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4:46 pm - 01/17/2013

Does Taylor Swift Hate Other Women?

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Here's everything you need to know about the growing feminist backlash against the country pop star and her music. (Contains quotes from tumblr so get ready to whine about real journalism, everyone!)


Taylor Swift may be best known for writing songs that portray her as a wholesome, virginal sweetheart who is victimized by sexualized, boyfriend-stealing "other women." Within this, there has been increasing critical discussion of the role gender-based stereotypes play in her music.

This Her Campus article sums up the issue neatly:
"Part of Taylor Swift's shtick is to slut-shame in her lyrics. In 'Better Than Revenge', she takes a swipe at a girl who apparently stole her boyfriend, 'She's an actress/But she's better known for the things that she does on the mattress.' The Queen of Wholesome often employs guilt-mongering tactics to put down the mean girl/cheerleader types who, she assures us, are more sexual than her."

Tumblr users have also noticed that Swift's lyrics frequently villify the sexuality of other women, as in this post by Sherlocks:
"As shown through her songs that feature comments about 'the other woman' this other woman is always sexually available, dresses provocatively, and is DEFINITELY NOT A VIRGIN. Because obviously, a woman's worth is based purely on the amount of sex she has had."

Sady Doyle, for the feminist magazine Bitch, says Taylor Swift organizes the women in her music into two camps:
"Teen Girls of America, here are your choices: have sex and wind up broken and sad and feeling as if you've lost 'everything you had,' or wait until your untouched vagina accumulates enough charge to make you rich and famous. Because your sexuality should never be an end in and of itself; it should be something you strategically employ to get what you want."


Here's every song Taylor Swift has written about having a romantic rival:
"Teardrops on My Guitar"
I'll bet she's beautiful, that girl he talks about
And she's got everything that I have to live without
She better hold him tight, give him all her love
Look in those beautiful eyes and know she's lucky 'cause

"Should've Said No"
I can't resist
Before you go tell me this:
Was it worth it?
Was she worth this?
You should've known that word, with what you did with her
Get back to me... (get back to me)

"Invisible"
She can't see the way your eyes
Light up when you smile.
She'll never notice how you stop and stare
Whenever she walks by.
She don't even know you,
She's never gonna love you like I want to.
She's never gonna see the light
No matter what you do.
She don't even know you.
Baby, let me love you,
She can't see the way your eyes
Light up when you smile.

"The Other Side of the Door"
And I broke down crying, was she worth this mess?
After everything and that little black dress

"You Belong with Me"
You're on the phone with your girlfriend ‒ she's upset,
She's going off about something that you said
'Cause she doesn't get your humor like I do.
I'm in the room ‒ it's a typical Tuesday night.
I'm listening to the kind of music she doesn't like.
She'll never know your story like I do.
But she wears short skirts
I wear t-shirts
She's cheer captain
And I'm on the bleachers
Dreaming about the day when you wake up and find
That what you're looking for has been here the whole time.

"Speak Now"
I sneak in and see your friends
And her snotty little family all dressed in pastel
And she is yelling at a bridesmaid
Somewhere back inside a room
Wearing a gown shaped like a pastry
She floats down the aisle like a pageant queen
But I know you wish it was me,

"Better Than Revenge"
She came along, got him alone and let's hear the applause
She took him faster than you could say "sabotage"
I never saw it coming, wouldn't have suspected it
I underestimated just who I was dealing with
She had to know the pain was beating on me like a drum
She underestimated just who she was stealing from
She's not a saint
And she's not what you think
She's an actress, whoa
She's better known
For the things that she does
On the mattress, whoa
Soon she's gonna find
Stealing other people's toys
On the playground won't
Make you many friends
She should keep in mind
She should keep in mind
There is nothing I do better than revenge
She looks at life like it's a party and she's on the list
She looks at me like I'm a trend and she's so over it
I think her ever-present frown is a little troubling
And she thinks I'm psycho 'cause I like to rhyme her name with things

"I Knew You Were Trouble"
And the saddest fear comes creeping in
That you never loved me or her, or anyone, or anything, yeah

The "other woman"-as-enemy trope is visually represented in many of Swift's music videos, as well. Tumblr user Sexistculture points out the recurrence of villains played by evil brunettes:
Taylor Swift the Product (who I'm sure varies a great deal from Taylor Swift the Person) strikes again with "Mine" which will no doubt be played 12 times an hour on every friggin' station from now until the next time she comes out with another single about being pure and innocent while wanting a boy who is an angelic being filled with light and winning his heart from the evil girl who wears colors and probably fucks.


