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9:53 pm - 01/30/2013

To some extent, we've all done it.

Catfish Lite: Don’t Pretend You’ve Never Lied Online



Lately, the concept of "catfishing" — luring someone into an online relationship by pretending to be someone that you're not — has been surrounded by its fair share of controversy, but how controversial is it in actuality? Believe it or not, a little controlled catfishing is something that plenty of the Instant Message generation has experimented with, even if we're unwilling to admit it. Really, who hasn't tried to escape their reality by pretending to be a 17-year-old varsity baseball player in an N*SYNC chat room every now and then?

This morning's Today Show featured a segment from Dr. Phil McGraw's upcoming interview with Ronaiah Tuiasosopo. Tuiasosopo, for those of you at home, is the 22-year-old man who became a household name after being exposed by Deadspin as the man behind Lennay Kekua, the fake dead girlfriend of Notre Dame football player Manti Te'o. Tuiasosopo, who used photos of a stranger to woo Te'o online, confessed to Dr. Phil that, while Lennay Kekua was a lie, all of "her" (his) feelings were very real.

McGraw tells Today:

Here we have a young man that fell deeply, romantically in love. I asked him straight up, "Was this a romantic relationship with you?" And he says yes. I said, "Are you then therefore gay?" And he said, "When you put it that way, yes." And then he caught himself and said, "I am confused."

I still don't believe he was the voice on the voicemailCollapse )

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violue 31st-Jan-2013 04:24 am (UTC)
I try not to lie online. I am just too lazy and my memory is too shitty to keep something like that up.
raised_eyebrows 31st-Jan-2013 04:29 am (UTC)
I don't think I've ever lied as an adult for that reason. And because, who gives a fuck? Like, I have a 6'6" Swedish model boyfriend who just bought me a Mercedes Benz, so why would I even need to lie?
kurtvonnegut 31st-Jan-2013 04:30 am (UTC)
lol ia, i have no reason to lie, not that my life is a dream life or anything but i'm not a loser.
beetlebums 31st-Jan-2013 04:30 am (UTC)
lol
goofusgallant 31st-Jan-2013 05:51 am (UTC)
lol
kindafunnysad 31st-Jan-2013 05:57 am (UTC)
lol
eaglefan2011 31st-Jan-2013 04:44 am (UTC)
same
fwee_prower 31st-Jan-2013 05:27 am (UTC)
Lies
runandtelldat 31st-Jan-2013 05:32 am (UTC)
Yeah. I've gotten to point where I'm just too lazy to make the effort.
holyfrijoles_2 31st-Jan-2013 04:24 am (UTC)
I honestly don't lie about a lot except for fudging some personal details so an internet crazy won't be able to find me. I'm too lazy to keep up with multiple sockpuppets anyway.
x_brittacular 31st-Jan-2013 04:26 am (UTC)
I was a part of two communities where a girl catfished everyone and faked like she had attempted suicide to distract from it.
la_banlieue 31st-Jan-2013 04:27 am (UTC)
the dude that created catfish got expelled from my alma mater for literally punching a girl in the face. fuck him.
la_banlieue 31st-Jan-2013 04:27 am (UTC)
sorry, had to get that out.
kurtvonnegut 31st-Jan-2013 04:29 am (UTC)
before ppl ask for receipts i remember seeing them in another catfish post but didn't save them so i'll back u up here lol
redaodai 31st-Jan-2013 04:31 am (UTC)
Someone mentioned it here.

http://fourfour.typepad.com/fourfour/2010/09/catfishbullshit.html

There goes my interest in the dude.
la_banlieue 31st-Jan-2013 04:33 am (UTC)
thanks yo. :]
awkwardmumbles 31st-Jan-2013 04:31 am (UTC)
lol ontd is like in love with nev for whatever reason and i predict this comment with be the beginning of the overexposure backlash and in future posts people will start saying "HES A WOMAN ABUSER NHFT" etc as well as some racist stuff thrown in there
lanavis 31st-Jan-2013 04:48 am (UTC)
Why did he punch her in the face?
unclesamonmars 31st-Jan-2013 04:55 am (UTC)
Any details on why?
yurasama_love 31st-Jan-2013 05:42 am (UTC)
Thank you for giving me a legitimate reason to hate him other than, "I don't like his face."
cheekymonkeyboo 1st-Feb-2013 05:56 am (UTC)
well i can tell by watching CF he is a fucking try hard loser. He and the camera dude are the biggest boring wet blankets. you can tell they are fake..
spillvegas 31st-Jan-2013 04:27 am (UTC)
it's like he catfished us twice by turning out to be a total sif
ediesedgwick 31st-Jan-2013 01:48 pm (UTC)
lmao
laurie_springs 31st-Jan-2013 04:27 am (UTC)
Reading this post so far.... wtf y'all were able to go online between 11-13?

