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Depends on what the "painful memories" are.

Yeah, I gathered that much. I just meant she has the right to do whatever she wants depending on the painful memories.

I can see why she would, but my dad was abusive too. and I love my grandparents more than life itself.

in fact, I always considered my grampa my dad over my dad because he was so amazing. I never understood how my father was my grandparents son because they are just the most amazing people :-/

If my father put me through the shit her father did, then I probably would be estranged with that side of the family too

He was physically abusive.

Nope, sorry. People usually get estranged from their family for good reason, and trying to milk their famous relatives later on is just one more example of why they cut off contact.

I don't speak to anyone on my father's side of the family. And on my mom's side... it's limited to just my mom (semi-often) and then Facebook contact and saying hi if they're on the phone while I'm near my mom for her sisters (I don't talk to her brothers). This bullshit that you're supposed to love your family because they raised you is ridic. My father's idea of raising me was constantly belittling me and beating me whenever I did something he didn't like which was anything from not cleaning my room well enough to not eating all the mashed potatoes I put on my plate. When I got old enough to realize that was all wrong, everyone on his side of the family supported this whackjob idea that he was somehow not wrong for doing it, or I was making it all up. So, no. I'm not going to try to have Christmas dinner with grandma. I'll go be with my husband and his family and invite my mom along because there I actually feel wanted and accepted and the stress level is pretty minimal. I'd always rather do things with friends, but I do like to get together occasionally with the family that I don't mind and holidays work well for that since obligation gets you the best Christmas presents.

i can't imagine why xtina would be estranged from relatives who "reach out to star magazine" to shame her from being estranged from them.

mte

My grandmother died at 88 with her daughters, son and a few grandchildren surrounding her. She was so peaceful(i was told) and just waiting to let go, one breath and she was gone. It should be that peaceful for anyone.

But I've been on the side of having to put relatives to pasture for good reason. Christina has her reasons, good for her.

Edited at 2012-06-20 07:42 pm (UTC)

lol that whole side of the family seems attention seeking tbh
reaching out to star magazine ain't the way to mend ties

rme

Christina's paternal uncle Johann Aguilera reached out to Star magazine

...REALLY. I always think it's beyond gross when celebs' relatives do this, especially if there's tension there.

After what the shit her father pulled and put her through, I don't blame her for not wanting any contact with that side of the family. And going to the paps/tabloids with it? Yeah... very classy.

I'm sorry, but If I was estranged from everyone on my father's side of the family (which is actually pretty true), I wouldn't reach out to any of them cuz they were dying.

Yeah that may sound kinda cruel, but people are estranged for a reason.

She doesn't have to see them. My father hates his parents so I haven't seen them since I was 9 and I have no problem with that.

But why is she obligated to?

so? she doesn't owe them anything

gross. i seriously can't with families of stars who spread their dirty laundry. I'm waspy as fuck, and this is just a completely unacceptable level of making a public scene of a private matter. Can't handle it.

WASPs tend to keep family matters hush-hush...publicly and sometimes even among family members themselves. It's seen as really tacky and beneath them to air out their dirty laundry.

WASPs are notorious for keeping up appearances no matter what. Publicly putting family members on blast for whatever reason just isn't done; it's considered vulgar as hell.