mary in dress i saw at fidm
lol. I like Jon, but he is not an "absolute angel". Come on.

And she was not like the evil step mother in Cinderella. She didn't prevent him from being educated. She didn't prevent him from being trained to fight. She didn't seek him out and make him do awful tasks.

She just... ignored him.

And then one time when she was half out of her mind with grief and exhaustion she said someone mean to him.

Yes, the way she interacted with Jon is a flaw of hers, but it's part of what makes her a fully formed character.