ONTD

I've only had sex with one person and I waited approx. 2.5 hours

if im looking for a relationship, a couple of weeks

like, 3 days. or 2.

With my current relationship I waited 3 months before having sex. As for giving/receiving oral, I can't last a week.

I usually wait a few weeks and try to have a couple of dates with someone I want to date.

I waited a for my first time but after that I just slept with a guy when I felt like it.

i really don't know. apparently my current boyfriend has a lot more restraint than me because we waited a month after becoming official and i was DYING the entire month.

A month for me too.

lost it to a guy i'd been seeing for about 6 months, but since then it's been a free for all. in the last year I've made a new policy for myself of establishing a relationship first, as that seemed to work out better! :P

my ex was such a jerk. he was my first and i was terribly nervous, so i waited a really long time before having sex with him. when i was finally ready, he denied me for a while too, saying he was nervous too and was rusty. after we'd been going out for about a year and a half he admitted that he just made me wait to piss me off, 'cause i made him wait too. because y'know, losing my virginity wasn't a big deal at all for me. :|

it was terribly underwhelming btw, as well as much of the sex we had after that.

If I think the guy is hot, I literally have no brake. Before I lost my virginity, I used to be able to stop but now I'm like LET'S GO

It depends on what I want. I usually don't see a point in bullshitting around for the sake of playing hard to get. If I wanna fuck a dude, I just fuck him and move on with my life. But in my relationship we waited almost a week before we did it.

I've only been with one guy and I waited for a year and a half, but it's because we started dating when I had just turned 15.

But now, if I were to start dating someone else for some reason, I would probably only wait two or three months.

i waited like two yrs w my first bf and first time, and then only two months with my second bf

First time I waited exactly two weeks before having sex, it felt like a century.
Other than that every person is different.

Whenever I feel like it. AKA third date haha.

I used to wait three months

The guy I lost my virginity to, I waited 6 months.
Guy after that, waited 2 months.
Guy after that, 2 dates.
Guy after that, he became my holiday fuck, and I used him on my birthday and July 4th - but I'd known him for over 10 years so, whatevs.

I really don't place a limit on myself. If I want to get it, I will get it without worrying if I should wait. I'm seeing one of my ex-boyfriends on Saturday and we're going out to dinner and then for drinks and I plan to sex him up - I haven't seen him in like 5 years, too. Oh, and he's the guy I lost my virginity too. lol Should be interesting.

I slept with my current bf on our second date...it would have been the first date, but I was on my period.
I slept with my last long-term bf really quickly too. Idk, I guess I want to find out if we're sexually compatible right away or something haha.

Well it was my first time so we waited 5 months and it coincided with his birthday.

I waited four months with my current partner, to whom I lost my virginity. I can't imagine jumping into sex right away, though. I like establishing some sort of relationship first. I guess I'm an emotional person.

in some cases a few months in others a few hours.

first time, and we waited 3 months

still a virgin lol

Depends on the guy and what I want from him. Could be a week, could be a few months.

i lost my virginity 2 weeks after meeting him. I've been with him for 2 years

It's been as long as a few months to as short as a few hours

3 weeks

a month

at least a week so i can feel "classy". Actually I've only been with a few people and I didn't wait long for any of them. A month was the longest I think, 2 dates was the shortest. Well one was just a friend one time thing so I guess that was the shortest if that counts?

Ehhh, like 2 weeks.

a month, the longest i've done was 2 months though

I am still a virgin :)

a month

An hour.

I waited a week with the guy I like, and that's probably why he doesn't like me anymore. :(

With my current bf, 1 week and some days.

still a virgin, dated a guy for one year and never gave my flower lol now i'm with this new guy we've been dating for one month but DAMN we're fucking horny, but i'll wait u.u

I've only had sex with one guy and I waited a couple of hours. As far as just messing around I waited a month.

Eh, I made a big deal about the virginity thing, but eventually said fuck it! I didn't want my next relationship to be end and it be this terrible and dramatic ordeal because it was the "guy who took my virginity", so I decided to sleep with a random guy. Well, fate said "fuck you" and I ended up becoming engaged to the guy and we are still together 4 years later.

2 months. I'm afraid of being used. plus i want to get to know the guy. I assume that a guy that stays with me for 60 days (WITHOUT GETTING ANY) must like me for me.