Seven out of 15 of Taylor Swift's music videos feature brunette bad girls who use their feminine wiles to steal Taylor's Prince Charming. And what's even weirder is that sometimes, the "other woman" in a video isn't even mentioned in the accompanying song's lyrics.

"The Story of Us" — A brunette makes out with a guy in the library, unrelated to anything else in the video.
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"Teardrops on My Guitar" — The boy Taylor likes makes out with a brunette in the hallway.
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"Picture to Burn" — The boy Taylor likes is now dating an edgy-looking brunette.
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"White Horse" — The woman who tells Taylor about her boyfriend cheating is a dark-haired girl who is later implied in the video to be the "other woman."
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"We Are Never Ever Ever Getting Back Together" — Taylor's boyfriend is being groped by a brunette at a bar.
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"You Belong With Me" — The mean, popular girl is played by Taylor Swift in a black wig.
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"I Knew You Were Trouble" — There's a montage of Taylor's boyfriend making out with dark-haired girls in a nightclub.
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It's important to note that Swift doesn't think of herself as a feminist. When asked whether she considers her music empowering to women in an interview with Ramin Setoodeh of The Daily Beast, she said this:
"When people say things about me empowering women, that's an amazing compliment. It's not necessarily what I thought I was doing, because I write songs about what I feel. I think there's strength when you're baring your emotions."

In a follow-up question, Setoodeh asked whether Swift thought of herself as a feminist. This was her answer:
"I don't really think about things as guys versus girls. I never have. I was raised by parents who brought me up to think if you work as hard as guys, you can go far in life."

Swift might not think of her songs as "guys versus girls," but many of her songs make much of "girls versus girls." And that's much of the source of the backlash against a singer who actively presents herself as a role model for young women.

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Receipts and Transcript
Let's get ready to rummbbbllleeeeeeee
modern_toilet 17th-Jan-2013 11:07 pm (UTC)
i have been saying this FOREVER.

i can't DEAL with women who are like "she STOLE my boyfriend". a boyfriend cannot be stolen. he was a WILLING PARTICIPANT and he LEFT YOU. and HE is the one who should have some respect for your feelings, not some random girl who doesn't even know you.
distant_lines 17th-Jan-2013 11:07 pm (UTC)
Amen!
groundcrown 17th-Jan-2013 11:11 pm (UTC)
mte i've never understood that mentality
solsty 17th-Jan-2013 11:14 pm (UTC)
Agreed. "The other girl" is not the one who's in a relationship with you, blame your boyfriend.
devlinacardigan 17th-Jan-2013 11:15 pm (UTC)
+1
soma910 17th-Jan-2013 11:15 pm (UTC)
Yet ironically, in "You Belong To Me," she's basically trying to be the other woman. headdesk
judgmental 17th-Jan-2013 11:26 pm (UTC)
right?
nekokonneko 17th-Jan-2013 11:32 pm (UTC)
when she does it she's trying to prevent her ~soulmate~ from making the wrong choice and be with the right woman
lumosofmylife 17th-Jan-2013 11:37 pm (UTC)
Same with "Speak Now." She interrupts a wedding to tell the guy he should be marrying her instead. And looky at what we have here from the album booklet, an evil brunette!

theactualworst 17th-Jan-2013 11:45 pm (UTC)
SERIOUSLY
imnotasquirrel 18th-Jan-2013 12:37 am (UTC)
well, it's okay when SHE does it.
manicpixiegirl 17th-Jan-2013 11:15 pm (UTC)
mte! the ~other woman~ was not the one in the relationship.
licorrice 17th-Jan-2013 11:15 pm (UTC)
SERIOUSLY !
vampireweekend 17th-Jan-2013 11:17 pm (UTC)
bless this cmnt. his dumbass made the decision on his own

stop blaming the other woman
pineandapple 17th-Jan-2013 11:17 pm (UTC)
It's better for people to think it's the other way around. Then they don't feel insecure about themselves.
zharia 17th-Jan-2013 11:18 pm (UTC)
mte. where have people been for the past 3 years. taylors entry into the game was her slutshaming, c'mon now.
heylins 17th-Jan-2013 11:19 pm (UTC)
"he was a WILLING PARTICIPANT and he LEFT YOU."

