2:20 pm - 05/06/2014

Amy Schumer’s Talks About Self Worth

Yesterday we spent some time luxuriating in Gabourey Sidibe’s inspiring words from the Ms. Foundation Gala, where Sidibe taught us all some good lessons in believing in yourself. Turns out that confidence, though? Takes more than one great speech to really sink in. Which is why we’re also grateful to Amy Schumer, who also spoke at the Ms. Gala about her journey to becoming a confident, hilarious, badass lady — and on how it’s not always as cut-and-dry as never feeling crappy about yourself or the world around you.

Schumer’s main anecdote centered around her rocky transition from high school — where she basically ruled the school and had life perfectly figured out — to college, where she did not. And listening to her talk about her journey from a place of true self-loathing then to her life as a successful, confident comic now? And how bumps in that road are par for the course? Well let’s just say we’re grateful this Ms. Foundation Gala existed, because some good words came out of it.

She starts off in a place not all that emotionally buoyant.

All of a sudden, being witty and charismatic didn’t mean shit. Day after day, I could feel the confidence drain from my body. I was not what these guys wanted. They wanted thinner, blonder, dumber … My sassy one-liners were only working on the cafeteria employees, who I was visiting all too frequently, tacking on not the Freshman 15, but the 30, in record-breaking time, which led my mother to make comments over winter break like, “You look healthy!” I was getting no male attention, and I’m embarrassed to say, it was killing me.

As a result of this she dived into some terribly lackluster sex with a guy who didn’t respect her and who she didn’t respect. You can read the full speech over at Vulture (her descriptors are worth it), but let’s skip to the end of the sex for our purposes — because the world doesn’t always bend to your commitment to bettering yourself:

Now I feel strong and beautiful. I walk proudly down the streets of Manhattan. The people I love, love me. I make the funniest people in the country laugh, and they are my friends. I am a great friend and an even better sister. I have fought my way through harsh criticism and death threats for speaking my mind. I am alive, like the strong women in this room before me. I am a hot-blooded fighter and I am fearless. But I did morning radio last week, and a DJ asked, “Have you gained weight? You seem chunkier to me. You should strike while the iron is hot, Amy.” And it’s all gone. In an instant, it’s all stripped away. I wrote an article for Men’s Health and was so proud, until I saw instead of using my photo, they used one of a 16-year-old model wearing a clown nose, to show that she’s hilarious. But those are my words. What about who I am, and what I have to say? I can be reduced to that lost college freshman so quickly sometimes, I want to quit. Not performing, but being a woman altogether. I want to throw my hands in the air, after reading a mean Twitter comment, and say, “All right! You got it. You figured me out. I’m not pretty. I’m not thin. I do not deserve to use my voice. I’ll start wearing a burqa and start waiting tables at a pancake house. All my self-worth is based on what you can see.” But then I think, Fuck that. I am not laying in that freshman year bed anymore ever again.

And how she ends it is practically guaranteed to become one of the next big mantras worth repeating to yourself every morning:

I am a woman with thoughts and questions and shit to say. I say if I’m beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story — I will. I will speak and share and fuck and love and I will never apologize to the frightened millions who resent that they had it in them to do it. I stand here and I am amazing, for you. Not because of you. I am not who I sleep with. I am not my weight. I am not my mother. I am myself. And I am all of you, and I thank you.


the whole speech is at a source we can't use, but I hope this is alright mods.
fight4thislove 6th-May-2014 07:26 pm (UTC)
Love her and loved this speech. Amy is awesome!
onyxobsidian 6th-May-2014 07:29 pm (UTC)
So does ONTD hate her? I'm guessing they do because I can't think of a single comedian that ONTD doesn't hate.

Even Ellen gets flack on here.
montag_heidi 6th-May-2014 07:30 pm (UTC)
probably. she makes race and rape jokes
bostongirl2003 6th-May-2014 07:31 pm (UTC)
she had a weird answer for why she includes rape jokes in her stand up, but I don't remember anything about her beyond that.
shelostcontro1 6th-May-2014 07:52 pm (UTC)
what is it?
tx5mym5 6th-May-2014 07:35 pm (UTC)
Wanda Sykes and Tig Notaro are safe.
kdvn 6th-May-2014 08:24 pm (UTC)
I've seen plenty of Wanda hate on here.
tx5mym5 6th-May-2014 09:04 pm (UTC)
Well, fuck those losers. Who cares what they think?
morgan90 6th-May-2014 07:39 pm (UTC)
Yes because it's easier to blame 'white feminists' (aka ONTD's favorite strawperson, alongside 'white gays') for patriarchy than it is to actually be self-reflexive and confront the sexism that they personally perpetuate/are complicit in
cheekymonkeyboo 7th-May-2014 05:12 am (UTC)
most of the ppl commenting on ONTD are probally victims of sexism plus its ONTD. lol how can you take most of the things seriously. this isnt the breeding ground for serious convo.
hammersxstrings 6th-May-2014 07:44 pm (UTC)
i wasn't sure. I'm honestly not a huge fan, i'm kind of indifferent to her mostly, but with all the shitty feminist news of the past couple days, I thought something like this may be refreshing...
montag_heidi 6th-May-2014 07:30 pm (UTC)
i always thought she was obnoxious and shitty at roasts but her show is amazing