I've only had sex with my boyfriend and we waited 5-6 months.

i'm a virgin, but i don't feel like i would wait that long. maybe a month at the most?

a couple of hours, I guess? I've had sex with people on first dates before. I don't feel like it matters that much if you wait or do it right away.

a few hours

Well, I stayed the weekend after dating my current guy for a little over a week. fuck yeah we had sex. and yes, it was fun and comfortable and totally new for me but i loved it. and we're still together a little over a year later. stupid distance makes me miss him like crazy tho :/

this one guy i didn't even wait two days, but otherwise at least a week

6 months

I waited almost 3 years with my current fiance. We were waiting till marriage but it was too hard. Haha

But we only lasted 3 months before doing anything sexual haha Oh well. We were only 15

My virginity we waited 9 months (we were 16), but my current boyfriend it was only like...2 and a half months.

With my first boyfriend I waited three months cause we were both virgins. My current boyfriend lol we had sex before we even got together.

I feel like a prude :/ I waited like.. a year and a half to have sex with my first boyfriend (who is also my current boyfriend of 4 years)

Just sex: a couple of weeks
Relationship: a couple of months

I've only had sex with two people. The first, I made him wait like a year (we were 16 when we started dating and I wanted to wai til I could go on birth control). The second person I had sex with... lol, I honestly don't remember how long I waited? A month, maybe. I really don't see myself waiting much longer than that for the next person because sex isn't such a big deal to me anymore.

A couple of people it's been on the 2nd date, a couple of people I've waited until I really got to them know (a month or two, with my last boyfriend it ended up being more like 3).

I keep getting into weird long distance relationships where I meet someone, and then get to know them well through IM/texting and then have sex as soon as we see each other, so I don't even know how to count that. But it's annoying and i feel like I'm constantly dating my phone. I've had 3 of these in the last year!

Depends, but I don't do sex before we're a couple.

depends on how badly i need to get laid tbh, some were a few weeks, some a few days.

With my current bf I waited..oh about three/four days. I've known him for at least five years, had a crush on each other in high school, always fooled around but never dated. Life happened, I moved to the East Coast, he join the army got stationed in Hawaii. One day on skype he asked me to come to his military ball, flew me out and the rest is history. I do think it may have been too soon but considering our history I think it's ok. Plus he's hot and we both wanted it.

/CSB

It depends on the person. If I like them and want something long term, I wait about a month. If I know that it probably won't last a month, I usually wind up having sex with them within a week.

I lost my virginity about 7 hours after i first met my current fiance. lol But I was almost 22 sooo it was about time! And we're still together 3.5 years later. <3

Like, no wait at all.

i wait as long as it takes to want to do it haha

I waited a month with my first (and only) partner so far...now I'm single, so idk.

It honestly depends.

The guy I lost my virginity to, we knew each other for over a year before sleeping together. We were deeply in love. It was well worth it. I was 25 and a virgin, and he was perfect and it was a perfect experience.

My current boyfriend... we clicked so completely and so immediately that we slept together after only a few days >.> We have been together for a long time now, and although I struggle with feeling ashamed that we didn't wait longer, I adore him so much and we are so perfect for each other.

how long does it take to finish dinner?

I waited three years, before I had sex with someone I'd been dating on-and-off (though mostly off) for those three years.

I dated my current boyfriend back in 2009, and I blue-balled that dude so hard. We got back together last year, and ended up having sex...about a month into it. No regrets. And he's always telling me how, because I kept saying "no" the first time around (and for that first month, the second time around) it made him respect me so much more, and just made him want me more (in a relationship sense, not so much in the "IT JUST MAKES ME WANT IN HER PANTS MORE OMG" sense). I love him.

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I used to put out between the first night and a couple weeks, depended on the guy. Then I decided to wait until I really cared about the guy before having sex. Lo and behold, the first guy I tried that with was the only one I did that with (I waited 2 months)... 6 and 1/2 years later we're still together.

Depends on what I want out of a guy.
2 days to a month.

The first guy I was with... eh, about 3 weeks.

I had sex with my current boyfriend the first night I met him (trashy New Years hook up). 3 years later we are still having sex!

A month-ish?

