Emma Stone's interview for Seventeen Magazine (May 2014)




On dealing with haters…


“Sometimes it's really easy to shrug it off and other times, things have pinched more. I think most of us are like that, right? Someone lobs a snide remark your way, and sometimes you can laugh about it, while other times you can actually feel the sting. I'm actively working hard on learning to appreciate yourself no matter what. If what someone else says can easily derail you, it means your sense of self isn't that firmly established in the first place. It's an inside job. You're beautiful and worthy and totally unique. People insult each other based on their own insecurities—even though it may feel personal, it really never is. Really. Seriously.”



On body confidence...

“It can be really challenging in today's world for anyone—especially girls and women—to feel good about their bodies. No matter how things look from the outside, we can all be super critical of ourselves and of our image in the mirror. I've seen articles or comments that have addressed my weight, or ‘caving to pressure to be thin.’ Keeping weight on is a struggle for me— especially when I'm under stress, and especially as I've gotten older. That's the way my genes have decided to go, and things will change as time goes on, as does everything. So when completely untrue statements are made about me or my health, of course a part of me wants to defend. Thing is, people have a right to imagine what they want to imagine. My job at those moments is to tell myself the truth. Am I taking care of myself in a healthy way? Am I respecting myself and being responsible? And over and over, I answer yes to that question. Then I remind myself to be kind to myself, and as slightly ridiculous as it may sound, to treat myself in the same gentle way I'd want to treat a daughter of mine. It really helps.”

On staying true to yourself…


“The best advice I ever got was: 'stay irrepressibly true to yourself and be tenacious about finding ways to manifest the truest form of you.’ We're all meant to be here, and we all have completely unique perspectives and personalities and stories worth sharing. For me, it's important to never forget that. There's no use in comparing yourself to anybody else.”

On what makes her feel powerful…


“Wanting something, putting all my energy toward it, working hard and following through. New things I never knew I could do. Commitment. Making somebody laugh—there's no better feeling than that.”

On the power girls that inspire her…


“I have a lot of role models. I'm inspired every time I see or meet somebody who's living life on their own terms. People who break the rules, make mistakes, are curious, and who choose to grow up and evolve. People who spend their time talking about ideas and dreams instead of gossiping. People who find the humor in everything. People that are afraid and do it anyway. People who are brassy and loud and bold, or quiet and thoughtful and gentle. And most of all, people who refuse to ever stop learning.”

On supporting, not judging, each other…

My great hope for us as young women is to start being kinder to ourselves so that we can be kinder to each other. To stop shaming ourselves and other people for things we don't know the full story on—whether someone is too fat, too skinny, too short, too tall, too loud, too quiet, too anything. There's a sense that we're all ‘too’ something, and we're all not enough. This is life. Our bodies change. Our minds change. Our hearts change. Things are always evolving. I hope we can be supportive of each other and try to really have each other's backs, especially when we don't know the whole story.”


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so hard to stan for her when she says such great things and then turns around and works with woody allen twice smh