peggybundy 6th-May-2014 07:52 pm (UTC)
abortions 6th-May-2014 08:28 pm (UTC)
mte her show is hilarious
dangerbuffalo 6th-May-2014 09:03 pm (UTC)
yeah I do not like her standup, but honestly, her TV show is great
principino 6th-May-2014 07:32 pm (UTC)
I watched her show and I'm conflicted. I like what she has to say about sex and sexual dynamics, but her racial humor makes me uncomfortable, for what that's worth as a white person. I'm talking specifically about her sexy Latina bit she had recently.
principino 6th-May-2014 07:34 pm (UTC)
ETA: I've only seen one episode and there weren't rape jokes in that ep. I don't like rape jokes and don't think they "work" in any context.
should 6th-May-2014 08:06 pm (UTC)
I watched her special (mostly sex stuff) and she had a lot of race stuff in there as well - something about only wanting to date a 'real' black guy(i.e. an unemployed one with a street-name or w/e) as well as some other stuff.
ohprecioustime 6th-May-2014 07:35 pm (UTC)
love her but still can't over Gabby's speech....probably one of the best I have ever read...wish it was filmed and became viral
hammersxstrings 6th-May-2014 07:43 pm (UTC)
i was going to post that with it, but it got posted already. SO GOOD. i hadn't even heard of this event until one of my friends posted about this on my FB newsfeed....
ohprecioustime 6th-May-2014 07:48 pm (UTC)
sad that post was angled as wank bait post with an unflattering picture and everyone ignored the speech :(

hammersxstrings 6th-May-2014 07:54 pm (UTC)
i saw that :( which kind of proved her point, right? it was a wonderful speech tho
flawlessa 6th-May-2014 08:31 pm (UTC)
killerlooks 6th-May-2014 07:38 pm (UTC)
I'm honestly confused she found people more shallow in college than highschool...
ohprecioustime 6th-May-2014 07:51 pm (UTC)
same experience tbh, I think ppl in my highschool were still children tbh and were not as aware of looks...maybe cuz I went to a poor ass school but college is where everyone stepped up their game looks wise and became ten times more shallow...
backtoblack 6th-May-2014 07:40 pm (UTC)
I don't mind her, but I also am not expecting sociological nuance from comedians anymore. If someone is cool with feedback and doesn't get overly defensive when someone critiques, I can handle stuff in poor taste. I think the only thing close to an intersectional comedian we've got right now is Hari Kondabolu.
montag_heidi 6th-May-2014 08:30 pm (UTC)
lol i saw that hari dude and i was like wow omg a comedian built for ontd. he's not funny at ALL though imo
backtoblack 6th-May-2014 08:52 pm (UTC)
I appreciate what he has to say, but he's going to have a very limited audience of sociology PhD holders. I think he'd be better interviewing people/making documentaries rather than doing standup.
supertex 6th-May-2014 07:47 pm (UTC)
i didn't hear about gabby's speech.
Oh my God, I’m going to catch fat! LOOOOOL

i saw amy's standup a couple years ago. it was hilarious. it was made all the better because she wasn't feeling well, so she didn't look very good, and she would rag on herself from time to time.
shelostcontro1 6th-May-2014 07:50 pm (UTC)
anyone else read the article on thought catalogue that accused her of raping that man? I CANT
hammersxstrings 6th-May-2014 07:56 pm (UTC)
i honestly almost really don't want to ask, but damn my natural, sadistic curiosity...
hammersxstrings 6th-May-2014 08:09 pm (UTC)
why did i read the comments


'let's take an empowering speech about being a strong woman who believes in herself and makes it about us!!!'

if it were rape-if she had gone over there knowing he was drunk, and made him lay down and climbed on top of him while he lay, unresponsive, then it's rape. pretty sure him pushing his flaccid dick against her thigh while she lay there still doesn't constitute that
persian_freak 6th-May-2014 08:15 pm (UTC)
oh my fucking god
dangerbuffalo 6th-May-2014 09:06 pm (UTC)

sounds like he was putting stuff inside her too, implying there was consent? especially since he invited her over under the pretext of getting fucked? but idk it's still messy
microminiscrew 6th-May-2014 08:18 pm (UTC)
All I know about her is that she ripped off a Madtv sketch
mjgchick she fucked Dolph Ziggler 6th-May-2014 08:42 pm (UTC)
And dumped him because he exhausted her. I can't.
bardotlashes 6th-May-2014 11:57 pm (UTC)
Her speech convinced me to start watching her show, which is hilarious--I'm officially a fan.
londonshowers 7th-May-2014 12:46 am (UTC)
this woman's face is all over the subways
arnaudian 7th-May-2014 01:38 am (UTC)
she's got a really annoying face i cant explain it
prophecypro 7th-May-2014 04:24 am (UTC)
Shes kind of a terrible comedian
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