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Matt Bomer Opens Up About Growing Up Gay



Matt Bomer knew he was gay when he was a teenager, but coming out wasn't an option.

"When I was in high school, there was no safe haven, there was no outlet for you to speak your mind," the 34-year-old White Collar star said last night at gay student advocacy group GLSEN's Respect Awards, where he and his partner, Simon Halls, were honored with the Inspiration Award. "So I did what any self-preserving 14-year-old would do—I signed up for the school play and also the football team to cover my tracks.

"When that happens, when you aren't allowed to speak about who you are, one of the most authentic parts of who you are, which is who you love or who you're attracted to, feels invisible," said Bomer, who publicly came out in February. "GLSEN gives visibility and authenticity to kids all across the country."


Halls, one of Hollywood's most powerful publicists, spoke of his and Bomer's three sons.

"Having kids teaches you so many things, and one of the things we both have learned in our parenting journey is how loving and accepting and open children's minds and hearts are," he said. "Unfortunately, in some parts of the country, some kids are taught at an early age that being different is somehow bad or wrong or worthy of ridicule…Kids aren't born to be bullies, they're taught to be bullies."

True Blood star and Bomer's Magic Mike costar, Joe Manganiello, presented the couple with the award.

"You are the example that the rest of our country needs to wake up and see in terms of equality and putting an end to the bullying epidemic and making sure that every family is respected in our schools and our society," said Manganiello, who also went to college with Bomer.

Also at the gala, which took place at the Beverly Hills Hotel, were actors Octavia Spencer, Amy Adams, Jim Parsons along with White Collar's Tim DeKay and Willie Garson as well as directors Brett Ratner, Jason Moore and Bryan Singer, out country singer Chely Wright, red carpet maven Ross Matthews and fellow honorees Bob Weinstein and Jeffrey and Marilyn Katzenberg.

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superdogbiter 7th-Oct-2012 04:22 pm (UTC)
is white collar a good show?
slacker_chic 7th-Oct-2012 04:24 pm (UTC)
yes it is really cute and just a fun watch.
grotesque_xxx 7th-Oct-2012 04:24 pm (UTC)
totally ;]
stepinsidelove 7th-Oct-2012 04:25 pm (UTC)
It's pretty good. It's nothing to get fanatic over, imo, but it's a fun time when it's on.
treebraids 7th-Oct-2012 04:27 pm (UTC)
The stans will tell you - yes, it is EGOT worthy. but, really it is an okay USA show that passes the time.
prophecypro 7th-Oct-2012 05:25 pm (UTC)
USA and TBS need to be called out for their quirky action drama shows, they do have a slight cheese about them.
browniecakemix 7th-Oct-2012 06:19 pm (UTC)
lol I doubt anyone with half a brain is under any such illusions about any USA show

but good god they are so much fun to watch
hawaii_bombay 7th-Oct-2012 09:48 pm (UTC)
I love him, but the show is not the greatest thing.
lauridsen09 7th-Oct-2012 04:29 pm (UTC)
Yeah, it's cute and easy to watch. Matt and Tim Dekay have a great on-screen/off-screen bromance going on, too. ;)
detache 7th-Oct-2012 04:33 pm (UTC)
it's not great but Matt Bomer is pretty to watch
asherlev1 7th-Oct-2012 04:55 pm (UTC)
I think it's a hard show to marathon, because it is a procedural. If you watch one to two episodes a week, yeah. I gave up on it cos I couldn't keep up. XP
iamglory 7th-Oct-2012 05:16 pm (UTC)
I could not get into it to be honest.
carma_bee 7th-Oct-2012 05:29 pm (UTC)
i really like it, it's a fun show
thishollywood 7th-Oct-2012 05:45 pm (UTC)
couldnt get past the 2nd episode. not v good imo
roguedandelion 7th-Oct-2012 06:12 pm (UTC)
its boring and hard to get into
miss_lurker 7th-Oct-2012 06:20 pm (UTC)
It's a fun, popcorn kind of show.
hawaii_bombay 7th-Oct-2012 09:44 pm (UTC)
It's cheesy but not so bad. Matt is so charming.
chuk_is_dazzled 7th-Oct-2012 04:24 pm (UTC)
joe and matt went to college together huh, did they know each other?
asmallwonder 7th-Oct-2012 04:33 pm (UTC)
yes
zere 7th-Oct-2012 04:35 pm (UTC)
I think they were buddies in college.
adriqj46 7th-Oct-2012 04:38 pm (UTC)
Yes.
shunda84 7th-Oct-2012 04:50 pm (UTC)
They have been friends for about 16 years now.
blacklicorice99 7th-Oct-2012 04:53 pm (UTC)
bff 4 evas
sessile29 7th-Oct-2012 06:07 pm (UTC)
eeeee this is so cute
_____faith 7th-Oct-2012 05:20 pm (UTC)
Same class as Quinto also, I think
kdvn 7th-Oct-2012 08:03 pm (UTC)
Matt went to high school with Lee Pace, too.
knockelles 7th-Oct-2012 04:25 pm (UTC)
He's so good looking it hurts my soul
grotesque_xxx 7th-Oct-2012 04:26 pm (UTC)
squishinator 7th-Oct-2012 04:26 pm (UTC)
he is lovely.