I didn't get internet rights in that sense until I was a freshman in high school....my parents decided I needed a laptop for my 'studies' lmfao

Edited at 2013-01-31 04:27 am (UTC)
cab 31st-Jan-2013 04:28 am (UTC)
i was able to go online (aol) when i was 7 or 8 didn't start the chatroom thing until was 10/11

Edited at 2013-01-31 04:31 am (UTC)
redaodai 31st-Jan-2013 04:28 am (UTC)
My parents don't know how to use the Internet at all and they never parented my online activities. They didn't even know what report cards were until I graduated college.
raised_eyebrows 31st-Jan-2013 04:30 am (UTC)
Yeah, my parents are older and don't really understand how the internet works to this day.

But...how did yours not know what report cards were??
chuk_is_dazzled 31st-Jan-2013 04:30 am (UTC)
we got our first computer when i was 10, idk what rules my parent gave lol, i was only online for like less than 2 hrs in total a day
hypnology 31st-Jan-2013 04:30 am (UTC)
We got AOL when I was 8-9, but I didn't start chatroom crap till I was 11-13 when I joined seventeen.com's message board.
sarahfer 31st-Jan-2013 04:30 am (UTC)
Hah, I am SO glad that the internet wasn't really a thing when I was in HS. Only 2 of my friends had it and it was suuuuper slow so not worth shit. /old.

The amount of time I fucking wasted on the internet between 2002-2004, LAWD what is that black hole. My online friends were more real to me than my RL friends.
tucker 31st-Jan-2013 04:30 am (UTC)
I could at my dad's house but I was rarely there

we didn't get a new modern computer and internet at my mom's house until I was 17 lol
mementox 31st-Jan-2013 04:30 am (UTC)
I was going on AOL when I was like 9 or 10, so like 1995/1996. My aunt had a computer with it and my mom would let me go on whenever we visited, and she didn't monitor me at ALL. I don't think she understood what the Internet was, lol.
booneral 31st-Jan-2013 04:32 am (UTC)
i was on aol since elementary lol oop
beetlebums 31st-Jan-2013 04:32 am (UTC)
I was 13 when we got our comp


MSN, Windows ME, and dial up


my own personal hell
awkwardmumbles 31st-Jan-2013 04:33 am (UTC)
we got the internet in 2001 when i was 11 and my only goal was to join kidscom.com so i could participate in their kidchats from 7 - 9 or something but you had to actually fax in a letter with your parents signature before you could get an account. luckily i was smarter than my parents and made new accounts with no parental controls so i could just go into the regular aol chatrooms
sadisticsidhe 31st-Jan-2013 04:34 am (UTC)
*shrug* I was new and my parents trusted me.

Though I got my privileges restricted to 1/2 a week when i was 7th grade because my religion grade dropped.

DO YOU KNOW HOW HARD IT IS TO SNEAK ONLINE WITH DIAL UP?


THIS FUCKER ALWAYS GAVE ME AWAY.
shining_starsxx 31st-Jan-2013 04:45 am (UTC)
My sister and I got a computer when we were homeschooled one year.

