circle? if i felt someone's literal safety was in question things would have been different. I didn't tell her, I don't regret my choice.

kanonot

1 month ago

crystalzelda

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sowhat_whocares

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crystalzelda

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sowhat_whocares

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crystalzelda

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dybbukzelda

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teenxwolf

1 month ago

sowhat_whocares

1 month ago

Well I mean it’s not your place to understand her relationship. I’m sure she had her reasons. Maybe her friend wasn’t in the right mental state to handle that type of news. Only she knows and she shouldn’t be ridiculed for sharing something personal or making a very difficult choice in her life. 🤷🏾‍♂️

sowhat_whocares

1 month ago

richyrich909

1 month ago

dybbukzelda

1 month ago

Imagine if her friend didn't believe her. What then? Women can't even get people to believe them when they've been actively assaulted and have video evidence.

dybbukzelda

1 month ago

sowhat_whocares

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thelxienoe

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dybbukzelda

1 month ago

thelxienoe

1 month ago

bb, i had a friend who had a husband who was a creep. she didn't know it. he hit on me. i felt so uncomfortable and it made me sick for months. they didn't have the healthiest of relationships and i just knew she wasn't going to believe me. or that it would do anything but hurt us, because she'd overlook it. ultimately not every woman leaves. when there is a physical affair, let alone the set up.

women choose their husbands every fucking day and the idea that people are being obtuse with you just makes me shake my head. i wish women walked. i wished women were always "internet smart" and knew how to react to all things at all times and fine being alone since lbr, the "good guys" are so few and far between everyone is putting up with some shit to be with someone. i'm a romantic who will die alone. i can't fathom putting up with a lot of crap myself. not even the huge shit, just so much bullshit that guys thing is fine and no, it's not. they ain't wife beaters or rapists but it's also like, can't i possibly find better than a non-abuser? people want to find someone to spend their lives with. women settle. women know the trade offs and make those choices every day and they are personal. millions of women picked having kids and someone who will help pay for life, with a man who wasn't worth it.

it ain't new.

I've been there, though i have a strong feeling mine wasn't as bad as yours, and in mine thankfully no kids were involved. alcoholism was, so trade off. but you know your friend better than we ever could, and you love her and don't want to lose her cause of a trash man, and you are connected now to watching those babies grow up and you care because you love her. you made your choices in a no win situation, and I get that.

i understand the tell them argument and in some circumstances, it's the right thing. but sometimes it's just not.

besides, the phrase 'Kill the Messenger' isn't just a phase. people get PISSED at the person who tells them shit. that's provided they believe you.

it would be really easy for hubby to go, "she came onto me, she's telling you cause i was gonna tell you. she's a liar. i didn't want you to know baby cause i didn't want to hurt you."

I feel for you. it's a no win situation.

sowhat_whocares

1 month ago

What the hell are these responses you're getting...? I had the same thing happen to me recently, but by my husband's junior sailor in the military. Thankfully I could go to my husband for anything, but EVEN THEN I still felt an instinctual need to keep that to myself, despite there being absolutely zero consequences with letting my husband know. Idk why, but I just felt kind of awful for the junior, knowing he'd be reprimanded for that.

With that said, I can't imagine being put in an awful position like that by a FRIEND'S husband. It's fucking unfair that he put you in the position to either risk your friendship or keep something heartbreaking like that to yourself, all because he's a conniving asshole.

sowhat_whocares

1 month ago

eeeesh thats fucking horrible. I’ve been in that position when i was younger, where the stakes were much lower, and i told my best friend that her boyfriend tried to kiss me. Things blew up in my face and i regretted telling her in the first place, even if I felt like i did the right thing.

Now that I’m older i would definitely not say anything. Like you said, it’s not really your business what goes on in that relationship and at the end of the day, YOU blowing up their marriage and her life just so YOU know you personally did the “right” thing is way more selfish than just keeping it to yourself and waiting for it to play out. so i agree with how you handled shit!

sowhat_whocares

1 month ago

The replies you are getting... People really can't help to judge others by a few comments they made

Anyway I get you because it happened to me, my friends boyfriend made lewd comments about me and it was obvious he wanted us to have sex, I never told her because I felt bad and because I knew he would make me the bad guy (even if it didn't make sense because I'm the opposite of flirty) so I knew the friendship would end, it's a shitty situation to be put through and I'm sorry it happened to you

sowhat_whocares

1 month ago

I am dieing at some of these comments. I feel like people go so far trying to be woke that the world is just going to end itself because nobody is capable of change, empathy or understanding.

It sounds like you were in an impossible situation and I don't know if there is a right way to approach things like this. Sorry this happened to you and I hope your friend gets away from him at some point. God knows guys like that always show their true colors.

sowhat_whocares

1 month ago

fernandocolunga

February 13 2020, 06:31:10 UTC 1 month ago Edited:  February 13 2020, 06:33:11 UTC

She’s very pretty though. Her hair is super gorgeous and I’m jealous of her petite yet toned body.