it worries me to think of some people i know having children now, and what if their kids are gay? It's scary and sad that children should be afraid to be whoever they are. If I ever have kids, i'm going to take a page from brangelina's handbook, just supporting their children however they are and want to be.
ellie_andrews 7th-Oct-2012 04:30 pm (UTC)
I just found out my best friend won't let her kids read Green Lantern cause he's gay. I love her so much but sometimes I question if I should still be friends with her.

But I guess someone's gotta be around to tell those kids it's ok to be gay. :\
squishinator 7th-Oct-2012 04:33 pm (UTC)
yeah really. and even if they aren't gay, its also scary to have bratty homophobic kids running around. Ahh having kids is so scary, I don't want my kid to be an asshole.
chuk_is_dazzled 7th-Oct-2012 04:39 pm (UTC)
green lantern is gay?! reading this comic now
pineandapple 7th-Oct-2012 04:42 pm (UTC)
You should question if it's okay to be friends with her.
fwee_prower 7th-Oct-2012 04:51 pm (UTC)
i'm pretty sure the gay green lantern is not even IN the green lantern comics. he's in the earth 2 comics. so your friend is an ignorant uninformed homophobic bitch
mingemonster 7th-Oct-2012 06:53 pm (UTC)
This is how I feel about one of my best friends. She's in some Christian cult and has a ton of other bizarre views from it, but she seems to be on the way out. I just hope she'll ditch the homophobia along with the creationism and speaking in tongues
_mo_mhile_gra_ 7th-Oct-2012 04:35 pm (UTC)
I have two sons. I will love and support them no matter what. I can't imagine being a parent and not doing that, you know? I'm sure I'll be disappointed in some of the things they do, and that's perfectly normal. But I will never disown or stop loving my children, period.

janeeyre 7th-Oct-2012 05:21 pm (UTC)
mte!
helloneworld 8th-Oct-2012 01:27 am (UTC)
my gay friend is afraid of having children and they become gay. his concern is that they will become gay because their parents are gay and will think that is what you should do (because it is normal) rather than be born gay

tw_31988 7th-Oct-2012 04:28 pm (UTC)
....
violue 7th-Oct-2012 04:51 pm (UTC)
lol me too

