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Kirsten Dunst Wants to Be Pregnant By Next Year!



Kirsten Dunst wants to have children very soon. The 32-year old actress, who has been dating Garett Hedlund for two years, says she wants to be pregnant by next year. "I'm in baby mode because two of my really good friends are pregnant right now," Dunst tells Red magazine. "I think 33 is a good age to have your first baby."

The actress also admits that she feels pressure from people, especially her mom, to have children. “I get asked that question a lot because I'm in my thirties and it's like: time to get married and have babies, right? That's the vibe. Well, I already have a mother to ask those questions, so nobody else needs to!" she explains.

Kirsten, who sought help for depression four years ago, adds that she hasn't had any plans to get married or have children before because of her anxiety. "I'm sure one day, if I have kids, the anxiety of life will come back again, because you're worried about somebody else," she says.

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Have you ever known someone whose anxiety got worse because of pregnancy?
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bent_ley 11th-Aug-2014 02:41 am (UTC)
isnt she a heroin addict tho?
perznpoprietess 11th-Aug-2014 02:45 am (UTC)
former alcoholic. idk about anything else.
bent_ley 11th-Aug-2014 06:00 pm (UTC)
well one cant realy be a former alcoholic unless you mean shes in recovery
teamdowney 11th-Aug-2014 05:49 pm (UTC)
Yes, I don't know about former though.
sharktoothdecay 11th-Aug-2014 02:42 am (UTC)
all I know is I am never ever having children
fuck that shit
I got to focus on taking care of myself
bas_saarebas 11th-Aug-2014 02:46 am (UTC)
Gotta look out for #1 gurl <3
weatherstaff 11th-Aug-2014 02:59 am (UTC)
yaaas, you are speaking the truth. i can't even properly take care of me.
alexana303 11th-Aug-2014 04:34 pm (UTC)
Same
shanniesaysyo 11th-Aug-2014 02:44 am (UTC)
my anxiety was crazy when i was pregnant-- i couldn't handle watching scary shows or movies, or anything violent. i think it's calmed down since she was born but i don't know if i'll ever be able to turn off the "okay if Bowie and I were in this situation we would..." apocalypse planning i end up doing during anything stressful on tv in a movie.
i hate that at 30 everyone just expects women to start popping kids out.
magicdottie 11th-Aug-2014 09:34 am (UTC)
o.O I suffer from anxiety too (not pregnant though) but I've never realized the connection between it and avoiding scary/violent/upsetting things time to time. o.o
yorkcharlotte 11th-Aug-2014 12:43 pm (UTC)
Ooh I forgot about that. I love horror movies but couldn't watch it the first 6 months after I gave birth (not during pregnancy though.) I just couldn't handle it.
spiritstairway 12th-Aug-2014 12:23 am (UTC)
Both my sister and a friend of mine went through the same thing after having their kids. My sister used to love scary movies but just couldn't deal after her kid. We ended up watching The Conjuring one day at my place and she's been fine since. My friend still can't watch horror movies, though (21 months later).
bas_saarebas 11th-Aug-2014 02:45 am (UTC)
Well, my anxiety got worse because of someone else's pregnancy.

My cousin. He makes neon signs for a living and has three children and barely makes ends meet. The shop he worked for closed and he literally lost his apartment. His wife took their children to live with her folks in Michigan while he's stayed with his parents and found a new job. They manage to find a new place...and she's pregnant with baby #4 -_- When I last visited them two years ago, he seemed so done with life. Can't imagine anything's better 2 babies later.
celtic_thistle 11th-Aug-2014 02:48 am (UTC)
idek how people with situations that unstable feel okay having kids. It would give me so much anxiety.
bas_saarebas 11th-Aug-2014 02:50 am (UTC)
ikr like, how the fuck do you function at that level of stress? Never for me.
soul_amazinn 11th-Aug-2014 03:00 am (UTC)
Seriously I have anxiety worrying about just myself. I don't know how people in situations like that deal with kids and then they continue to have them. It's just making your situation worse.
redheadbynight 11th-Aug-2014 03:10 am (UTC)
same - I get not wanting to put your life on hold because you're going through rough times but if you know you're financially unsuitable for more kids then maybe don't have them?
mwffj 11th-Aug-2014 03:17 am (UTC)
Seriously, I'd be so stressed my vagina would be the Mojave Desert.
secretivexhero 11th-Aug-2014 03:21 am (UTC)
ikr? so selfish imo
my_moloko 11th-Aug-2014 03:33 am (UTC)
I try not to judge but I don't get how people in that situation aren't super vigilant about birth control.

