
So Jada really went there…and I’m not mad at it.
Jada Pinkett Smith has obvious concerns about the state of relationships between men and women nowadays and has posted a long blog to her Facebook page to address them. In her latest post, Jada talks about how the true inner beauty of a woman over time has taken a backseat to superficiality of “weaves and red bottom shoes,” while men use money as a status symbol and as a way of buying love. Jada also believes that women today have no voice and have been reduced to being just pleasure toys. She states that our culture promotes women looking good without saying anything meaningful, and men have become so frustrated with insecurity that it often leads to domestic violence in the home. Jada also says if one person in the relationship is lost, then the entire union is doomed because the couple are supposed to balance each other out..
The war on men through the degradation of woman.
How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only. The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.
I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection. There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer. He doesn’t recognize that the create of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize. He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him four children.
When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.
Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.
May we all find our way.
J
http://necolebitchie.com/2012/12/10/jada-pinkett-smith-addresses-the-problems-facing-todays-women-and-men-in-relationships/
Don't even give me shit about Jaden because errbody was on the bullshit before that incident.
Edited at 2012-12-13 01:57 am (UTC)
i have such a hard time equating jada with that cult though...from her writing she seems like such a fantastic human being and not at all off her rocker
this seems oddly specific. does anyone know to whom she is referring?
a lot of people in hollywood are in abusive relationships.
jk, she was the only one who i could think that has four children
men can piss off tbh
So many women are all "oh no, I'm not a feminist, I love men!" and so many men think that women who stand up for their rights are just whiny bitches out to get them.
What she's saying is a bit reductive, but her essential point - that degrading and disempowering one half of the population makes things worse for the other half too - is very true. Women's rights are human rights, and anyone who doesn't grasp that might not take women's rights seriously.
it's unfortunate that connecting women's rights to ~what about the men~ is necessary, but in order to reach a lot of people and really make them think, it is. 8|
it's not an ideal feminist message, but it's a positive one that might resonate with certain people idk
i'm tired of people trying to promote women's rights by still making men feel like it's still all about them.
I get what you're saying, but the truth is that a lot of guys are perfectly fine with the status quo--with their unearned privilege, with the exploitation and objectification of women, with women being undereducated and underpaid, etc.
If we are going to achieve gender equality, both genders need to get on board.
idk if you're familiar with the whole Hawkeye Initiative that blew up on Tumblr last week (basically, drawing the character Hawkeye in the ridiculous, physically impossible poses that female comic characters get drawn in to showcase the ridiculousness to people who might not otherwise see it), and while I think it's good and I've enjoyed looking at all the submissions, I read another post about how that too is taking the focus off the female characters and putting it on a male character, and also how--depending on HOW some people are drawing Hawkeye and WHY they're amused by the images--it could also point to a deeper problem of (internalized) misogyny (viewing femininity in and of itself as ridiculous in some cases) and homophobia/heterosexism. In less than a week the Hawkeye Initiative had 10k followers on Tumblr but another blog (which I hadn't heard of), Escher Girls, had been looking at this problem for a year WITHOUT turning the focus back to men.
Like...I don't know. What is the way to get the point through about women's issues without bringing it back to how men suffer from the patriarchy? Not that they don't, but THAT shouldn't be the focus of the discussion, you know? It's like comparing sexism to racism--it's easy to do, but a) they aren't mutually exclusive and b) they involve different things and different people, so if you're trying to explain A to someone, why A is a bad thing, we need to find a way to do that without likening it to B, you know?
No.
"I avoid interacting with the few female coworkers I have more than what is absolutely required. You never know when you'll be accused of sexual harassment or even rape. It happens everywhere and I think if you don't take your precautions it's only a matter of a short amount of time before it happens to you. Whenever I get involved in a hiring situation I will most likely pick a man over a woman. While a woman may very well be the best candidate that doesn't count for much when she's disruptive as everyone has to tip-toe around her.
I used to take the elevator at work, but now I always take the stairs. That's just a precaution I take against women who could potentially use the situation to make false accusations(you know like ripping her shirt open and running out of the elevator crying in front of a lot of witnesses and then start accusing me of attempting rape). That's just one of the many things I've ended up doing in order to stay safe. All these safety measures add up and I've never been falsely accused of anything because they've just never had the opportunity to make an accusation that could stick. I'm sure a feminist will come along one day who will just completely pull something out of her ass despite of me having an alibi or witnesses, but that will be easily dismissed I'd hope.
Since a woman's word trumps a man's word whenever he doesn't have an alibi a man just has to be very cautious. Don't let a woman be around you on her own; better safe than sorry."
does he also tell people that sexism is over? rme
being put on a mystical pedestal is degrading, objectifying, and dehumanizing too, imo.
gods are perf and no one is perf, too much pressure to strive to be
Edited at 2012-12-13 02:20 am (UTC)
Fuck that. We're all humans and we all need to treat each other with dignity and respect. Simple as.
::combing my weave::
at one point it even straight up sounds like it is about abuse?? idk
That has to be one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. Also sexist. So women are dumb, but we can control where men go? or something. What BS.
all my 9-5 flawless queens
smh
While I don't agree with their intentions, the fact that people think that there needs to be a change, is that really a bad thing?
eye's
did she not proofread her ~profound thesis before posting?
And I get that people make typos and such, but seeing as this was meant to be such a meaningful statement, you'd think she'd take 5 minutes to proofread her crap before posting.
/rage.