Idk, I'm awkward and awful, so sex is generally better for me if I semi-know the person, but if I was caught up in the moment,I wouldn't mind doing it with someone I just met.

a few days..lol.

With my current boyfriend, we actually had sex two days before becoming a couple. Our two year anniversary is on the 22nd, so although it may not have been the best idea, it worked out.

My boyfriend and I waited about 3 weeks. We've been together for over 2 years now.

A month. Would've been 2 weeks but we couldn't find any condoms so had to wait. Most frustrating night of my liiiiiiiife.

About 2-3 weeks after I met him, I lost my virginity. We moved in together after four months. Been together going on two years now. :P

But I was 22 and ready to grow up sexually.

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Just under four years. But we were 14 when we started dating and it took awhile to recover from our traumatic Catholic upbringing.

With my ex, to whom I lost my virginity, a year and some change. I was 15 when we began dating and wanted to be on birth control. With my current boyfriend, we started out as friends with benefits. We banged because I wanted to, lol. Then a couple months later he asked me to be his girlfriend. However, we'd known each other, again, since we were 15.

5 months the first time (third meeting), a week the second (2nd meeting). But dude #2 was so attractive, can't believe I waited that long! Basically, if I feel like doing it, I'm gonna. Then again, I'm not really looking for a relationship. I'd probably wait a bit if I were.

I waited 2 weeks, we were just friends but been together for almost 4 years now.

Before getting engaged, and knowing that I wasn't into being in a serious relationship with the person I was seeing, anywhere from a few days to a few weeks.

My fiance and I had sex a couple days after the first date.

all my relationships ive had started because we had sex before we were 'official'. so i dont even know how to answer that.

first time, it was a couple months. dated that guy for 8 years so getting back into the sex swing, if you will, was awkward

luckily i had some guy friends who i hooked up with, and those just happened organically since we werent dating or anything

after that, i tried dating-dating (for the first time) and i wanted to put sex off for a few weeks but i usuallly ended up having sex the first few dates, so now i just don't think about it. it's whatever

Years. I've only been with two guys, both of them waited 4 years.

Second date. >____>

I'm not doing that shit again though.

For real. But she just talks the talk and doesn't walk the walk.

Who even knows with Gaga anymore. Really. Who even knows.

lol like you have room to talk.

ugh mte

lol WOW

Yep, smh

gaga is so pathetic

typical

she's so pressed it's actually sad

gurl i know. she's pressed that criminal is gonna be the literal definition of flawfree

why is she so insecure about it wtf

How so? What was the first time?

its just the MTN cover...

I love how a simple picture is causing such an uproar within the Britney fandom.

ugh stupid bitch

Ugh this bitch is so pressed when Britney gets ready to release a video.

LMAO more reasons for me to stay up and watch the vid tbh =D

you guys really think the world revolves around britney don't you?
like you ACTUALLY think that lady gaga is totally aware of everything that britney is doing AND wants to compete with it/ruin it?

you're all insane, quite frankly.

IA.

Agreed

tbh I think that's what fucks a lot of people up for life. Like, boys are not told that sex is meaningful when they're growing up and girls just have it beat into their heads their whole lives.

Sex has never been ~meaningful~ to me. Or emotional, even when I'm in love. For me it's just an enjoyable physical thing. Maybe I'm missing that gene. :/

mte

lol i know what are we in like fifth grade? i'm too old for that taylor swift virginal princess propaganda

I have the mindset that it's meaningful (maybe not meaningful...but something that requires trust, the kind of trust that comes from a relationship) but I want to get laid, so I am trying my damndest to get over it. I think it's stemming from insecurity though /csb

mfte

I don't think it has to be meaningful, but I think it should be a big deal.

preach

ia

lol I love this comment.

oh at this sauciness, my love

for real

iawtc

Well said.

I agree.

I hate that too. I can understand waiting because you want to trust your partner enough to be safe and honest before having sex (that's what I do, although I can't wait for more than a few months), but sex isn't some gift to give and receive.

As for that "honoring your body" bullshit, I think orgasms are a pretty good way to honor my body.

ia

iawtc.

this is a good comment

I hate that rationale, I'm a guy and I like having sex, but I also get attached when I have sex and I'm not out to bang as many people as I can jfc

perfect comment

mte!

preach sista

ia on a conceptual level, but things haven't worked out that way for me.