I got cheated on by a long term partner with a woman who knew he was in a relationship and she kept on pushing and pressing even when we were just trying to break up calmly and I cannot Fucking imagine doing this to someone else. I think you have to be selfish af to not even consider what your actions will do to someone else. Obviously no one owes you anything but just try to be decent I guess?
omg this same thing happened to me--we were already on the way out and realistically probably going to break up anyway, but this bitch was TRYING IT

she internet stalked me for like, two years, after the breakup, it was p sad, GIRL HE IS ALL YOURS LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE

now she's saddled with his kid and super fucking unhappy living in a shithole town but I moved abroad, travel often and am p much living my best life so I win
You win, lol! Fuck her and him.
Good for you!
lmao bless!! fuck those assholes
I've never had an affair but I did have a friend who was in a three year relationship admit he liked me. I shut it down hard and our friendship was kind of weird after that. He ended up marrying his girlfriend. It bummed me out because I thought he was such a sweet guy before that.
this is some trashy shit
and that's coming from someone who watches 90 day fiance
lol
LOL

adam_pally

February 13 2020, 07:07:12 UTC 1 month ago Edited:  February 13 2020, 07:08:21 UTC

I choose plead the fifth because technically we were in an open relationship but I just didn't tell him about it. I didn't really feel bad because before we even opened the relationship, he had been cheating on me and fucking his ex behind my back.
i completely misread this as serial killer, not homewrecker, and was VERY shook. ...i'm going to go to bed now.
lmao what kind of dating show/real crime crossover

“the bachelor: only one can survive”
I would SO watch this!
i would watch this.
For the two years, I've been trying to do better than past me. Past me was insanely jealous that guys didn't like me. I drank like a fish, threw myself at all the guys that were taken. . . thankfully the majority laughed in my face/ felt pity for me. The two that did, one was in an open relationship and I met the wife, introduced me "that girl he had been talking to and was of fucking." Then she closed it and I found out about it from my boyfriend (who was asexual but didn't want to come out at the time.) And he was okay with me fucking his best friend because I asked for permission.

And the other dude was oral sex and I fell into a depression. I've been sober for most of last year except for 1 relapse and this year as well. I'm hoping to keep the streak as I don't want to go back to that place of willing to anything to get someone to pay attention to me and get in that mindset that sex equals love.

But having said that, I can safely say that I've never tried to fuck a friend's boyfriend or girlfriend. I felt like shit once the Boyfriend said, "I'm angry because he never asked for permission as well."
congrats on ur perseverance! relapses happen, don't beat urself up
Thank you! and I did beat myself up for a while because all the gross feelings of shit I had ton just came out at that time. I'm working to learn how to love myself and not do that again. The problem is that I have a friend who is into people drinking and can't fathom that people don't want to and don't have a medical reason not to.
I’ve slept with a couple men who turned out to be married but I obviously didn’t know that or the wife in question so I didn’t do anything about it. What’s annoying though is I always found out after they’d already ghosted me or whatever so I never got the satisfaction of telling them to fuck off!

The one that kills me is this guy I went out with twice whose whole thing was that we couldn’t go back to his place because he had just got a job in the city and was commuting from over an hour away until he found a place. Fine, cool, whatever. In this city it’s pretty plausible. We hook up in his car like teenagers on the second date and it’s very fun but as he’s driving me home he’s veeeeery quiet and I’m like uh is everything okay? And he’s like yeah of course it’s great... but I’m too drunk to drop it so I’m like dude just be honest with me, I’m tired of men using me for sex but pretending they want more, like I don’t even care if this is all it is but I’m just tired of the fucking lies! And I get out and slam the door behind me - not my finest moment. Anyway the next morning once I’ve sobered up I immediately draft an apology being like hey sorry for being a drunk messy bitch, it’s cool if that scared you off but just know it wasn’t personal, it was a me problem etc. Then I see that I’m BLOCKED so I’m like oh wow this dude was really offended then. At work I tell the story to my coworker and she wants to see a picture of him, but I couldn’t find him on Facebook. I know his first and last name but it’s very common. Then I open snapchat later that day and his username pops up as a new contact (Linked to his phone #) and it’s using a different nickname than the one he used on his profile... so I look that one up on FB and lo and behold, his profile picture is him and his wife at their wedding (they were newlyweds) and it’s the same one he used on his profile with his wife cropped out. Welp

And in telling this story I went now to look him up again for the first time in a year and someone has commented on the pic with receipts of him threatening her over messenger!! Ilovemess.gif
Oh shit, that last part is wild!
Also in college I was hooking up semi frequently with a guy who originally lived next door to me but then became best friends with another dude I was hooking up with, whom I had some pretty intense feelings for and who jerked me around for the better part of three years. The second guy knew I’d hooked up with the first guy and was weirdly jealous and always making shady comments about how he had a girlfriend back home but I couldn’t bring myself to believe him because like... the first guy was the most sincere, reserved, studious person I’d ever met. The last time I saw him in person he slept over at my place, we didn’t hook up but stayed up all night talking and spooning, then a couple weeks later he tried to kill himself and dropped out of school. The second guy and I were talking about it a year later and he was like no seriously he has a girlfriend, I know her name and I know it wasn’t an open relationship. They’re apparently still dating, have been for nearly 10 years, and she seems like a nice person but last I checked her Twitter many moons ago she was still being very smug about their relationship and I’m like eek idk girl maybe it’s not the best move to lord over us single folks when your boyfriend was all too happy to pretend he was one of us for years on end
Thanks for letting me know what to avoid on ONTD next week. The comments here already are... interesting. Never change, guys 💋
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