As someone who has a dad that cheated a lot, I'm scared of one day finding out I have another sibling. However, what I'm most scared of is having another sibling and that sibling being put into the will.
I'm horribly selfish and shallow, but I've been in and out of therapy for 10 years because of him. I don't want to share with anyone but my sister, and I guess my stepmom.
That's awful. It's not their fault that their biological father abandoned them. They are every bit as entitled to their share of their father's estate as you are.
Do you realize that your dad could just leave everything to your stepmom? Or a charity? Or spend everything before he dies? I'm just saying don't get attached to something that you don't actually have yet.
I met my biological dad about 14 years ago and tbh if he had any money I truly deserve some of it for the shit he has put me through but I wouldn't ask for any of it.
Maybe I should add to justify why I feel this way: when you're the only kid who goes down to the police station when your Dad is being questioned for murdering his girlfriend you've gone above and beyond. No one else puts up with him the way I do.
I can't figure out whether it's better that you at least recognize you're being selfish and shallow, or that it's worse because you don't have the excuse of ignorant entitlement/denial/"I'm the REAL daughter that he loved" ...
As someone who has a pretty wealthy biological father, who cheated on his wife with my mom and therefore I happened, this makes me sad. My mom was a single mom. She didn't get shit for child support to raise me and ended up marrying an abusive asshole (she left him when I was 12). My biofather is abusive and I really don't have any man to call my 'father'. I've met my bio father once and he brown nosed me and then never talked to me again. I have 3 brothers and a sister and I know I'd never be in his will but I would say I deserve part of whatever he left me because I had to deal with the abandonment issues for all of my childhood, a little money is the least of what he owes me.
her half-sister is in her 30s, demi first talked to her around her 20th birthday (last august), asked her why she hadn't contacted her previously and her sister said because she didn't want demi to think she wanted anything from her, just wanted to wait to see if demi wanted a relationship with her.
I have an older sis on my dad's side whom I have no relationship with b/c she was 20 when I was born and I only saw her a couple times in my life. She grew up in Jersey while the rest of us were in Cali. But of course, black families, they're always like "you gotta talk to your sister! She's your SISTER!" and it's like, I don't, b/c I don't know her...
I'm adopted so it wasn't until I met my biological father that I learned he had all these kids with different women and I have another full brother. That's also when I learned my grandma was Afro-Caribbean and that I'm part black, up until then I was just who knows lol. It was all a huge mindfuck tbh.
I don't feel the need to talk to some of my siblings either even though my Dad tries to guilt me over it.
I'm SO afraid of finding out I have a sibling out there somewhere. My dad wasn't a bad guy but he had a lot of mental problems and there were times when he would kind of lose it, I guess. He would be gone for months sometimes and when he came back he would have to be hospitalized. He didn't start getting the help he needed until he was almost 40 and I was 12 and he died about 6 months after that (he had a blood clot in his lungs, it wasn't related to his mental issues). Like, it just fucking sucks that as soon as he was getting his life together, life is like lol no. I think I'm most afraid of having to tell them that he died and they don't get a chance to know him because as many problems as he had, he was a great dad.
I remember finding out that I had a half sibling, it was so unexpected, there were rumours however we didn't believe it but then it all changed when we visited our home country then BAM! out of nowhere she shows up and there was no denying it, she even kinda looked liked me, it was so freaky.
I found out I have a 30 something year old sister a few days before I turned 19. My mum had a baby that she gave up for adoption. It still kinda blows my mind a little. Maybe it's cause I've never met her. I do have her on facebook though and anytime she likes anything of mine(or that one time she commented on my status) I find it really fucking weird :/
(ONTD was the first person I told. Thanks to everyone that put up with my rambling that night!)
I'm horribly selfish and shallow, but I've been in and out of therapy for 10 years because of him. I don't want to share with anyone but my sister, and I guess my stepmom.
Edited at 2013-03-05 06:32 pm (UTC)
Don't let anyone live rent free in your head.
Maybe I should add to justify why I feel this way: when you're the only kid who goes down to the police station when your Dad is being questioned for murdering his girlfriend you've gone above and beyond. No one else puts up with him the way I do.
Edited at 2013-03-05 08:13 pm (UTC)
IDK my father and I always wonder what his kids would thin about me if they knew they had a sibling in the world their father abandoned.
I don't feel the need to talk to some of my siblings either even though my Dad tries to guilt me over it.
Sorry for the rant.
(ONTD was the first person I told. Thanks to everyone that put up with my rambling that night!)