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omg :(

My ex told me similar things. He said things like "well I'm a guy, I'm not going to refuse a hot older woman". He was 13.

I just realized some not so nice things about a situation I was in 8 years after the fact. If it had happened to someone else it would have been clear as day to me but because it happened to me I couldn't wrap my brain around it (and still can't tbh). Sometimes the closer you are the harder it is to see the reality of things.

she's gonna have issues when she finally figures it out

i remember things from time to time from my teen years (and childhood) that now i'd consider sexual assault but back then i didn't because i was scared of not being wanted and thought that was how relationships went with people. it scares me how vulnerable i used to be and that maybe i'm still that vulnerable and what if i don't realise it myself?

i am very conflicted with myself. :/

I feel like this about one of my sexual encounters too. When I was 17, I went over to a guy's house and we were making out and then he started asking me to do things and I kept saying no but I eventually just did it. I even said no over and over loudly and he said 'you need to quiet done and be quiet, my roommate is going to think I'm raping you' and he had me cornered so I eventually just laid there and pretended I enjoyed it. To this day idk what to consider it... years later he found me even moved to the town that I moved to hours away and started trying to talk to me and tell me that he found pregnant women ( i was then pregnant and married) sexy etc. I haven't heard from him in 3 years though thank god

I hate situations like that. D: It's so easy when you're younger to be lead into doing something you don't want to because you're afraid to, or you don't know how to say no so you just go along with it and feel horrible afterwards. :c
Sex ed that talked about how to say no and being confident in yourself when it comes to sex would be really fucking useful.

I had a very similar situation happen to me over two years. It took me a long time to admit to myself that it was absolutely rape, even though my understanding of it previously involved the things you see on television with lots of violence and saying no. I can understand why she may not identify it that way, or even refuse to identify it that way. I've had a lot of conversations with people about the idea that lots more people than we know are forced into sexual situations they don't want to be in because it's so much more socially acceptable to just say yes and not disappoint somebody, or something like that. Specifically for me, I was in a straight relationship and the guy in question used my sexuality as the incentive to essentially prove that I was straight enough to have sex with men, even though I had identified as bisexual with way more sexual experience with women. To this day, I often wonder if my sexual identity is fucked up because of that relationship.

i had a similar experience. i eventually was miraculously able to talk my way out of the situation before clothes were officially removed (i still don't know how, seriously i was so drunk and he was so cool and intimidating). of course, he then harassed me over the next year including a longass ~girls with daddy issues that'd be really pretty if they etc etc etc and desperately cling to their v-cards etc cockteases etc etc~ tangent in the middle of his graduation speech whilst staring me down (which really sucked, since it wound up causing a bit of a stir so i had to listen to speculation about it for weeks after).

but i really didn't think of it as any kind of harassment/victimization at the time - i just felt like what he'd called me tbh and like i only had myself to blame for getting in over my head with a guy who knew what he wanted.

When I was a teenager I was very very overweight - but I lost it all around 19-20, and my then boyfriend suddenly got very pushy for sex. Basically, he wouldn't talk to me at all through the evening, then would come to bed past midnight, wake me up, and force himself on me... but I never fought back, because I have so many mucked up issues regarding the way I look because I spent so long being the huge girl, etc etc.

It took me over five years to leave him, and it's only over the past year that I've realised how yuck it all was and how much it's made me devalue my body. I'm married now, but I have panic attacks if we start to have intercourse in the dark or past a certain time at night. Thank god I have the best husband in the world who never pushes, and is more than willing to hold me and just have cuddles.

Never mentioned this to anyone except my husband. Sorry if it's too much to share. Just... it was comforting to see that I'm not alone. Group hug?

Damn...

hilda was my favourite in sabrina.

neither.

rapitty rapey rape

Same :( I've loved the series for so long and this stuff is so disappointing.

IKR? Disgusted with this whole thing.

mte

I fucking hate when ppl think attempted rape means character development.
Ugh.

did they try to justify it with that, though? I saw an article a while ago where one of the guys behind this (I think) was saying that this was actually meant to make her appear more vulnerable and make players want to protect her

gross either way

Truth. Women either get fridged for a guy's drive or get abused by a guy for their drive. Can't win.

IA. For example, on BSG it always annoyed me that they gave female!Starbuck a background of abuse, whereas her older male counterpart had nothing of the kind.

Guy gets it from murdered/raped girlfriend/sister or a dead relative.

I loathe this fiction trope.

i agree with all of this, except for the "it's not even that it's sexist" part. it's lazy, yes, and it's also very sexist.

this. it gets reeeeeeeeeeeeeally gross and problematic when you consider this kind of thing in the context of media as a whole - particularly video games/comic books, and i'd add horror movies to that mix, just to fill out the "entertainment marketed mainly to young/teen boys" pile. which makes it extra disturbing - this is the image of womanhood that society feeds boys, again and again.