Ava DuVernay is childfree (by choice)

March 12th, 2018, 05:53 pm

Ava DuVernay is childfree (by choice)

I talked to @ava about one of the most subtle, resonant threads in A WRINKLE IN TIME: Meg's insecurities about her hair. https://t.co/G4tdRrsBV3
— Kyle Buchanan (@kylebuchanan) March 12, 2018

The subject came up in a Vulture interview where she was talking about the importance Meg's hair plays in A Wrinkle In Time.

She wanted to portray a young black girl's natural hair as beautiful

Filmed the movie in the places she grew up because growing up she only saw them on film if they were being portrayed negatively

Says that despite being childfree she made the movie in order to influence young children in a positive way

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ONTD do you want children?

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ONTD do you want children?

I used to really envision myself as being a father someday but the older I get the less I care/the more I actively dislike the idea. I just want a partner to grow old with, idc about leaving my legacy or rearing any one else's life. It's just not me.

I'm 40 and guy an I'm just glad to pay my bills and take care of my self. lol

Late, but I've entertained myself with the idea a couple times in the past. It's been awhile for that, though. I had a great childhood, myself, but there are just so many sacrifices I'm not willing to make for the sake of motherhood. I don't want to have children if I can't love them the way they deserve to be loved.

I am also child-free by choice. No human babies for this cat-momma.

while ppl that talk like the lady are annoying I also have the feeling the comic was made by some loser who calls babies crotch droppings

Lmao right?

It’s extra dumb too because plenty of parents have their own lives and hobbies and travel and pursue their goals.

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Lmao, don't piss off The Oatmeal writer.

lol mte, next

crotch droppings is so hateful i’m cackling

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A mom friend I had for 20 years unfriended me (both online and IRL) because my friend shared this to my FB wall and I laughed. Lmao.

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I think this is what accidental parents tell themselves in order to not be suicidal, they know their life is over and misery loves company.

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LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!

my cousins got mad when i shared thsi. lol.

I'm not the one whose one domestic incident away from having my kids taken tho..

I want kids ASAP but finding a long term partner who wants that as well is hard AF. I feel like a ton of people around my age (29) actively don’t want children

I'm that age as well, and what I've noticed is that most of the people my age that wanted children, have at least 1 by now.

Yup. The people who wanted them have them and the rest of us are left hunting someone down lol

yeah it's def that weird age of people who already have their lives together and their families on their way to being started and total losers.

i'm your age and i'm starting to be like 'ok i gotta find someone before i end up a stepmother' (not that there's anything wrong with it, i just don't want it for myself).

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Childfree is a great choice for environmental reasons. That’s the reasoning I use in any case for my status.

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i only had one! i feel like any more than that is too much. for me, personally. dont come for me, idc

Yes! I’m going to start telling people that ask me when I’m going to have kids that I’m practicing population control.

if ur wondering why he offered to kill the child he's an assassin lol

Even if I wanted kids I don't know how I could ever afford one. Daycare alone is expensive as fuck.

I’m a nurse and for my son to go to nursery, I’d be working for free. He goes for “Nana dates” twice a week, and I have to work 7am-10pm to get my hours in 😑

Mte I legit don’t know how anyone affords it unless they are rich or have extensive help, like a co worker of mine has retired parents who watch the kids while she works full time

I was lucky that my grandma was able to take care of me while my mom worked and my dad forgot his kids existed.

At my work most of the women stopped working when they had a 2nd child because their entire pay cheque and some would go into daycare.

It’s definitely easier in other countries. I was shocked to see so many cool young people with kids in Berlin but then I remembered that they won’t have to worry about paying for college, etc so the cost of raising a child is cheaper

i definitely want kids, have tons of respect those who don't, esp. women who are under pressure to do so and forge a different path, but I find it hard to tolerate the ones who go out of their way to talk about how "gross" and "horrible" children are. like, that's a tiny human! i find that a lot in "feminist"/progressive circles and it makes me roll my eyes soooo hard lol

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I hate that too. I don’t get it at all. Kids are actually quite great if they’re being raised right

Agree with your whole post but I find that lately things are changing re: childfree people being nasty about kids. These posts were unbearable a few years ago.

