joe_pwnz_peteugh sorry for ot — 17th-Sep-2012 08:10 pm (UTC)
I really don't even know what the fuck I'm doing. Last night I made an okcupid profile and got a couple of messages today from guys here in my town. I've been talking to one off and on and he wants to meet in person and Idk what to do.
I just feel like shit right now, honestly. I know he cheated on me and everything, but I just feel like I'm betraying someone's trust in me.
joe_pwnz_peteRe: ugh sorry for ot — 17th-Sep-2012 08:47 pm (UTC)
i'm married but my husband said he's divorcing me when he gets back to our town mid-october. he pretty much already made up his mind. i don't want to get divorced but idk i feel like i need to explore what my life could be like outside of him. he has not stopped seeing his girlfriend, but i still feel like i'm betraying him somehow.
_underwhelmedRe: ugh sorry for ot — 17th-Sep-2012 08:13 pm (UTC)
your bf cheated on you, so you made an okcupid profile to get back at him? or because you are legit wondering what else is out there? or you aren't with this guy who cheated on you anymore?
saintssinRe: ugh sorry for ot — 17th-Sep-2012 08:22 pm (UTC)
If you're single and feel like you're ready to be with someone new, I'd say go for it. With that said, you don't sound very ready.
If you're still in a relationship and know the guy cheated on you, why stay? It sounds like you're just going to hurt each other. Is it REALLY worth the pain?
Is it a long distance relationship?
Finally, do what feels right, but use your brain. If you do meet the guy, remember to do so in a populated area. There's no sense in dying over a man. We aren't worth the trouble.
joliebelleRe: ugh sorry for ot — 17th-Sep-2012 09:16 pm (UTC)
were you the poster who had the husband who went out and wasn't returning your calls? Per everything you said in the comments above...go out! he betrayed your trust first and isn't willing to wait around, so why should you?
I stay out of her posts because people are too mean. She's finally doing what she wanted to do all along and people are butthurt because they felt like they'd been tricked. Can't knock a woman (especially a black woman) who's doing her own thing way outside of the norm.
nicki is a gargoyle
I just feel like shit right now, honestly. I know he cheated on me and everything, but I just feel like I'm betraying someone's trust in me.
why, tho.
If you're still in a relationship and know the guy cheated on you, why stay? It sounds like you're just going to hurt each other. Is it REALLY worth the pain?
Is it a long distance relationship?
Finally, do what feels right, but use your brain. If you do meet the guy, remember to do so in a populated area. There's no sense in dying over a man. We aren't worth the trouble.
there's is nothing wrong with waiting to sort the shit out
before taking those kind of steps either
Per everything you said in the comments above...go out! he betrayed your trust first and isn't willing to wait around, so why should you?
I think you shouldn't date now. On your date you might be bringing up some drama/not feel comfy like you already said you do.