This so fucking much.

this

mte

VERY well said. This comment wins the post.

IA, idk what Gaga is trying to do here

agreeeed

it's more about honouring my brain. I couldn't live with the rage of having sex with a jerk.

Perfect gif usage.

a man respect a woman because she doesn't put out? LOL are we in like a fucking babysitters club or something

Idk. I think it's somewhat true, but only in that "honoring your body" doesn't necessarily mean waiting for some preset amount of time until sex becomes acceptable and not slutty.

If you're having sex because you want to have sex (and not specifically to impress/keep/etc someone), I think that's honorable enough...

17 with my boyfriend of 4 months. I don't regret it even though things ended badly.

if i was still dating the guy i lost mine to, we'd have been together for 11 years now. i was 16

thank you kind lord we aren't still together.

2006 with a boyfriend who I had been with for around 6 months. I was..uh, 15 or 16. we were together for over a year and still talk. good way to have lost it tbh.

18 after a mardi gras themed party. i went to college and it was like insta-vcard loss. with other people having sex in the same room.
it was awesome.

I had sex with a guy I was cool with because I just wanted to get it over with. I was nineteen. I am actually happy it went down like that.

i lost it at 21 with a guy i'd been with for about 4 months. it was so bad. we were together for over 2 years but i dumped him last month. (didn't have anything to do with sex, although it didn't play in his favor...)

17, high school bf, still one of my best friends to this day

After about 3 months, I was 17. I've never had sex with anyone else, and I'm still with him 5 years later! Don't regret a thing.

I lost mine November 2008, I was 16, and had been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We're still dating now, so I'm pretty happy too.

I was 15, with my bf of a few months, I don't remember the exact time frame.

i lost my virginity when i was 18 and i didn't really want to, but i felt super pressured by this guy i had been dating for two years... it hurt like hell and i still resent the guy because he knew i didn't want to but just went ahead anyway :(

Had sex when I was 17 while ditching school and getting drunk in my bathroom with a 'straight guy.'

My choices in life... ugh

I lost my virginity when I was 19. I was with the guy for 6 months.

I only lost it this year and still going out with him.

i half was, he wasn't. took 3 months until i was ready.

19 with my this guy I had been seeing for a couple of weeks. I've been with him ever since and all of our sexual experiments have been done within our relationship and I couldn't be happier.

Started dating in '06, lost it in '08. He and I are engaged and still going strong!

I was 22 with one of my exes/best friends from college who I've known for years. It's been an awesome arrangement :).

Didn't lose it yet

I was 15 and it was my first serious relationship, it was their first time too and it wasn't great but it got better.

17 with a 21 year old that I was ~so in love~ with, who was actually seeing at least two other girls and also fucked my best friend two months later. The only good part was that he had a tiny wiener, so the next few guys I was with were nice surprises.

My first time age is so embarrassing, I can't. I don't know what the fuck I was thinking at the time.

I either about to turn 17 or had just turned 17, it was with this guy I had a huge crush on.

I was 21...I had only been seeing him for about three weeks, I broke it off with him about a week after sex. He became too clingly afterward.

2010 with my current boyfriend. We waited 5 or 6 months.

15, with a close guy friend. I think we were both content getting it past us and with someone we were comfortable with and genuinely cared for. We're still real close friends to this day.

Ugh, I hated my "loss". I lost it to a guy when I was nineteen and his way of broaching the subject was, "well, let's just try it and if you don't like it, I'll just stop". He was convinced that I was a lesbian the whole time we were dating and it was just awful.

I lost my virginity at 23 to my current boyfriend. I'm happy about losing my vcard to him!

About a month ago now to this 19 year old kid who is ridiculously cute. I'm 22. I'm glad I did it with him but he's kind of a douche and is acting weird about it now cause I decided to start dating someone else. I wanted to be with him but he said "I don't wanna fall in love with the wrong person/ I don't want to hurt anyone right now / I don't want a girlfriend." So much bullshit. I do not need that in my life right now.

I was 15 when I lost it to my best friend's boyfriend's best friend. We never officially got together but we still talk occasionally and are really good friends. I don't regret it.