Damn I can't believe it's been ten years already. So excited for this, I can't wait!
And OT but I need to rant: my bf and I have been hosting two friends - a married couple - for the past few weeks while they're in between places. We didn't really want to (we're not close at all), especially since they make a lot of money and could easily have found something had they tried to look, but we didn't want to openly say no and they didn't take our hints. They're not being the best roommates, but we've tried to be cool about it. But today I found out they officially invited an old classmate of ours - a friend of theirs but someone we don't know well - to stay here as well (no clue when or for how long, I think at least a week) without asking us about it first, and I'm so angry right now. They just forwarded us the email in which they invited her, to, I guess, let us know about it! Am I overreacting or are they acting asshole-y?
you are not overreacting. what guests decide they are now hosts who can invite guests of their own to stay at your place? this isnt some wedding where you check off the +1 box. dang. whats worse is that you say they make a lot of money where they can find their own place easily. dont let the random person in and ask your 2 friends to leave asap honestly.
Maybe write back an email to the third person (since you've got their adress in the forwarded email now, right?) and tell them not to come because this wasn't cleared with you and that you disagree with this behaviour.
Then the couple should apologize or be kicked out or at least arrange for a specific day that they will leave.
Thank you! The third party seems to be a nice (and polite!) girl, as far as I can tell (we hung out at a few mutual friends' dinner parties and such), so I think/hope she wouldn't say yes without consulting us first. (She actually gave up her place to go back to the US to campaign for Obama, so just for that I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt!)
I just talked to them about it and they avoided answering me directly (apparently the forwarding was a mistake (!!) and they just invited her to be "polite" and don't think she'll accept, and, oh, they're pretty sure they asked my bf about it and he said it'd be ok - a complete and utter lie). I'm so fed up with the whole thing, we decided we're gonna have a talk with them and ask them point blank to leave at the end of December, which IMO gives them more than enough time to find a place.
Give yourself an early Christmas present and tell them to get the fuck out.
I had a friend do something similar - he was in between houses, we offered him our couch and he ended up staying for almost a year. The icing on the cake was when he borrowed my car and then lost it after a night of getting shitfaced. At that point we told him he had to be out by the end of the month.
And OT but I need to rant: my bf and I have been hosting two friends - a married couple - for the past few weeks while they're in between places. We didn't really want to (we're not close at all), especially since they make a lot of money and could easily have found something had they tried to look, but we didn't want to openly say no and they didn't take our hints. They're not being the best roommates, but we've tried to be cool about it. But today I found out they officially invited an old classmate of ours - a friend of theirs but someone we don't know well - to stay here as well (no clue when or for how long, I think at least a week) without asking us about it first, and I'm so angry right now. They just forwarded us the email in which they invited her, to, I guess, let us know about it! Am I overreacting or are they acting asshole-y?
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Don't let this randomer into your house, and if this couple don't apologise VERY nicely, give them the heave-ho too.
Maybe write back an email to the third person (since you've got their adress in the forwarded email now, right?) and tell them not to come because this wasn't cleared with you and that you disagree with this behaviour.
Then the couple should apologize or be kicked out or at least arrange for a specific day that they will leave.
I just talked to them about it and they avoided answering me directly (apparently the forwarding was a mistake (!!) and they just invited her to be "polite" and don't think she'll accept, and, oh, they're pretty sure they asked my bf about it and he said it'd be ok - a complete and utter lie). I'm so fed up with the whole thing, we decided we're gonna have a talk with them and ask them point blank to leave at the end of December, which IMO gives them more than enough time to find a place.
I had a friend do something similar - he was in between houses, we offered him our couch and he ended up staying for almost a year. The icing on the cake was when he borrowed my car and then lost it after a night of getting shitfaced. At that point we told him he had to be out by the end of the month.