and if at some point I found out he was gay, i clearly forgot
iamglory 7th-Oct-2012 05:16 pm (UTC)
He's got a husband and kids.....
hawaii_bombay 7th-Oct-2012 09:59 pm (UTC)
Nope to the second part.
pikapika217 7th-Oct-2012 04:27 pm (UTC)
BLESS HIM and major props to his husband for being lucky enough to earn this dime. I lobe him & his fam so much that I wouldn't want to sleep with him & ruin their happiness
_dennis_csi_ 7th-Oct-2012 04:27 pm (UTC)
I usually prefer men with facial hair but I think Matt looks better as clean shaven
adriqj46 7th-Oct-2012 04:32 pm (UTC)
Agreed.
pineandapple 7th-Oct-2012 04:47 pm (UTC)
oh my God, thank you. I think I'm friends with women who want BOYS, not men. (just to say that I, too, prefer men with facial hair).
hawaii_bombay 7th-Oct-2012 09:50 pm (UTC)
He looks hot either way, but I agree, he looks better shaved.
tw_31988 7th-Oct-2012 04:27 pm (UTC)
Simon hall's soulless eyes always give me nightmares.
hawaii_bombay 7th-Oct-2012 09:51 pm (UTC)
He hit the jackpot with Matt.
squishinator 7th-Oct-2012 04:27 pm (UTC)
Also- I feel like there is a direct correlation between men being incredibly beautiful and also being gay.
tw_31988 LIES7th-Oct-2012 04:30 pm (UTC)
squishinator Re: LIES7th-Oct-2012 04:31 pm (UTC)
lol. ok not all gays are incredibly beautiful, but all incredibly beautiful men are gay. sigh.
janeeyre Re: LIES7th-Oct-2012 05:13 pm (UTC)
come on! he was beautiful in his youth.
hawaii_bombay Re: LIES7th-Oct-2012 09:51 pm (UTC)
LOL
fireprince Re: LIES7th-Oct-2012 10:53 pm (UTC)
But that's OLD John Travolta, young John was snatching wigs!
shukivengeance 7th-Oct-2012 04:28 pm (UTC)
Beautiful man, inside and out. <3
treebraids 7th-Oct-2012 04:28 pm (UTC)
I need someone else to join me in not finding him attractive.
fionaapple 7th-Oct-2012 04:32 pm (UTC)
I don't find him attractive, but I can see why others would. I also find his personality endearing.
chuk_is_dazzled 7th-Oct-2012 04:56 pm (UTC)
same
ellie_andrews 7th-Oct-2012 04:32 pm (UTC)
It's weird. I think he's ridiculously handsome but I don't die over him or anything. idk.
hawaii_bombay 7th-Oct-2012 04:33 pm (UTC)
chantemarissa 7th-Oct-2012 04:36 pm (UTC)
he's gross
halfslytherin 7th-Oct-2012 05:31 pm (UTC)
here
thishollywood 7th-Oct-2012 05:50 pm (UTC)
i can acknowledge that he has all the qualities of being conventionally attractive... but he does nothing 4 me
greencancer 7th-Oct-2012 06:12 pm (UTC)
He's beautiful and attractive but in a completely stereotypical way, so I don't really care about his looks.
therearewords 7th-Oct-2012 06:53 pm (UTC)
Too squeaky clean.
fireprince 7th-Oct-2012 10:54 pm (UTC)
I think he's very attractive, I'm just not attracted to him.
it_llbeyourname 8th-Oct-2012 12:58 am (UTC)
consider yourself joined, he looks like a cartoon/cardboard cut out from the 50s of a handsome all american guy. i think it's creepy. but he seems lovely and great
fionaapple 7th-Oct-2012 04:30 pm (UTC)
I am lucky to have been in the minority that didn't have an awful experience being gay in HS. Most people accepted me and were very open minded and if they didn't, they didn't say anything about it. I was never bullied for being gay in HS and I can't imagine it, but I hear about it so often and it shocks me.
pineandapple 7th-Oct-2012 04:48 pm (UTC)
Good for you. That's one of those things that you never hear.
chuk_is_dazzled 7th-Oct-2012 04:58 pm (UTC)
i didnt know him really really well, but one of the gay kids at my hs was like one of the popular kids, he was really nice and i didnt hear people talking bad about him behind his back. but again thats me, i wasnt with him 24/7
roguedandelion 7th-Oct-2012 06:16 pm (UTC)
Are you a lesbian? Or did you go to an alternative private school in the wealth part of a blue state?
greatestheroine 8th-Oct-2012 08:57 am (UTC)
I attended a private all-girls school run by nuns and lesbian relationships are not new to me. In the same vein (I would say), my brother attended a private all-boys school and has gotten used to gay relationships.

