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5:34 pm - 06/21/2012

The New Art of Coming Out In Hollywood.



If you’re a slave to the media grind, you’ve probably noticed that celebrities have stopped broadcasting their homosexuality on the cover of tabloids, like Ellen DeGeneres and Lance Bass did once upon a time.

Now, the typical coming-out arc is: celebrity lives in paper-thin closet transparent enough that many think they’re officially out. Then celebrity makes casual comment at benefit or in interview (but, not, apparently at Long Beach Pride). Then the celebrity’s low-key message is blasted across the blogosphere without them looking too desperate or activist-y.




In this week’s Entertainment Weekly cover story, Mark Harris examines the new casual method gay celebrities are using to reveal their sexuality publicly for the first time.

Even if it’s accomplished in a subordinate clause or a passing reference, coming out casually is, in its way, as activist as DeGeneres’ Time cover, although few of these actors would probably choose to label themselves as such.

The current vibe for discussing one’s sexuality is almost defiantly mellow: This is part of who I am, I don’t consider it a big deal or a crisis, and if you do, that’s not my problem. It may sound like a shrug, but it shouldn’t be mistaken for indifference. By daring anyone to overreact, the newest generation of gay public figures is making a clear statement that there is a “new normal” — and it consists of being plainspoken, clear, and truthful about who you are.

Full article here

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Thoughts? Is quietly coming out the only alternative to being outed?
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likegunfire 21st-Jun-2012 11:46 pm (UTC)
omg all of these out stars are sf boring

except wanda ofc
frickinawesome7 22nd-Jun-2012 01:05 am (UTC)
Excuse you. Jim Parsons is amazing.
ectypes 22nd-Jun-2012 01:36 am (UTC)
iamglory 22nd-Jun-2012 11:20 am (UTC)
I swear I'm the only person who hates that show.
regi_veggie 22nd-Jun-2012 11:00 pm (UTC)
ia
ffaddict89 23rd-Jun-2012 06:33 am (UTC)
I actually don't pay too much attention to this, but I didn't even know he was gay. Though I also just found out that apparently Neil Patrick Harris is too. I'm behind Idk I guess I don't care enough.

However, ia, he makes me crazy with laughter though.
sweet_honesty 22nd-Jun-2012 02:36 am (UTC)
I was going to get angry until you said except for Wanda <3
simplychristina 22nd-Jun-2012 03:15 am (UTC)
Wanda + Jane Lynch, IMO.
isntdaveone 21st-Jun-2012 11:46 pm (UTC)
hmmm, i wonder why they didn't include Matt Bomer in the cover or article??
professor_chaos 21st-Jun-2012 11:47 pm (UTC)
they include him in the magazine though
nunya_b 21st-Jun-2012 11:47 pm (UTC)
he's mentioned in the full length article
superboy 21st-Jun-2012 11:48 pm (UTC)
should've used this pic

guccipostagurl 21st-Jun-2012 11:50 pm (UTC)
SWEET BABY JESUS WITH DIABEETUS!
laserlipstick 21st-Jun-2012 11:51 pm (UTC)
there are no words to describe the noises im making now
supernature_971 21st-Jun-2012 11:52 pm (UTC)
hot
stebo 21st-Jun-2012 11:52 pm (UTC)
Strangle me while I brush your hair
mwffj 21st-Jun-2012 11:53 pm (UTC)
That's an incredibly long zipper...
green__desire 21st-Jun-2012 11:46 pm (UTC)
what is this failure of a rainbow. why would anyone have two red and oranges. god you people know nothing.
la_oceane 22nd-Jun-2012 12:01 am (UTC)
omg this bothered me so much too
disclosure 22nd-Jun-2012 12:06 am (UTC)
the one that came in the mail is a real rainbow; they added two more pictures here for some reason
_baggageclaim 22nd-Jun-2012 01:27 am (UTC)
because on the one mailed to you, they have to put the mailing address. store copies wont need that.
imaginarysheep 22nd-Jun-2012 03:18 am (UTC)
Yeah I get that a lot
makemeyoung 21st-Jun-2012 11:47 pm (UTC)
ugggghhh I will continue dreaming of the day where no one has to "come out" and people will stop caring so much. Until then, don't judge how other people come out (or don't come out). It's a very personal thing and everyone has their reasons for however they choose to do so.
sanditar 21st-Jun-2012 11:50 pm (UTC)
A+
woollymammoth 21st-Jun-2012 11:51 pm (UTC)
I will continue dreaming of the day where no one has to "come out"

