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Official: Twilight's Bella & Edward Are In An Abusive Relationship
1 rachelle lefevre
derschatzi wrote in ohnotheydidnt

If you've suspected that there's something unhealthy about the relationship between Bella and Edward in the phenomenally successful Twilight series, then it turns out that you're exactly right. In fact, there are fifteen examples of unhealthiness.

Livejournal user kar3ning was reminded of something after going to see New Moon recently:

According to the National Domestic Violence hotline, these are some signs that you may be in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship.

Does your partner:
* Look at you or act in ways that scare you?


* Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?

"Stay away from the werewolves. I love you."

* Make all of the decisions?


* Act like the abuse is no big deal, it's your fault, or even deny doing it?
"If I wasn't so attracted to you, I wouldn't have to break up with you."

* Threaten to commit suicide?

"I just can't live without you. In fact, I'll run to Italy and try suicide by vampire if anything happens to you."

* Threaten to kill you?

On their first date.

These are some more signs of an abusive relationship.
Has your partner...
* Tried to isolate you from family or friends.

Bella doesn't have time for anyone else!

* Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).

* Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
Does tossing her through a glass table count?

* Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.

"We're breaking up. And I'm leaving you in the forest."

* Scared you by driving recklessly.

* Forced you to leave your home.

She had to run away with him to flee from the other vampires in the first movie, and she had to drop everything and run to Italy in the second.

* Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
Check. Even in the hospital, nothing is a big deal.

* Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
Well, they are Mormon... (I know, I know, cheap shot.)

* Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
Check, wolf-boy.

Now I'm pissed. According to the NDVH, "If you answered ‘yes' to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship." This list is fifteen.

We'd be interested in hearing Stephenie Meyer's (Or even some Twihards') response to this, but somehow don't imagine that one is forthcoming.

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Source: io9

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Livejournal user kar3ning
Livejournal user kar3ning
Livejournal user kar3ning

lol I should've stopped reading there. There's no Twilight news these days, so people will post about anything.

MTE. Wasn't this established a long ass time ago?

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yeah, I'm also quite emotionally constipated atm.

Oh god I burst out laughing.

lmao can't stop loling

i was scrolling and scrolling and then bam, hysterical laughter.

Actual LOLIRL and they're pretty rare...

lol irl. at a hospital and shouldn't, but lol irl.

HAHA OMG I literally lol'd irl.

that look from the "guy you alert the flight attendent about" collection.

lmao I love that commentary.

I love how his eyebrows become groomed once his eyes are huge.

lol this made me laugh so hard I spit

Knew it was coming, still LOL'd!

LMAO ty for making me c hoke on my breakfast

Yeah and this sense of abuse and control only heightens in the monstrosity called the 4th book...*headdesk*

UGH. I love Lucian, almost as much as I love Michael Sheen.

i love michael sheen because he's so sexy as lucian:)

I just watched all the Underworld movies this weekend and I can't get enough of them.

aaaah the 4th movie is going to be EPIC!!!! the sex/fuck-you-unconscious and the c-section are going to be SO AMAIZNG! BEST COMEDY EVER PEOPLE! BEST COMEDY EVER

this is brand new information.


Never fails to make me laugh!

rain is wet

sky is blue

henry cavill is hot

the pope is catholic

bahahhaa i love these GIFS


My boys make every post better.

You're my favorite person to read on here. No lie.

fail, the pope is muslim

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2009-11-30 02:48 pm (UTC)

you forgot the bear



2009-11-30 08:43 pm (UTC)

hear hear

Henry you say? Mmmmmmmmm.

unff, Henry Cavill

and btw I have 0 plans of EVER seeing New Moon but I think I'm going to see Eclipse in theaters just to hear people scream at the constant almost sex between these two assholes.

and add to the $$ that this franchise is making? bb, please DON'T.

ik, ik, that's what makes me really think it through although I do want the experience of people reacting to it :'(

pshhh bb can sneak in, point and laugh, steal some popcorn and get her ass outta thurr

SO true. I shudder to think how many idiots think Edward is 'the perfect man' - HE'S A CREEPER, SIFS. oh..AND A FICTIONAL CHARACTER.

My mother says she relates to Bella. D: D: SHUDDER TO THAT.

Lol dude, what the hell is your father like?

No offense but if that was me I would disown her.