It's just so sad how others are just bent on giving gays and lesbians alike such hard times.
grotesque_xxx Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 04:41 pm (UTC)
_dennis_csi_ Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 04:44 pm (UTC)
omg
carrie9142 Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 05:14 pm (UTC)
omg, dead of cuteness.
pippopippo Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 05:28 pm (UTC)
The oldest boy (Kit?) looks so much like Simon!
carma_bee Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 05:41 pm (UTC)
so adorable
karrixftw Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 05:48 pm (UTC)
these pics make me cry omg
ohbubbajoan Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 04:42 pm (UTC)
aubade_saudade Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 04:42 pm (UTC)
aw he looks so tired daddy
aslighttwist Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 05:47 pm (UTC)
look at this Clark Kent looking mofo
idityna Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 07:55 pm (UTC)
awww..
how touching!
the boys are lovely , all of them
iheartfamke Re: dilf status.7th-Oct-2012 08:10 pm (UTC)
fuck me
ppeak Re: dilf status.9th-Oct-2012 01:34 am (UTC)
I remember this picture.

"Some adorable kids" my ass.
detache 7th-Oct-2012 04:42 pm (UTC)
I think a lot of bullying just comes from asshole bullies enjoying crushing the spirit of others who are "weak". in high school I knew 2-3 guys who were straight, but came off as shy/weak/too nice (aka "feminine"), etc, and as a result were constantly bullied by these complete asshole douchebags. it was so bad it was hard to watch - they were pushed/kicked around, had food thrown at them, etc.. it was disgusting.

on the other hand, there was this one guy who was very confident, outgoing, etc, and even though he was gay, he was never bullied. like he might have had minor insults/comments thrown at him, but that's something almost everyone goes through in high school.
chuk_is_dazzled 7th-Oct-2012 05:03 pm (UTC)
that last comment is how this one gay guy at my hs was. he was nice, outgoing, in theater, and was one of the popular kids. i never really heard anyone say bad things about him. but im not him so idk all he heard

eta also there was this other gay kid (he came out after hs) but he was made fun of and he was i guess "weak, nerdy, feminine" so he was like an easy target

he also annoyed the crap out of me sometimes (it nothing to do with him being gay though)

Edited at 2012-10-07 05:06 pm (UTC)
mellawe 7th-Oct-2012 05:08 pm (UTC)
In my case I have no idea what made me a target . Before the summer holidays (between grades 6 and 7 ) everything was normal and then I was not part of the group anymore . The thing that hurt the most was not getting invited to my (best) friends birthday party, and he was my direct neighbor , I could watch the party from my window .
detache 7th-Oct-2012 05:11 pm (UTC)
that's fucked up, I'm sorry to hear that. honestly if they're going to ignore you and not even talk about it they're not friends worth having anyway.
janeeyre 7th-Oct-2012 05:15 pm (UTC)
are you me? that happened to me as well.
sessile29 7th-Oct-2012 06:16 pm (UTC)
i think you also have to think about what makes a kid that confident and outgoing at that age - i would suspect a good support network. i'm sure he's caught shit, it's just that he probably had people to turn to.

whereas less confident people might have no one or actually have people at home who bag on them. it's almost like the cycle of abuse.
fireprince 7th-Oct-2012 10:59 pm (UTC)
There's a lot of truth in your comment. I remember this one guy in high school perceived me as being weak and used to pick on me and he told me because he was trying to make me stronger I was like THE FUCK?!
volt34 8th-Oct-2012 05:46 am (UTC)
Yeah. I think you're right. I'm around Matt's age (super old man). It was very different back then and totally not ok to be out. But, I never got picked on in school even after getting caught in the locker room w/ another guy once after gym class. I wasn't super outgoing, confident, etc... But, I was already ~6' 160lbs of mostly muscle in 8th grade. I was the biggest kid in my school. One kid said something to me once and I beat the crap out of him... almost wound up getting arrested for it. People probably said stuff behind my back. But, I never heard anything of it.
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