Also, I feel that way about my brother sometimes. His wife got pregnant "accidentally" and he had to take a shit job that he'll be stuck in for the rest of his life. Now they're having baby #2 and while I'm kinda happy for them I'm pissed that he's going to be stuck with some shitty job that barely pays the bills.
soul_amazinn 11th-Aug-2014 02:46 am (UTC)
The title isn't even what she said
swissbeauty23 11th-Aug-2014 02:55 am (UTC)
mte
perznpoprietess 11th-Aug-2014 02:47 am (UTC)
i finally went from being one of those ppl that go "i never want kids. yes, i'm positive. no, i'm not going to change my mind when i get older." to, yep, i 100% want to raise another human being.
shanniesaysyo 11th-Aug-2014 02:56 am (UTC)
i did that switch. it was actually kind of hard to admit. my husband and i planned on adopting and we were really sure thats what we wanted to do. i was so against the idea of ever being pregnant, and had a bit of a phobia of pregnant women.
then i got baby fever hard core. couldn't think straight, dreamed of babies every night. it was hard telling my husband i wanted to change the plan (we were very far away from ever being able to adopt) because if he wasn't on board (which is totally legit, i was the one changing the plan) i would have been devastated. we talked, took a year to make sure it was something i really wanted to do and then another 10 months actively trying to get pregnant.
i'm so glad i changed my mind but understand that some women never do and that's a totally valid option, too. i'd almost gotten my tubes tied when i was 24 so i'm glad i lost my insurance before going through it.
being a mom has been a hundred billion times better (and harder) then i ever could have imagined.
bananasnrum 11th-Aug-2014 03:13 am (UTC)
I'm sorry
skizzylizard 11th-Aug-2014 05:29 am (UTC)
lol mte
secretivexhero 11th-Aug-2014 03:23 am (UTC)
Haha I went from "I want kids!" to "crap, IDK anymore"
devourlove 11th-Aug-2014 03:31 am (UTC)
same but i've definitely put children on the backburner all the same because with the economy and the carelessness of other parents (plus the fact that people think their kids don't affect other people's kids) i don't trust trying to raise children nowadays
elevatorshaker 11th-Aug-2014 05:40 am (UTC)
I'd be okay with raising one maybe, but still never no hell fucking no to pregnancy and childbirth. No. Ew. Ugh.
yorkcharlotte 11th-Aug-2014 12:58 pm (UTC)
Without trying to sound cliche, I'm so happy I had my son. I was never maternal, I loved my freedom. When I was preg (even tho it was planned) I hid my pregnancy for as long as I could and hated the thought of being called a mom. It's like I was ashamed of becoming a mom, I felt yucky. The thought of giving birth, breastfeeding all grossed me out. Even after i had him i secretly questioned my decision, i missed my old life and hated worrying about him 24/7. I didn't bond with him until almost 7-8 months. He's a year old now and omg, it's like all of a sudden he's a little person with a personality. he makes me love my life so much I no longer wish for my old life back. I'm having major baby fever for a second now it's crazy.
Sorry for my life story.
celtic_thistle 11th-Aug-2014 02:47 am (UTC)
Surprisingly, my anxiety got better overall during/after pregnancy. The first trimester was miserable depression-wise, and then I took Wellbutrin again for a few weeks, and it made my anxiety flare up. I stopped the meds and the anxiety calmed down and by that point in the pregnancy, the depression calmed down on its own. The first week or so after he was born, though, I was incredibly emotional; I sobbed hysterically pretty much every day for no reason. Hormones are insane.

