Like I said, all the stories and blind items I've seen lately seemed to present the issue as so one-sided with Ben as the cheater and Jen as the 'victim', so I was sympathetic to her having to endure that for the sake of her kids or whatever. If they're both fucking other people like you're saying, it's no longer a power imbalance and I don't have to feel bad for her, and I won't judge someone for having a non-traditional marriage arrangement, so "more power to them" indeed