fucking SERIOUSLY, i don't understand how this is so hard for some people to understand.
ohwutevernvm 17th-Jan-2013 11:22 pm (UTC)
Ain't that the truth
hera_bearrra 17th-Jan-2013 11:24 pm (UTC)
I 100% agree
jef_martel 17th-Jan-2013 11:25 pm (UTC)
you deserve an award
evett 17th-Jan-2013 11:26 pm (UTC)
ia same with husbands who cheat and the wife goes after the mistress. Unless the person they cheated with is your bff or family member. Then that is fucked up.
daydream11 17th-Jan-2013 11:32 pm (UTC)
YEP. I tell my friend this all of the time, especially because it's only about crushes. Stop hating on the girl because your crush likes her! Let the boy choose who he wants and stop acting like the other girl is some kind of ho.
itspokerface 17th-Jan-2013 11:33 pm (UTC)
Ikr.
cityxpretty 17th-Jan-2013 11:34 pm (UTC)
I've only known one person to have that mentality and I have NO idea why she felt that way. Insecurity? It's so odd. I know people think that way because society kind of taught it, but seriously, what's the root of it?

My friend got so mad at the girl who used to have a crush on her boyfriend....the other girl just thought it was funny lol.
waffle_party 17th-Jan-2013 11:35 pm (UTC)
THANK YOU!!!
hearthecity 17th-Jan-2013 11:35 pm (UTC)
lol unless it's Kristen Stewart
genbu_no_miko24 17th-Jan-2013 11:42 pm (UTC)
I agree that the man should get most of the blame, but I'm not exactly letting the other woman~ get away free of criticism.
cscgrl4life 17th-Jan-2013 11:46 pm (UTC)
I agree on this point. I can't stand when girls/my friends get mad at the other woman instead of their boyfriend who cheated on them.
dirtyknife 18th-Jan-2013 12:02 am (UTC)
Thank you. I can't stand when people automatically blame the other woman, as if the men were completely incapable of saying no.
lalaluluj 18th-Jan-2013 12:16 am (UTC)
agreed. i'm seeing a similar situation irl and i don't even know who's in the right; they're all wrong imo. in my situation, the guy, who is married, got with another girl. the wife knew this was happening and the mistress knew he was married. i'm 99% sure no one is in the right here.
victory_goddess 18th-Jan-2013 12:46 am (UTC)
This is why I hate the term "homewrecker." If your man took off with another woman, chances are the house was already in disarray.
queen_norleans 18th-Jan-2013 01:09 am (UTC)
I love this comment so fucking much.
swissbeauty23 18th-Jan-2013 01:57 am (UTC)
yes this ALWAYS pissed me off
hpxstac 18th-Jan-2013 02:02 am (UTC)
*claps* This is also what I've been saying forever. A lot of her music is either "push this girl aside because she's a whore/annoying/not me" or it's "boo fucking hoo you stole my man". Both mentalities need to end because they can be harmful in how women view one another when it comes to relationships.
avpdx 18th-Jan-2013 02:06 am (UTC)
thank you!
drawntoinsanity 18th-Jan-2013 02:46 am (UTC)
THIS
michelleantonia 18th-Jan-2013 10:10 am (UTC)
ITA, but I don't think TS is necessarily like this. As someone above me eloquently said, it's not so much Taylor vs other women, it's Taylor vs everyone lol
katanity 18th-Jan-2013 04:59 pm (UTC)
yeah to me it sounds like she puts men on a much higher pedistal than women, much more respect from her.
fantaesticbaby 18th-Jan-2013 07:36 pm (UTC)
ikr?
beatlesluv 18th-Jan-2013 07:40 pm (UTC)
This truth right now
floristry 18th-Jan-2013 08:16 pm (UTC)
best comment I've ever seen on this community
+1 trillion
supertex 18th-Jan-2013 08:33 pm (UTC)
and keep preaching it bb!
miss_kate18 19th-Jan-2013 09:05 am (UTC)
mte. Her songs should not be 'this slut stole my boyfriend' but 'my boyfriend is a cheating arsehole'.
hauntao 20th-Jan-2013 09:50 pm (UTC)
Fuck yes.
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