Dean McDermott: AdulTori Edition

Gunshot Wound: Hospital/Infidelity: Sex Rehab

It was Tori Spelling's worst nightmare come true: her husband, and father of her four children, Dean McDermott, was suddenly the center of cheating rumors.

And as reports began to surface that their relationship was on the rocks, a source close to the couple tells PEOPLE they scrambled to make a major move in hopes of saving the life they had worked hard to build together.

"What other options did they have? They'd already tried therapy, so it had to be something drastic," the source says.

That move came on Thursday when McDermott, 47, told PEOPLE in an exclusive statement that he had voluntarily checked into rehab "to address some health and personal issues."

McDermott's decision to seek treatment has given Spelling the chance she needed to begin healing.

"He's now willing to be treated. It's something that he can't control," the source says. "It gives her a chance to understand why he did this and to not take it personally."

But in this case, despite McDermott's determination to keep his family intact, time may not heal all wounds. According to the source, Spelling, 40, is facing a long journey toward forgiveness.

"Him going to rehab is like providing aid to a gushing wound," the source says. "It's going to stop the bleeding right now, but it's going to take a long time to heal and there will be scars that will never go away."

Tori Spelling was so upset over reports that Dean McDermott had cheated on her in Toronto with 28-year-old Emily Goodhand that she secretly hired a private detective to investigate her husband, who had been out of town for an extended period, promoting his cooking show, Chopped Canada.

Now, Star has learned, the P.I.’s report has come in — and Tori is horrified. After reading it, she now fears that Dean has not only been taking her money for years, but that he’s cheated on her repeatedly — with both women and men. “Tori is absolutely shell-shocked,” a family friend tells Star. “She’s in so much pain. Now, she’s terrified that the loving marriage she thought she shared with Dean was built on lies and deception. She doesn’t know where to turn.”

Though a part of her still wants to believe that her husband has done no harm, Tori’s fears have now made divorce a very real possibility. “She’s finally considering it,” the friend says, and even though she’s worried about the effect it would have on her four children, she’s scared that if her suspicions prove correct, she may have no other choice. “Her whole world is crumbling. She’s suffering. Tori never thought that Dean would turn out to be a cheating, thieving husband.”

But while Tori’s friend says she believes her husband has a sex addiction, she’d thought it was under control. As upset as she was when [Emily Goodhand came forth], Tori was trying to believe that Goodhand wasn’t telling the truth, or at the very worst, that her loving husband had made a one-time mistake.

But now, Tori’s hopes have been dashed. According to the friend, she now suspects that Dean’s fling was one of many — and that he’d betrayed her, repeatedly, with both sexes. “Never in her wildest dreams did Tori believe Dean was cheating with men,” the friend says.

Veering between disbelief and overwhelming anger, Tori has tried confronting Dean, the friend says. But he only makes matters worse by refusing to talk about whether he’s been unfaithful. “He won’t discuss his cheating behavior with her,” the friend says. “He either argues with her about her lack of trust, or he just flat-out ignores her.”

According to the friend, Tori now thinks it’s possible that Dean — a known partier with an off-and-on acting career — has spent much of her savings. “She’s terrified that he’s been doing it for years. It looks like he’s been using the money to party with his low-life friends. He’s nowhere near the man she raved about on her reality shows. She’s afraid Dean will swindle what’s left of her money.”

So far, Dean has done nothing to redeem himself in Tori’s eyes. “He’s going out drinking and acting irresponsible, like some sort of overgrown frat boy,” says another close source. “He has been very insensitive toward Tori and has become verbally abusive.”

Though he did agree to start going to marriage counseling — and to go into rehab for his sex addiction — Tori’s friends believe that he’s just going through the motions. “Dean seems like he’s done,”
said the source.


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