My mother says the same thing!!! WTF

After New Moon, I turned to her and said "wasn't Bella just absolutely pathetic when Edward left her" and my mom goes "actually, it reminds me of myself after some of my worst breakups....I totally relate!" o___0

my 10-year-old cousin says that too. :%Pr

Thank god I'm not the only one who thinks he's not perfect. Also, why would you want a guy that is so absolutely perfect in every way? I would find that BORING and PREDICTABLE in a relationship.

I was just about to say I find it horrific and depressing how many young girls are going to go into young adult life LOOKING for this "ideal". I have a not quite two year old and I thank god this crap will be over by the time she's old enough to witness it....I hope.

Accurate SIF reference is accurate.

(Plus, I imagined Jerry Orbach saying it. Party. Bonus.)

I hate when people say Bella is passionate (because she reminds people of the overwhelming/obsessive nature of teen love or whatever).



He acts weirdly like her father sometimes. EUGH.

I don't know, I get more creeped out by Bella. Her obsession with Edy is a bit psychotic.

I shudder to think how many idiots think Edward is 'the perfect man'

THIS. I weep for the future because all of these stupid teenage girls are going to go out looking for an Edward and end up with an abusive asshole.

The fans will just be like, "OH MY GAWD IT'S JUST A BOOK!"

But seriously, it's all there and not to be emulated.

I agree with the fans here, even though they have a crappy taste in books.

Seriously, it's just a book and he wants to kill her, she is scared of him etc because he is a VAMPIRE. Just thought I'd mention that.

MTE! All this shit doesn't apply quite as smoothly as we'd like BECAUSE HE'S A FUCKING VAMPIRE and that certainly complicates shit to not end.

while some things are, yeah, a little too rough from his end
he can't help half of them at least


I'd agree, were it not for the fact that millions of young girls are reading it, who think that his behaviour is SOOOOOOOOO romantic, regardless of the fact that he's a vampire, which means that some of it might transfer into their real lives, because they "learn" from the interactions in the books.

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OMG! How many movies and books are there were the relationship is dysfunctional? Why focus on this dumb teenage one?! How about True Blood? That shit is FUCKED UP!

But True Blood doesn't pretend to be a fluffy epic love-story? Fucked-up stories are good stories, saying it's romantic that your boyfriend/girlfriend will kill themselves for you is just twisted. Not to mention the whole "breaking in and staring at you while you sleep" and "preventing you from seeing your friends"-thing, that's creepy-ass stalker behaviour and it shouldn't be celebrated in teenage 'literature'.

I'm sure nobody ever thought Romeo and Juliet is romantic.

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To me TB is fucked up in the same way Buffy was fucked up. Fun, but not something young girls look for in their own lives.

I think it's basically about the popularity and how many young girls and mature women publicly declare how perfect Edward is and how they want one of their own. No use railing against a dysfunctional example if there's nobody idealizing it. It's the magnitude of the adoration that makes it truly disturbing. If the fans in general saw the dysfunction and didn't make statements about longing for it in real life, nobody would give two shits about exposing it.

So because dysfunctional relationships can be found elsewhere that makes it okay?

The focus is on this one because it's so popular, especially for teens, many of whom don't have a lot of experience in relationships and knowing what's healthy and what's not. They're watching these movies and reading these books thinking how Edward and Bella are ~so romantic, not recognizing that it's abuse.

because little kids like 10 years old are going around with twilight shirts on.

True Blood doesn't attempt to pretend that its male vampire protagonist(s) are perfect and constantly points out their flaws, usually via the actions of the (heavily established) non-submissive female human protagonist.


Because tweens are reading Twilight and aspiring to its ~heights. I'm pretty sure every True Blood viewer is aware that it's not to be taken seriously.

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i would argue that the that fact that it is geared toward teenagers is the reason smeyer can get away with making this dysfunctional relationship seem "perfect". it's a shallow book for a young audience so there's always a "good" excuse for every creepy as thing edward does, because it is apparently for bella's well-being in the long run. and then the danger is in the 40 year old idiots who have unfulfilling marriages and so fall prey to that. i actually worry less about the young readers than i do about the 23+ people. when i see young twilight fans, i also see that, while they fawn over him, they're also more realistic about it.

it's the twimoms who wear the shirts that say, in essence, "edward can beat the shit out of me" (i don't remember exactly what it said, but it was like "edward can bang my head into the headboard, grip me until i bruise, etc etc") and tell their faithful husbands when they do nice things for them, "thank you for being 1/8th the man edward is."

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