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I don't want to have children but that annoys the fuck out of me, like cool, we get it, you don't like kids, you don't have to be nasty about it

mte. it's awesome that there are women brave enough to recognize that it's not for them despite how seemingly forced on us it is, but that doesn't mean they have to shit on those who do what children/children themselves. it's incredibly juvenile, like, grow up

Same, and the OTT hate for the children is so bizarre. The parents who think everyone should procreate are the assholes, not the kids.

I remember being around adults who couldn’t disguise their automatic contempt for kids and how uneasy it made me feel when I was little. There’s no excuse for it.

I totally agree.

Children are in fact human beings.

I completely agree. I like kids, but I’m just not made to be a mom. I’ve had a lot of people tell me that my life isn’t complete or purposeful because I don’t have kids, so when I was younger, I’m sure I referred to having kids as “gross” & whatnot, but now that I’m 30 & comfortable in my life and know that i made the right decision for me, I’m able to handle pushy people better without being snotty about kids.

I also have a niece and nephew. They are the best, so I’ve got my version of the best of both worlds.

yep. and most of the women i saw who said these kind of stuff were from the childfree movement, so i'm ngl that i was 'eerr' reading the title

but kids are gross and horrible

Same. Way to shit on the future women of the world.

kids are fucking expensive.

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but if we are going to show "natural hair beauty" can it not just be flowing curly 3a-3c hair?

(1) Not all mixed people have hair like that and (2) black women with kinkier hair do not get to see their beauty on screen as well.

Other than that...love everything.

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yeah mte. i'm mixed and pale as fuck and not even my curls are that loose. her being a lightskinned protagonist with flowing curls is so typical, yawn

thank you. i wont shit on the girl cos shes just a kid and it doesnt mean she cant feel self conscious about her hair, but her type of hair is actually the most preferred and accepted and least likely to be considered dirty or unkempt in public places. there’s a reason why the most popular natural hair youtubers are those who have 3a/3b/3c hair.

This is making me imagine Quvenzhane in this role.

I really love Storm, though Quvenzhane would have honestly been so good in this if given the option (and I am strangely jealous of her hair lol).

yep

I don't want kids. It's just not my gig. Something that bothers me, I'm getting a little vibe of from a certain sentence in this article. The 'despite being child free she made the movie to influence children' like that shit really makes it seem like all of us who don't want kids hate kids or don't want anything to do with them. That isn't the case at all. I like kids. I just don't want any.

If I could have it my way 2 bio 1 adopted or 2 adopted and 1 bio. I know many will disagree but I strongly feel as though there's no reason for anyone in the planet to be having more than bio 2 kids. lol. I'm one of 6 so. Of course im frowning on too many fucking children / breeders.

I do want kids but I don't think I want to start until I'm like 31 or 32. My fiance and I recently talked about leaving America and going back to his home country when we're ready to have kids because their social programs are sooo much better.

I’ll be trying starting next month so fingers crossed!

Good luck bb!

Thanks! I’m nervous that I can’t have any since we haven’t been using protection for about 2 years now but not actively trying to have kids and nothing’s happened so hopefully that won’t be the case with us actually trying!

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Good luck!

Good luck! My husband and I have been trying since fall and I’m not sure it’s going to happen since I’m old, but it’s been fun!

yas good luck bb

Good luck! <3

Good luck! :)

good luck bb!

good luck!

Good luck!

good luck bb!!!

I want kids.

[Spoiler (click to open)]Meg’s hair had different curl to it at the end of the movie. It bothered me so bad.

i want children with

lolbye 🐺

and the more i hear about the good vibes in a wrinkle in time, the more i really want to see it (and think i might actually get something important out of it).