9:40 pm - 11/30/2009

Official: Twilight's Bella & Edward Are In An Abusive Relationship

If you've suspected that there's something unhealthy about the relationship between Bella and Edward in the phenomenally successful Twilight series, then it turns out that you're exactly right. In fact, there are fifteen examples of unhealthiness.

Livejournal user kar3ning was reminded of something after going to see New Moon recently:

According to the National Domestic Violence hotline, these are some signs that you may be in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship.

Does your partner:
* Look at you or act in ways that scare you?


* Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?

"Stay away from the werewolves. I love you."

* Make all of the decisions?


* Act like the abuse is no big deal, it's your fault, or even deny doing it?
"If I wasn't so attracted to you, I wouldn't have to break up with you."

* Threaten to commit suicide?

"I just can't live without you. In fact, I'll run to Italy and try suicide by vampire if anything happens to you."

* Threaten to kill you?

On their first date.

These are some more signs of an abusive relationship.
Has your partner...
* Tried to isolate you from family or friends.

Bella doesn't have time for anyone else!

* Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).

* Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
Does tossing her through a glass table count?

* Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.

"We're breaking up. And I'm leaving you in the forest."

* Scared you by driving recklessly.

* Forced you to leave your home.

She had to run away with him to flee from the other vampires in the first movie, and she had to drop everything and run to Italy in the second.

* Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
Check. Even in the hospital, nothing is a big deal.

* Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
Well, they are Mormon... (I know, I know, cheap shot.)

* Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
Check, wolf-boy.

Now I'm pissed. According to the NDVH, "If you answered ‘yes' to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship." This list is fifteen.

We'd be interested in hearing Stephenie Meyer's (Or even some Twihards') response to this, but somehow don't imagine that one is forthcoming.

What Do You See In Him Again? [Captain's Log]

Source: io9

lickety_split 30th-Nov-2009 05:03 pm (UTC)
There are a LOT of people who think that Romeo and Juliet had a romantic relationship. When we read it in high school I was sitting back while my classmates were talking about ~*EPIC LOVE*~ and wondering, "WTF?! DID YOU GUYS EVEN READ THIS SHIT??? THESE KIDS ARE FUCKING NUTS!!!"
fraubluecher 30th-Nov-2009 05:37 pm (UTC)
There are a lot who love it or being romantic, while it would be very bad if anyone took those two as a positive example, exactly.
mfparrish 30th-Nov-2009 07:06 pm (UTC)
Unfortunately there are people who have taken it seriously, though most have better sense. Ever hear the song "Don't Fear the Reaper"? It's about a boyfriend trying to convince his girlfriend to commit suicide with him so they can be like R&J.

LOVE your Franco Zeffirelli icon. <3
emtqueen85 30th-Nov-2009 08:50 pm (UTC)
Agreed. I don't know how that became the required reading out of all Shakespeare's plays. Why not Othello or Twelfth Night or As You Like It? All so much better. At least we got Hamlet in 12th grade.

The only way I got exposed to the better Shakespeare plays was because I did Drama and we did Othello, A Midsummer's Night Dream, and Twelfth Night.
yumi_maki 30th-Nov-2009 08:54 pm (UTC)
I thought I was the only one who felt that way. Everyone I know called it sweet and romantic and I just thought Romeo and Juliette were cracked. It's seriously one of my least favourite Shakespearean plays.
sporadicfungian 30th-Nov-2009 10:31 pm (UTC)
it's my favorite, but i agree with you that R&J themselves are more examples of poor decision making than they are of epic love... that's exactly why i love it though & i don't get people who think it's trying to be romantic (be they detractors or fans... i'm like "umm did you read the same play i did?")
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