8:40 pm - 12/12/2012

Jada Pinkett-Smith Addresses The Problems Facing Today’s Women And Men In Relationships

So Jada really went there…and I’m not mad at it.

Jada Pinkett Smith has obvious concerns about the state of relationships between men and women nowadays and has posted a long blog to her Facebook page to address them.  In her latest post, Jada talks about how the true inner beauty of a woman over time has taken a backseat to superficiality of “weaves and red bottom shoes,” while men use money as a status symbol and as a way of buying love. Jada also believes that women today have no voice and have been reduced to being just pleasure toys. She states that our culture promotes women looking good without saying anything meaningful, and men have become so frustrated with insecurity that it often leads to domestic violence in the home.  Jada also says if one person in the relationship is lost, then the entire union is doomed because the couple are supposed to balance each other out..

The war on men through the degradation of woman.

How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only. The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.

I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection. There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer. He doesn’t recognize that the create of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize. He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him four children.

When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.

Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.

May we all find our way.


traversant 13th-Dec-2012 01:56 am (UTC)
baboona 13th-Dec-2012 01:58 am (UTC)
yeah i agree with some points but lol @ this woman is the window bs
cutesiness 13th-Dec-2012 01:58 am (UTC)
because we are all ~connected~
moustacherider 13th-Dec-2012 01:58 am (UTC)

men can piss off tbh
kalie_m 13th-Dec-2012 01:58 am (UTC)
mte, tbh.
alouds 13th-Dec-2012 01:59 am (UTC)
ritzyroxie 13th-Dec-2012 02:00 am (UTC)
aprilfunk 13th-Dec-2012 02:00 am (UTC)
tundrabeast 13th-Dec-2012 02:00 am (UTC)
whiskybars 13th-Dec-2012 02:02 am (UTC)
humbug 13th-Dec-2012 02:05 am (UTC)
mfte. i really don't give a shit whether a man can "recognize his full self" or not. my rights and i are not here to help you do that?
foureyedgirl 13th-Dec-2012 02:06 am (UTC)
ectypes 13th-Dec-2012 02:09 am (UTC)
yeppity yep yep. the very beginning and very end were weirding me out. idgaf about how i affect men.
bunnycupcakes 13th-Dec-2012 02:14 am (UTC)
celtic_thistle 13th-Dec-2012 02:18 am (UTC)
Yeah I get sick of that shit tbh.
m_h_p 13th-Dec-2012 02:24 am (UTC)
I agree, but unfortunately people have always tried to degrade the idea of women's rights by saying that it's anti-man.

So many women are all "oh no, I'm not a feminist, I love men!" and so many men think that women who stand up for their rights are just whiny bitches out to get them.

What she's saying is a bit reductive, but her essential point - that degrading and disempowering one half of the population makes things worse for the other half too - is very true. Women's rights are human rights, and anyone who doesn't grasp that might not take women's rights seriously.
ladyvoldything 13th-Dec-2012 02:32 am (UTC)

it's unfortunate that connecting women's rights to ~what about the men~ is necessary, but in order to reach a lot of people and really make them think, it is. 8|
sarshine 13th-Dec-2012 03:19 am (UTC)
Well said.
quinnthevixen 13th-Dec-2012 03:56 am (UTC)
Exactly. The same could be said for all systems of opression, tbqh
queenoftea 13th-Dec-2012 05:22 am (UTC)
Yeah. If relating it to men's rights is how the issue actually gets media time, then I'm going to be okay with it.
ncc_gqmf 13th-Dec-2012 06:02 am (UTC)
ramonaflowers 13th-Dec-2012 02:25 am (UTC)
i think she was trying to connect with women who do place a very high value on the relationships they have with the men in their lives

it's not an ideal feminist message, but it's a positive one that might resonate with certain people idk
rhapsodeeinblue 13th-Dec-2012 02:35 am (UTC)
malarkiness 13th-Dec-2012 02:37 am (UTC)
Yeah, mte. :/
silly_edward 13th-Dec-2012 02:42 am (UTC)
While I agree, it shouldn't be made to seem that women's rights are all about men but you know, they play a part in women's right - this is something that society needs to collectively work on, not just one group of people.
misscrystal 13th-Dec-2012 02:48 am (UTC)
No, I think she's saying that degrading women for male benefit is ultimately a lose-lose game that degrades everyone.

i'm tired of people trying to promote women's rights by still making men feel like it's still all about them.

I get what you're saying, but the truth is that a lot of guys are perfectly fine with the status quo--with their unearned privilege, with the exploitation and objectification of women, with women being undereducated and underpaid, etc.
If we are going to achieve gender equality, both genders need to get on board.
nene718 13th-Dec-2012 03:01 am (UTC)
i think she's acknowledging the fact that men can be negatively impacted because of patriarchy too, something that isn't mentioned much. yes women are by far the biggest victims of it, but it's something that hurts everyone.
empirebird 13th-Dec-2012 03:18 am (UTC)
therealycats 13th-Dec-2012 03:38 am (UTC)
Agreed. I like Jada, and I get what she's trying to say, but...yeah. I don't know. I feel like, you know, what should be a discussion about an oppressed group often gets turned into a discussion about the oppressors.

idk if you're familiar with the whole Hawkeye Initiative that blew up on Tumblr last week (basically, drawing the character Hawkeye in the ridiculous, physically impossible poses that female comic characters get drawn in to showcase the ridiculousness to people who might not otherwise see it), and while I think it's good and I've enjoyed looking at all the submissions, I read another post about how that too is taking the focus off the female characters and putting it on a male character, and also how--depending on HOW some people are drawing Hawkeye and WHY they're amused by the images--it could also point to a deeper problem of (internalized) misogyny (viewing femininity in and of itself as ridiculous in some cases) and homophobia/heterosexism. In less than a week the Hawkeye Initiative had 10k followers on Tumblr but another blog (which I hadn't heard of), Escher Girls, had been looking at this problem for a year WITHOUT turning the focus back to men.

Like...I don't know. What is the way to get the point through about women's issues without bringing it back to how men suffer from the patriarchy? Not that they don't, but THAT shouldn't be the focus of the discussion, you know? It's like comparing sexism to racism--it's easy to do, but a) they aren't mutually exclusive and b) they involve different things and different people, so if you're trying to explain A to someone, why A is a bad thing, we need to find a way to do that without likening it to B, you know?
beatlesluv 13th-Dec-2012 05:48 am (UTC)
No disrespect to her but I completely agree w/ you
pallasdiamond 15th-Dec-2012 11:05 am (UTC)
oh7 17th-Dec-2012 12:34 am (UTC)
I saw it as women and men being equal and needing each other along with loving and respecting themselves to be the best as a society.
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