This. Or if they do, that it's not treated like some kind of scandal.
evil_mom 21st-Jun-2012 11:55 pm (UTC)
Hear hear!
ohsofierce_x3 21st-Jun-2012 11:57 pm (UTC)
I came here to say the same damn thing.
beck_rocks 21st-Jun-2012 11:58 pm (UTC)
yep!
rhcp 22nd-Jun-2012 12:03 am (UTC)
i will be dreaming with you, bb.
betelgeuse 22nd-Jun-2012 12:05 am (UTC)
ia
treradical 22nd-Jun-2012 12:06 am (UTC)
mte
fauxjoy 22nd-Jun-2012 12:07 am (UTC)
hope we get there.
cluelessraf 22nd-Jun-2012 12:13 am (UTC)
I never came out. I always knew I was gay tbh, ever since elementary school I wanted to fuck them boys.
avpdx 22nd-Jun-2012 12:44 am (UTC)
UGH THANK YOU

this whole fascination with peoples sexual orientation is so irritating. like seriously, concern yourself with your own things
kwikimart 22nd-Jun-2012 12:45 am (UTC)
THIS
zminotaur 22nd-Jun-2012 12:53 am (UTC)
YES!
burntblueseason 22nd-Jun-2012 01:05 am (UTC)
Well said!
giles1985 22nd-Jun-2012 01:23 am (UTC)
I feel like that is the point the article is making - that there is not a big "coming out" announcement anymore. These celebrities just live their lives and when asked about their private lives/relationships, they are honest rather than lying/using a beard etc
simplychristina 22nd-Jun-2012 03:16 am (UTC)
MTE
rainbowren 22nd-Jun-2012 03:55 am (UTC)
Same gurl
fromahippie 22nd-Jun-2012 10:40 am (UTC)
mte
lovely_tunes 22nd-Jun-2012 11:19 am (UTC)
absolutely

i can only hope that one day my kids or grandkids can grow up in such a world where sexual preference is just another part of what people like and don't like. so what if my kids don't like eggplant?
bohhead 22nd-Jun-2012 10:21 pm (UTC)
iawtc. one day...
isntdaveone 21st-Jun-2012 11:47 pm (UTC)
derezzed 21st-Jun-2012 11:54 pm (UTC)
he's so cute <3
elite_monster 22nd-Jun-2012 12:09 am (UTC)
No one throws both women and gay men under the bus with equal vigor quite as swiftly as Andy Cohen, who has grown from a Bravotv.com blogger and occasional host of Housewives reuninons into a self-appointed Chatty Kathy, rumor-mill-churning editor-at-large of sorts, and autobiographical memorist. Yet for all his loghorrea, when a Real Housewife’s husband hanged himself last year, Cohen remained relatively tight-lipped about the network’s irresponsibility, letting the story speak for itself (in an episode whose credits, like so many Bravo shows, touted “Andrew Cohen” as executive producer).
cluelessraf 22nd-Jun-2012 12:23 am (UTC)
I think of him and Tom Ford on the same level tbh.
just_bret 22nd-Jun-2012 01:36 am (UTC)
unsource quote from vulture, much?
nicholasdee 22nd-Jun-2012 02:27 am (UTC)
rofl, no he hasn't

he was the head of development at Bravo. He ran shit. He wasn't a blogger who got a hosting job. He used to work at the today show.
jackpeyton 22nd-Jun-2012 07:14 am (UTC)
the network was not responsible.
jeru02 22nd-Jun-2012 01:21 am (UTC)
Flaming
brucelynn 21st-Jun-2012 11:48 pm (UTC)
I love Wanda Sykes sfm
angela_stjoan 21st-Jun-2012 11:48 pm (UTC)
Dude from BBT is gay? /lost
surferxchris 21st-Jun-2012 11:51 pm (UTC)
That wasn't obvious?
angela_stjoan 21st-Jun-2012 11:57 pm (UTC)
I want to say it totally was...but sometimes I hold out hope that there are some straight guys pushing 40 that look that good.

I need his skin regimen.
kennacious 21st-Jun-2012 11:48 pm (UTC)
Why is Andy Cohen on that cover? He's only considered a star in his own damn delusional head.
sooozie1982 21st-Jun-2012 11:50 pm (UTC)
Shut your whore mouth tbh
isntdaveone 21st-Jun-2012 11:51 pm (UTC)
derezzed 21st-Jun-2012 11:54 pm (UTC)
andy cohen is perfect and u will deal
stebo 21st-Jun-2012 11:54 pm (UTC)
Came here to say the same thing.
rolt_me 21st-Jun-2012 11:57 pm (UTC)
lol I was reading an article on Slate that pretty much said that: how he was basically making himself a star by using his network.
luvthatdrtywata 22nd-Jun-2012 12:01 am (UTC)
you are mistaken. he is gonna send you a signed copy of his book to set you straight.
judgmental 22nd-Jun-2012 12:48 am (UTC)
I don't even know who that is tbh
reach_the_end 22nd-Jun-2012 01:33 am (UTC)
Same here.
anidee 22nd-Jun-2012 02:09 am (UTC)
lol agreed
iamglory 22nd-Jun-2012 11:33 am (UTC)
IA
professor_chaos 21st-Jun-2012 11:48 pm (UTC)
there is a difference b/w choosing to come out in your own way which is personal for everybody and being outed by the media which is altogether a crappy thing to do

