*In the original trilogy, Han Solo was the ultimate heterosexual man's man-- women wanted him and men wanted to be him.
*Poe Dameron, who has drawn comparisons to Han since TFA, takes that to the next, toxic level-- a hot headed man who ignores the wisdom of the woman around and above him, to the extreme detrement of all.
*TLJ shows the growth of male characters (Luke, Poe, Finn) by having them listen to and be inspired by the women around them-- Rei, Holdo & Leia, and Rose all gave guidance to the men they were paired with.
*Kylo-Ren is the exception, rejecting Rei's guidance and pursuing a destructive path bent where he does not learn from his mistakes
*Basically women have to spend the movie getting the men to take their head out of their collective asses, aka real life
This article is so worth reading, and really helped me process what was actually being doing in TLJ.
Does your favourite series examine toxic masculinity, ONTD?