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Is Ben Affleck struggling with addictions again?

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Affleck arriving at a massage therapist's office recently with wife Jennifer Garner

LaineyGossip is strongly hinting that Ben Affleck has relapsed and is struggling with alcohol, prescription pill and gambling addictions.

The gossip blogger claims that, while there were already "signs," trouble really began when Affleck hurt his back while on a ski vacation in late 2013 and began to self-medicate. While wife Jennifer Garner "really tries to take care of him," Affleck is "messy" while attending Hollywood functions alone: "There have been times lately where he's been so drunk, he's the dude passed out on the couch when everyone else has gone home. Either that or he's the dude who's all over the tall, attractive model type."

Affleck previously admitted himself to rehab in August 2001, with his publicist commenting: "Ben is a self-aware and smart man who has decided that a fuller life awaits him without alcohol." In the week leading up to his admission to the Promises centre in Malibu, Affleck won $800,000 (and tipped waitresses and dealers a total of $150,000) while playing blackjack at the Hard Rock Hotel and Casino during a Las Vegas trip with Matt Damon. Damon was later staying at Affleck's LA home when he made the decision to seek help for his addictions.

His 2001 rehab visit wasn't his first public reference to alcoholism. In a 1998 interview with USA Weekend, Affleck declared he had quit drinking: "I started regretting some things I did when I was drunk. It's funny to be obnoxious or out of control, but then it's like, 'I think I hurt that person's feelings. I made a fool of myself' or 'I didn't want to kiss that girl' ... Now it's kind of depressing to be bombed at 3 in the morning."

Affleck's own father struggled with alcoholism and gambling. His parents split when he was 11 and his father's life "sort of hit the skids when I was in my teens. It was difficult. When one's parent is an alcoholic, it's hard. It was a little scary and trying ... He sort of wrecked his life really badly. There was that model there for me of failure. Me feeling like, “I’m not going to do that. I’m not going to be him.'

Affleck based the character of an underachieving therapist (played by Robin Williams) in Good Will Hunting on his father, a "very gifted writer and thinker" who once worked alongside Dustin Hoffman and Robert Duvall in a Boston theatre company: "He had a lot of tragedy in his family, a lot of pain, and he drank to ease some of that pain. Once you start drinking too much, it's hard to fulfil your ambitions. He became a pretty serious alcoholic. He's sober now. He's been sober for 20 years, and I think it's incredibly admirable. But when he was drinking, he fell apart. My mom kicked him out, and then he was kicking around and living on the street."

His father's gambling also led to unpredictability: "At the end of the football season, there would either be tough times or we'd get a VCR."

Affleck has said these family problems led to issues at school: "I was a bit of a fuck-up. I got really good grades until the last two years, and then I didn't. I was having issues around my dad and my mom, and things just weren't that stable - though that puts the responsibility on them, when really I just lost focus and stopped caring."

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alfendi 5th-May-2014 06:54 pm (UTC)
Alcoholism is so fucking horrible. :(
syvlie0o0 5th-May-2014 06:55 pm (UTC)
I don't doubt that Lainey has ~inside info~ sometimes, but the way she writes makes me want to stick a screwdriver in my brain.
therearewords 5th-May-2014 06:56 pm (UTC)
Anything to move that release date for "good" reason, amirite?

Okay, ONTD made me a horrible person.
electricknight 5th-May-2014 06:57 pm (UTC)
I really hope this isn't true.
viudanegra 5th-May-2014 06:57 pm (UTC)
Wait. This is how he looks right now? Isn't he supposed to look better to play Batman?
buffy_usa 5th-May-2014 07:12 pm (UTC)
looks to me like maybe his back (allegedly) hurts and he's playing it up but his looks appear normal + wind blowing

this lainey gossip seems over the top but most tab media hate him but love succubus jgar

I also don't get ben and jlo references I mean damn move on already they dated they broke up it was a long time ago

crazyfirecrotch welp5th-May-2014 06:57 pm (UTC)


remember cartman gave ben a hand job.
vanhrh Re: welp5th-May-2014 07:02 pm (UTC)
taco flavored kisses for my Ben

Edited at 2014-05-05 07:02 pm (UTC)
kknee13 5th-May-2014 06:57 pm (UTC)
Wasn't he supposedly sneaking around with Blake lively when they were filming the town
ms_mmelissa 5th-May-2014 06:59 pm (UTC)
Yup. People thought that the not blake lively nude pics were sent to him.
electricknight 5th-May-2014 07:03 pm (UTC)
And people say she's nothing like Serena.
thewhowhatwhats 6th-May-2014 04:50 am (UTC)
Yep. There were lots of rumors in the magazines about Ben and Jen's marriage being in trouble at that time and lots of blind items about him and Blake.
reasontorhyme 5th-May-2014 06:58 pm (UTC)
Long and short of it, yes, probably.

Please let Batman and Superman just be a convenient cover for a Wonder Woman movie.


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lr489 5th-May-2014 06:59 pm (UTC)
remember when ben went to promises and all was forgotten?
fakevoices 5th-May-2014 07:02 pm (UTC)
hopefully he is not
ontd would you be able to go out with a recovering addict?
saintssin 5th-May-2014 07:05 pm (UTC)
Nope. That may sound selfish, but all it takes is one relapse to put both of us at risk. And considering both sides of my family have sobriety issues, I wouldn't want to be part of that world.
alfendi 5th-May-2014 07:13 pm (UTC)
I don't think so, other than an ex-cigarette addiction. I wouldn't want to be responsible for someone's well-being if they were in that kind of situation.