Edited at 2012-06-21 11:51 pm (UTC)
guccipostagurl 21st-Jun-2012 11:49 pm (UTC)
my GOD i hate neil patrick harris, he's a fucking ass and that guy from big bang theory perpetually creeps me out.
ritzyroxie 21st-Jun-2012 11:52 pm (UTC)
mte
woollymammoth 21st-Jun-2012 11:52 pm (UTC)
I don't like him either, he comes off really douchey.
ashley51201 21st-Jun-2012 11:55 pm (UTC)
I don't like NPH either but all my friends are so obsessed with him.
iamglory 22nd-Jun-2012 11:34 am (UTC)
Oh the gays are fucking fickle. If Charlie Sheen came out and said he was a big homo, they would all love him too!
nene718 21st-Jun-2012 11:57 pm (UTC)
everyone on my tumblr dashboard is obssessed with him. same with johnny depp and tyler oakley. if only they knew...
wincest_dean 22nd-Jun-2012 12:03 am (UTC)
ia
akasakasan 22nd-Jun-2012 12:24 am (UTC)
I love him because of Dr Horrible.
getbacknow 22nd-Jun-2012 12:24 am (UTC)
mte, i do not get NPH's appeal at all
hawaii_bombay 22nd-Jun-2012 12:35 am (UTC)
I never cared about him, but the Amy Winehouse cake (or whatever it was) made me side eye him.
tebtosca 22nd-Jun-2012 12:37 am (UTC)
My old co-worker knows NPH and says he's a "total cunt"
xkyrie_eleisonx 22nd-Jun-2012 01:01 am (UTC)
I never thought he was an asshole but I don't get his cult following at all, and I didn't care for Dr. Horrible although that's probably more my dislike for Whedon.
greenscarrf 22nd-Jun-2012 01:02 am (UTC)
he got reeeeeeeally lucky with that comeback on Harold and Kumar, because he would have been a forgotten Z-lister without it
julietislimited 22nd-Jun-2012 01:03 am (UTC)
omg someone else who hates nph?
ily.
oohasparklie 22nd-Jun-2012 01:24 am (UTC)
...good for you?
scotchsour 22nd-Jun-2012 01:43 am (UTC)
Honestly, the only time I liked NPH is when he was on Doogie Houser. I just don't say it out loud because the nation of straight women and gay men will come after me thinking I don't like him because he's gay.
andres01234 22nd-Jun-2012 02:39 am (UTC)
agree on both counts
flamed65 22nd-Jun-2012 03:22 am (UTC)
ia with both points
between_lights 22nd-Jun-2012 04:32 am (UTC)
mte. Jim Parsons seems nice enough but something about him is so creepy-looking.
fromahippie 22nd-Jun-2012 10:44 am (UTC)
i dislike him too
nowakingeye 22nd-Jun-2012 01:28 pm (UTC)
ia-i hate him. after the amy winehouse "joke" cake he is dead to me.
regi_veggie 22nd-Jun-2012 11:04 pm (UTC)
:(
starsinshapes 25th-Jun-2012 07:18 pm (UTC)
super late to this, but i am so sick of seeing him and david everywhere.
woollymammoth 21st-Jun-2012 11:50 pm (UTC)
I think the person should decide how they're going to "come out" and because it's different for every person, I don't think there's a standard way to do it.
sooozie1982 21st-Jun-2012 11:50 pm (UTC)
Love Andy Cohen tbh
isntdaveone 21st-Jun-2012 11:50 pm (UTC)
iprevail 21st-Jun-2012 11:52 pm (UTC)
groce
hawaii_bombay 22nd-Jun-2012 12:42 am (UTC)
Who is he?
angela_stjoan 22nd-Jun-2012 02:10 am (UTC)
Idk. Andy's evil twin?
anidee 22nd-Jun-2012 02:10 am (UTC)
he is serving anthony bourdain realness
between_lights 22nd-Jun-2012 04:33 am (UTC)
ew
booth 21st-Jun-2012 11:51 pm (UTC)
lol
klutzy_girl 21st-Jun-2012 11:51 pm (UTC)
Aside from Andy Cohen, I love everyone on the cover. NPH and David were so cute with the twins during "Oprah's Next Chapter".
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