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1:37 am - 11/18/2012

Union J's Jaymi--"I'm gay and I've never been happier!"



X FACTOR heart-throb (lol) Jaymi Hensley has revealed Louis Walsh encouraged him to come out.
The Union J singer sought advice from his mentor on the show, who has managed top bands Boyzone and Westlife, about making his decision.

And speaking exclusively to The Sun last night, Jaymi said: “I spoke to Louis about this and he said, ‘put it this way, both of my big boybands had a gay member in them.’ So he said it fits the formula quite well!

“Every boyband has got to have a gay one! And Louis just said ‘do it’.”
And Jaymi is delighted he did, admitting: “I’m gay and I’ve never been happier!”



His bandmates — Josh Cuthbert, George Shelley and Jamie “JJ” Hamblett — have known since Union J were formed for this year’s X Factor and are fully behind his decision.

He said: “They have always supported me with doing this. I didn’t want to do it in five years’ time when I have made money and had a career. I don’t think anyone should have to hide who they are.”

Jaymi also doesn’t believe his decision will have a negative affect on the band.

He said: “I’d love my career to take off to the heights of One Direction. But not enough people in the music industry are open about their sexuality.”

The 22-year-old, who lives in Luton with his mum, Jackie, has been in a relationship with his boyfriend, 21, for three years.

He declined to name his boyfriend, who is a hairdresser, but revealed the pair plan to marry and have kids.

Jaymi decided to come out as he wanted to be honest with the X Factor viewers who have supported him and the band.

In an exclusive interview, he said: “I came on to the show not wanting to be judged for my personal life. But people have caught wind of it and I just wanted to set the record straight. It is not a big thing for me — I came out when I was 14 to my family and friends and never had one piece of negativity. It is a brave move. There could be negative people, but they are just sad and stuck 20 years ago."

“I hope the reaction will hopefully be, ‘OK, we kind of knew, but well done on coming out’. I don’t want people to think I have hidden this to gain votes because I am so proud of who I am. I hope people respect me for being honest.”

Jaymi is not the only openly gay singer on this year’s show — joining Rylan Clark, Lucy Spraggan and Jade Ellis.

But he was inspired to make his revelation after a young fan got in touch and he hopes it will help other young people struggling with their sexuality.

He says: “I got a tweet from a boy who must have been 13 or 14 asking if the rumours that I was gay were true.

“He said he really wished I could be out because he didn’t have anyone to look up to and was finding it really hard to fit in and tell his parents. I was that kid at 14 and really wish I had someone to say it was OK to be pictured on the red carpet with a guy and be gay in a boyband. The X Factor is such a great show to show that — you’ve got such a great range of characters, especially Rylan who is so open. It was like if he can do it, why can’t I? But I’m not going to suddenly come out and do a flamboyant performance — that’s Rylan’s bag.”

Being thrust into the spotlight on The X Factor did cause Jaymi to have an awkward conversation with his boyfriend after Union J hit the town and were pictured with lots of girls.
Jaymi explains: “I got papped with six girls from Take Me Out. I woke up to my boyfriend ringing me saying, ‘I’m not being funny but what did you do in the club last night?’

Jaymi has also struck up a friendship with Rylan’s pal — Sun columnist, Katie Price.
He revealed: “I texted Katie to say I was going to come out and she said, ‘don’t you get a pink car like me!’
"I was like, ‘of course I want a pink car!’ She’s become a very good friend of mine through Rylan. I want to be able to go to gay clubs and be pictured with her and her gay friends. I want to have fun with my life.”

He was also inspired by other talent show stars such as Will Young and Joe McElderry who previously came out.

He said: “They’ve been an inspiration and hopefully I can be one too. If I can help just one kid out there, that is enough for me.



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this interview made me like him 10x more (despite not being a fan of union j), he seems like a really decent and grounded guy. and i'm so glad he's not being forced to cover it up anymore.
wearescientists 18th-Nov-2012 07:01 am (UTC)
but he wasn't with his family tho, that's all that should've mattered.
katiefitch 18th-Nov-2012 07:02 am (UTC)
idk it probably sucked for him that he had pretty openly been with his bf for 3 years and then he went on the show and the producers put out all these articles that were like "jaymi is loving his celebrity as he steps out with 6 girls after a night out!" and "jaymi reveals what he looks for in a girl!"
calcified 18th-Nov-2012 07:15 am (UTC)
That's unfair. He had to give interviews about ~what he liked in a woman~ when he's gay and in a long-term relationship. That has to feel false.
littlehayzay 18th-Nov-2012 07:16 am (UTC)
um, no...

sure being out to your family is great, but when you have to have your guard up publicly, that sucks

same thing with being closeted at any job really

empirebird 18th-Nov-2012 01:51 pm (UTC)
Are you gay? If so and just being out with your family is all that makes you happy, then fine, but that's not how it's like for all gay people. Being yourself means being yourself EVERYWHERE.
scarletfbl 18th-Nov-2012 02:33 pm (UTC)
Sometimes, not disclosing it, or having to hide it (if that's how it feels to someone) AT ALL is bad enough.
x_butterfly19_x 18th-Nov-2012 02:37 pm (UTC)
I think it's a nice soundbite the newspapers always run in these kind of stories tbh

diamond_dust06 18th-Nov-2012 03:20 pm (UTC)
This is the straightest thing that I have ever heard.
alexander2808 18th-Nov-2012 04:21 pm (UTC)
stop
rctshack 18th-Nov-2012 04:53 pm (UTC)
no... this is the exact mentality people use to not give people equal rights as well... i mean you still can have a family and have loving people around you... just not publicly.

It's a harder secret to keep and deal with in public than it is with your family. Most family will love you no matter what, most people in public will judge you instantly and dismiss you because of it.
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