Edited at 2014-08-11 02:48 am (UTC)
shanniesaysyo 11th-Aug-2014 02:50 am (UTC)
hormones ARE insane and pregnancy/new baby hormones are just off the radar of insanity. i was so stressed out in my final trimester. i couldn't do it again.
the_pinkdress 11th-Aug-2014 02:49 am (UTC)
actually i worry about having kids because i feel like my anxiety over them will be out of control... i don't want to be overprotective but i don't see how i wouldn't be... i know that i have to get my anxiety in check before i ever think about having children but idk, i am just SUCH a bad worrier.
yousaidlog 11th-Aug-2014 03:29 am (UTC)
omg this is exactly me.
its_debatable 11th-Aug-2014 01:06 pm (UTC)
Agree!
Part of the reason I am unsure is my anxiety and random bouts of depression. We have a dog that I love more than most things in my life, but when he was a puppy I was so overwhelmed and anxious with how much work it was, how I had to watch him constantly, etc. that my heart was constantly racing and I would cry all the time from the stress. I cannot even imagine that tenfold, which is probably how it is with a child.
my_moloko 11th-Aug-2014 02:52 am (UTC)
I think I'd be a very old school parent. Like yes it's normal to worry and it's even okay to worry but I would try to give my hypothetical kids the same freedoms that I had. Of course these days that could get you arrested.
swissbeauty23 11th-Aug-2014 02:54 am (UTC)
I struggle with anxiety/depression and while I think I'd like to have a baby someday, idk man...I'd want to make sure I was healthy and stable first.
sirlolsworthy 11th-Aug-2014 02:54 am (UTC)
me, because pregnancy could kill me

I'm on the waiting list for a tubal ligation but it's taking forever
shanniesaysyo 11th-Aug-2014 02:57 am (UTC)
I'm sorry you're going through that.
sirlolsworthy 11th-Aug-2014 03:01 am (UTC)
I guess I should be thankful I live somewhere I can get it on the public system because I could not afford it otherwise
xcollsangelx 11th-Aug-2014 02:57 am (UTC)
I used to love her, but I find her annoying now.

callista88 11th-Aug-2014 03:02 am (UTC)
I don't think I could have kids. Last week my dog was sick and I was having panic attacks about anything and everything at that point. My mom was a worrier about me and my brother and it drove me crazy - as in, if I silenced my phone during a movie and she texted me and I didn't text back, I'd have twelve voicemails and 20 texts and unanswered calls. I think I'd be the same. I'm going to be 26 this month and I still have to send her texts when I'm going to the movies because I know she'll freak out.

I'd be the same tbh. Or worse. I have panic attacks about my younger brother when my anxiety is bad, too.
sirlolsworthy 11th-Aug-2014 03:07 am (UTC)
yikes, parental anxiety can really mess kids up from what I've seen in other people.
gypsy_leerose 11th-Aug-2014 03:12 am (UTC)
Same here.
weighty_ghost 11th-Aug-2014 03:22 am (UTC)
I get like that over other people's kids. Like, I go for walks with my friend sometimes and her 2 kids (one's a baby, the other is 3-4) and I constantly have an eye on her older daughter as she's running around the park. I feel like if I had one of my own, I'd be way too paranoid.

Also, I don't care to have one anyway so it might work out for the best
thin2010 11th-Aug-2014 04:33 am (UTC)
Ughhhh, my mom is the same way. I'm sure growing up around a figure like that probably contributed to my anxiety disorder; I wouldn't want to do the same to my children (even if it was completely unintentional).
xtinkerbellax 11th-Aug-2014 04:46 am (UTC)
I didn't realize until a couple of years ago that my mom's behavior and constant immediate worry over small things was part of what lead to mine, because it was never talked about as being anxiety which it clearly was with her.
ellesmereisland 11th-Aug-2014 03:04 am (UTC)
My anxiety gets worse just thinking about being pregnant or caring for a child tbh. My cousin & his gf have a 6 pound preemie baby & they swear he won't break if I hold him, but I don't believe it. Kid looks fragile as fuck!! I feel best when he's strapped into his carrier on a flat surface, sleeping.
mario_06 11th-Aug-2014 03:06 am (UTC)
i have too much anxiety/depression to even force myself to go to work half the time.

I wont be able to have kids until I am in like beyond secure environment


it wouldn't be fair to the kids otherwise.
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