8:59 am - 01/30/2013
Rihanna on Chris Brown: 'We Know Exactly What We Have Now'
'Even if it's a mistake, it's my mistake,' the pop star tells Rolling Stone
Rihanna has opened up like never before about getting back together with her ex-boyfriend, Chris Brown, and what it means for her public image. "I decided it was more important for me to be happy," she tells contributing editor Josh Eells in the new issue of Rolling Stone, out Friday, January 31st. "I wasn't going to let anybody's opinion get in the way of that. Even if it's a mistake, it's my mistake. After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I'd rather just live my truth and take the backlash. I can handle it."
The couple's public reconciliation comes less than four years since Brown assaulted Rihanna the night before the 2009 Grammy Awards. Brown plead guilty to assault and performed community service, but he remains on probation. "When you add up the pieces from the outside, it's not the cutest puzzle in the world," Rihanna says. "You see us walking somewhere, driving somewhere, in the studio, in the club, and you think you know. But it's different now. We don't have those types of arguments anymore. We talk about shit. We value each other. We know exactly what we have now, and we don't want to lose that."
And Rihanna says that if Brown were ever to display a hint of his past behavior towards her, she is ready to walk. "He doesn't have the luxury of fucking up again," she says. "That's just not an option. I can't say that nothing else will ever go wrong. But I'm pretty solid in the knowing that he's disgusted by that. And I wouldn't have gone this far if I ever thought that was a possibility."
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Rihanna has opened up like never before about getting back together with her ex-boyfriend, Chris Brown, and what it means for her public image. "I decided it was more important for me to be happy," she tells contributing editor Josh Eells in the new issue of Rolling Stone, out Friday, January 31st. "I wasn't going to let anybody's opinion get in the way of that. Even if it's a mistake, it's my mistake. After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I'd rather just live my truth and take the backlash. I can handle it."
The couple's public reconciliation comes less than four years since Brown assaulted Rihanna the night before the 2009 Grammy Awards. Brown plead guilty to assault and performed community service, but he remains on probation. "When you add up the pieces from the outside, it's not the cutest puzzle in the world," Rihanna says. "You see us walking somewhere, driving somewhere, in the studio, in the club, and you think you know. But it's different now. We don't have those types of arguments anymore. We talk about shit. We value each other. We know exactly what we have now, and we don't want to lose that."
And Rihanna says that if Brown were ever to display a hint of his past behavior towards her, she is ready to walk. "He doesn't have the luxury of fucking up again," she says. "That's just not an option. I can't say that nothing else will ever go wrong. But I'm pretty solid in the knowing that he's disgusted by that. And I wouldn't have gone this far if I ever thought that was a possibility."
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People are resaponsible for their own safety when they could have done something (which she has the means and money to do) to avoid the danger.
Chris is a grown man, stop making excuses.
True. I completely agree. I didn't say otherwise.
"Chris is the only one responsible for...putting Rihanna in danger."
Not true. Riri is responsible for putting herself in danger as well. She is not forced to be with him. Unlike many other abuse victims, she has the resources to not only leave his ass, but to also protect herself if he decides to come after her.
She is NOT responsible for him hurting her or for what he decides to do, but she IS responsible for what she decides to do, which is to stay with someone who has already beaten her bloody once before and has an obvious anger problem.
"Chris is a grown man, stop making excuses."
I am not making excuses for him.
Riri is a grown woman who is responsible for herself and her safety since she has the power and resources to leave him and ensure he can't harm her.
Stop making excuses for her.
Yes, she can in theory just 'walk out' but that's not quite how abusive relationships work.
Even women in positions of power can be manipulated and controlled by an abusive partner to the point where she might even believe she wouldn't be as successful without him or idk, that he's the only one that 'gets' the real her.
For whatever reason, poor self-esteem, a distorted perception of what 'love' is, believing the world is 'against' her etc, etc, etc she has made the choice to stay with him.
Those are the 'choices' that someone with serious issues makes, someone who perhaps believes they deserve to be hit again or thinks the person has changed. Is that a real 'choice'?
Rihanna is an adult so yeah, we can't tell her what to do but that doesn't mean that the decisions she's making are smart and that she's 'responsible' for putting herself in danger.
She can't predict when Chris will snap so how can she be 'responsible' for a situation she can't plan for?
She may have the FINANCIAL resources to leave him but does she have the emotional ones?
Doesn't look like it.
I am not blaming her for any abuse. I am merely saying that she is responsible for her own safety. She is not mentally impaired or suffering from something that would invalidate her choices.