I used to hang out on Stacie Orrico fan forums lol
sweet_honesty 31st-Jan-2013 04:54 am (UTC)
The Internet was a new things when I was about that age so my parents were pretty ignorant to its dangers
wasabi_girl1 31st-Jan-2013 04:59 am (UTC)
the family computer was in my room since i was 8. i did wtf i wanted yo
rainaweather 31st-Jan-2013 05:00 am (UTC)
We got internet in like 2000 when I was 11 and the only thing I cared about was playing No Doubt videos that were really low quality and took forever to load. I remember my mom told me not to worry because one day internet videos would be as clear as tv. She could see into the future in ways I could not.
schexyschteve 31st-Jan-2013 05:06 am (UTC)
We got our first computer with internet when I was in the 6th grade (Christmas 1999; I was 11). They had (and still have) no idea about how the internet works, so I had no internet rules.
francesbcobain 31st-Jan-2013 03:23 pm (UTC)
my parents were fucking stupid as hell and let me have a computer in my room at like 13. smh. i talked to so many people i shouldn't have.
sihaya09 31st-Jan-2013 09:01 pm (UTC)
My family's first computer was in the kitchen, so everyone could see what was happening.
treradical 31st-Jan-2013 10:49 pm (UTC)
lmao i went on neopets in like 3rd grade
speedychi 1st-Feb-2013 04:37 am (UTC)
There was a time in 7th grade (1997ish) where I would skip school and stay home looking at porn on the Internet. I ended up stealing my moms credit card and buying a video and that's when they found out what had been going on. That's when I got restrictions on my Internet and could only go online like 30 minutes a day and only my mom could log me on or some shit. I was pisssssed >:(
williammiller 1st-Feb-2013 06:12 am (UTC)
We didn't even get a computer/internet until I was 13/14. Before then, I'd just go over to friend's houses and go online at their house.
julietislimited 31st-Jan-2013 04:28 am (UTC)
It took me years to use my real first name and I am not sure why. I mean Anna is pretty common.
tucker 31st-Jan-2013 04:28 am (UTC)
I'm honestly trying to think of a time I lied online but nothing really comes to mind

I know once when I was like 11 some guy wanted to cyber~~ with me on fucking gamesdomain.com or some shit because he thought I was a girl lol and then when we got into the private chat room he was like "so how do we do this?" and then I clicked out lol
theblackwidow 31st-Jan-2013 04:29 am (UTC)
I've never lied online. I don't see the point.
lolaburns 31st-Jan-2013 04:30 am (UTC)
if you didnt lie on aol, you werent really ont he internet

also as a joke i made an okcupid with the most generic hipster answers and a "hot" (but attainable) girl picture as an experiment. i got like over 100 messages in 24 hours from so many turds falling over themselves
kurtvonnegut 31st-Jan-2013 04:34 am (UTC)
lol okcupid. i did a social experiment and discovered i got more messages when i left my race unsaid instead of "native american/hispanic"
hershelwalker 31st-Jan-2013 04:42 am (UTC)
the thirst on okc is insane. I created a profile with NO pictures and NOTHING filled out just so I could creep on guys for okcenemies and like three of the guys I creeped on messaged me.

weirdos.

Edited at 2013-01-31 04:43 am (UTC)
sadisticsidhe 31st-Jan-2013 04:31 am (UTC)
Sure i've lied but it was mostly my age (look those communities were 18+ and I was 16, girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do) or if someone posts their pic I'd be all "wow! your hair looks super cute!"
licorrice 31st-Jan-2013 04:31 am (UTC)
Confession:
i'm rly beyonce.
bluebandit77 31st-Jan-2013 04:32 am (UTC)
i knew it!
slinky 31st-Jan-2013 05:42 am (UTC)
good luck sunday
myharu 31st-Jan-2013 04:31 am (UTC)
when I was younger I was so paranoid online so I would try to come off as androgynous as possible (I don't know why I thought this would help, I really don't understand younger me logic now), but most people just assumed I was a guy and I just went with it...

also when someone asked for my picture I always made up some lame ass lie like "my camera's broken" or "I don't have a scanner" or whatever.
kurtvonnegut 31st-Jan-2013 04:31 am (UTC)
remember that aol chat room game? scrambler? i would get so fucking intense over that.
rlmoonyk 31st-Jan-2013 04:40 am (UTC)
lmao yes!

grammaire 31st-Jan-2013 04:49 am (UTC)
I fucking love love LOVED playing trivia on AIM. I was good at it, too.
speedychi 1st-Feb-2013 04:39 am (UTC)
Wait, I remember the name, what was it again?
bluebandit77 31st-Jan-2013 04:32 am (UTC)
lol hmmm when did i lie?..i know i did but can't remember what i said..
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