I have dated guys that had serious alcohol problems as teenagers, but were completely clean and sober (and had already gone through and would still keep with AA) by the time I met them in our mid twenties. It was fine then but they were really serious about staying away from alcohol completely (which I really respect them for if it's what works for them), and I don't know if I would be able to do that for like my entire life.
thesilverymoon 5th-May-2014 07:17 pm (UTC)
They'd have to of been clean for a long ass time and would have to of totally removed themselves from their earlier negative influences. They would also have to accept that the second I got wind of them using again they'd either go straight back to rehab or I'd leave them.
I know that sounds callous, but I've been around too many addicts in my life to want to play that game again.

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muzicnem 6th-May-2014 02:49 am (UTC)
This. I'd be the same way.
scullies 5th-May-2014 07:17 pm (UTC)
Yes, particularly if they had been clean for an extended period of time.
0513 5th-May-2014 07:18 pm (UTC)
No. My little brother is a heroin addict (sober now), and I just can't with the lying, sneaking around, stealing, etc.
treegrowth 5th-May-2014 07:20 pm (UTC)
i dated a recovering alcoholic and narcotics addict once. we were together for only 4 months and even though we were intensely attracted to each other, it got too hard. i was only 20/21 at the time though, and i just did not have the emotional stability or maturity to help them deal with their adjustment into sobriety while maintaining a healthy romantic relationship. quite frankly, neither did they. i was the first "non-addict" they had ever been with and i think even though that sounds good on paper, it was strangely weird/hard for them.
that being said, i would now, but only because i am older and secure with myself, and they would have to have been clean and sober for at least 5+ years. i grew up around addicts/alcoholics myself, and while i have seen the strength and courage of sober people, the addict side still frightens me. i would need that part of them to have been proven to be under control for awhile. i hope that doesn't sound too insensitive.

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syphilisdiller 5th-May-2014 07:25 pm (UTC)
They would have to be clean for at least 3 years. It's a completely arbitrary amount of time, but for me it's long enough to show that they can get a hold of themselves, but it's not too long where I'm refusing to give anyone who has had trouble in their past a chance.
senorita__ 5th-May-2014 07:36 pm (UTC)
i don't think so, i have my vices too and maybe it's selfish but i wouldn't be able to give up my lifestyle for someone else

i also am happily in a relationship right now so i can't honestly say i would feel the same if i was single and looking to start a relationship
nashiouji 5th-May-2014 07:39 pm (UTC)
if he was willing to put up with my baggage
lcacbc 5th-May-2014 07:40 pm (UTC)
It depends what addition. Addicted to cigarettes is one thing, but addicted to heroin is another. I don't think I'd have the patience or understanding tbh
reesespears 5th-May-2014 07:51 pm (UTC)
Probably not, I like corrupting people but I wouldn't do it to an addict.
sihaya09 5th-May-2014 08:08 pm (UTC)
If I'm being totally honest, likely no. I mean, there's always the chance that there could be an exception, but I would feel guilty drinking even socially around a recovering alcoholic, and as rarely as I do it, I still wouldn't want to give up getting tipsy now and again.
holyfrijoles_2 5th-May-2014 08:25 pm (UTC)
If they're in a good place, have been sober for a decent amount of time, and emotionally secure in their sobriety I don't see why not. I don't think I could ever be involved with an active addict, I have some friends who have done that and it was incredibly emotionally (and physically at times) taxing on them.
wristtattoos 5th-May-2014 08:30 pm (UTC)
no, ive seen how addicts are and i have no desire to have that in my life.
hauntao 5th-May-2014 10:49 pm (UTC)
wow, some of these responses are disheartening

I know as a recovering addict I'm not even close to prepared to be with someone, but there are a lot of people out there with addictive behaviors who claim to not be addicted

I'd at least rather have someone who admits it
hangthemj 6th-May-2014 02:44 am (UTC)
It would depend on how long they had been sober. I was spending a lot of time with a guy who was in recovery off and on and when he would relapse it was just so gut wrenching for me. That sounds really self involved but I like to try and fix people (which is a terrible habit in and of itself) and to see that repeatedly not work out was really hard.

That being said, I've got my fair share of past baggage so I always want people to give me the benefit of the doubt on that, so I feel like it ought to go both ways.
tellmeimawreck 5th-May-2014 07:02 pm (UTC)
That's sad if it's true :/
elekto 5th-May-2014 07:03 pm (UTC)
We all know why such things happen. Train has left the station, the ship has sailed. JLO moved ON!

electricknight 5th-May-2014 07:04 pm (UTC)
So supa good and yummy
senorita__ 5th-May-2014 07:37 pm (UTC)
taco taco, burrito burrito!
ellaellaeheheh 5th-May-2014 07:03 pm (UTC)
I believe it because he looked so bad during award season this year.
Hope he recovers if its true.
xcollsangelx 5th-May-2014 07:03 pm (UTC)
Yikes.

saintssin 5th-May-2014 07:03 pm (UTC)
He seems like a decent, talented guy. I hope things work out for him. Alcoholism is awful, and you tend to hurt the people that mean the most to you when impacted by it. IF this is true, I hope his marriage lasts, though I wouldn't blame Jen for leaving.
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